Need advice

[bgerlach13]

What is the name of your state? Idaho

I am a single mom of 1 child. He is 2 weeks old. There is a paternity question and one of the fathers is deceased. He died during my pregnancy. When paternity has been established, does the deceased fathers mother have rights to my child. There wasn't a previous relationship with the mother. In fact, I don't really know her at all. I am also an exotic dancer and was wondering if that would somehow make me an unfit mother. Can she come after me? I will be returning to college this coming fall and finally getting my degree. I have about 2 yrs. left. What do I do?

 

[Zephyr]

If your child is the child of the deceased man, I can't fathom not letting the child have access to dad's family, the more loving adults and positive role models a child has, the better life is for them, this child would already be missing one parent, it would be selfish of you to not allow it to know family.

Unless you are involved with some of the less attractive habits that are often associated with exotic dancers, I don't see how your profession could automatically mean you should not have custody.

Have you requested a paternity test from the possible father who is alive?

 

[BelizeBreeze]

What is the name of your state? Idaho

I am a single mom of 1 child. He is 2 weeks old. There is a paternity question and one of the fathers is deceased. He died during my pregnancy. When paternity has been established, does the deceased fathers mother have rights to my child. There wasn't a previous relationship with the mother. In fact, I don't really know her at all. I am also an exotic dancer and was wondering if that would somehow make me an unfit mother. Can she come after me? I will be returning to college this coming fall and finally getting my degree. I have about 2 yrs. left. What do I do?

I sure hope you mean that one of the 'POTENTIAL' fathers is deceased. Otherwise you'd be a medical miracle.

And no, the grandmother (whomever she is) has no standing.

 

[seniorjudge]

What is the name of your state? Idaho

I am a single mom of 1 child. He is 2 weeks old. There is a paternity question and one of the fathers is deceased. He died during my pregnancy. When paternity has been established, does the deceased fathers mother have rights to my child. There wasn't a previous relationship with the mother. In fact, I don't really know her at all. I am also an exotic dancer and was wondering if that would somehow make me an unfit mother. Can she come after me? I will be returning to college this coming fall and finally getting my degree. I have about 2 yrs. left. What do I do?

Q: What do I do?

A: Establish paternity.

 

[Zephyr]

well put, judge

 

[nextwife]

If you can maintain a relationship with Dad's family, try to do so. My husband was also born after the death of his dad, and now that he's an adult, and his mom and stepdad are also deceased, his cousin ON HIS DAD'S side is one of his closest and only relatives. He is very glad to have that connection to the dad he never had a chance to know.

 

[shari36]

I would let fathers family be involved with the child...My son has had little contact with bio dad BUT the great grandma, Grandma, and Aunt on dads side has always tried to at least have some type of contact(letters, B-day presents, X-mas) Its really great for my son to know so many love him.
Shari

 

[akwaitress]

The more people that love your child the better for your child. I have no contact w/ my sons father I don't even know where he is. We split up when I told him I was pregnant. I have always maintained a good relationship w/ his parents however. My son just spent 2 weeks w/ them for spring break. I was cautious in the beginning as I was worried that they would cause me problems. He is now 12 and over the years it has worked out fairly well. My son has some contact w/ his father (I understand this wouldn't apply in your case) when he is there. I never mention the child support he owes ($21,000.) or ask anything about him. I never ask my son if he knows where he is. I call them my almost- in-laws. It might be a good idea to atleast meet with them and get to know them. A grandchild from a child they lost might be a blessing for them in a way that you will soon understand.