DHS Hurting more than helping families
Am so sorry for you going through this. Most people think that because dhs is involved there truly is something wrong. Have gone through my crap with them and lost custody of a daughter because I was a truck driver and they claimed I was neglecting her. It goes on and on. I wish I had an answer for you, but I don't. The wife seems to be pretty weak if she is also allowing this to happen. My husband was charged with assualt of our young daughter(he slapped her,and not very hard,I was there as well).They also charged him with assault of me. I just don't believe it at all!! We spent alot of time on money going to and from court, and not getting to see a judge even. Finally our lawyer told us to just plead no contest to one charge and they would drop the other charge, so very wrong to do but we did it on his advice. He was court appointed attorney too. Anyway this did come back to haunt us in later years.
As for you, I think the best you can do is get a legal aide attorney and fight for visitation rights. Even if you have to have supervised visitation it is better than none at all. Then as they see you get along with your daughters the judge will eventually let you have more time with them. When they took my daughter they thought I would kidnap her for some reason since I was a truck driver so they gave me 2hr supervised visits every other week. Took me a couple of years but I finally got regular visits with her, and eventually saved the money to hire an attorney and got joint custody. Because I was a truck driver they wanted me to do drug testing and the whole nine yards. So silly and discriminating too I think.
But the main thing is to get visits with the children so they do not lose out on a relationship with their father. My daughter and I love each other, but because of the enforced separation we do not have alot to say to each other. That is so wrong. DHS is suppossed to aid families not rip them apart. I want so much to start a following of people who have been hurt by those people for no reason and try and stop it from happening to other helpless families. We had no money or resources to fight and most of the people who they target are in the same position.
When I went to court over my daughter they gave me an appointed attorney who specialized in law for people buying and selling homes. The lawyer they gave my daughter was a judge who was on our side. But they got her a different lawyer for some reason not made clear to me and I never got to meet and talk with him. So all he had to go on was what DHS told the court. PLEASE do not let them railroad you and your family miss out on these years!!!
And it is an invasion of you privacy for anyone to go through your mail. From now on I would burn important things and shred up the rest!!! But I am sure there has to be a law against them doing that. You need to really contact a lawyer before your lives are really destroyed.
Best of luck to you Christopher
