purdylucky
Junior Member
What is the name of your state? alaska
My ex has just served with custody papers for my oldest boys soon to be 8 and 10. This is just another string of ploys because he is still mad at me for leaving him over 5 years ago. In 9/03 there was a search and seizure done at his residence. He had a moderatly large growing operation. He weaseled out of charges by rolling on someone else. The problem is that since the state trooper called me and told me of what happened, I told him that it would be best if the boys did not see him. Keep in mind that it was the oldest boy who came home and asked me to do something about his dad's habitual drug use. I did deny him visitation a couple of times, then he stopped calling and coming by because the boys would tell him we don't want to talk to you or see you. I did not tell them to do this.... so then he sued me for contempt, and even though he lied through his teeth, I was fined 2000 for denied visitations because I could not prove that he did in fact get caught growing. The judge also did not take the negative inference from him pleading the 5th like I have been told that he should have. Anyway. From there, I received three tickets for failure to permit visitation because I would not drag my kids from hiding and literally throw them on the porch kicking and screaming. The tickets were eventually thrown out and all I got was a 100 fine. So then, the boys would tell him I dont want to talk to you when he called and would tell him that they would not go with him when he showed up. to date it has been 8 months without any communications from him of any sort. Then on Monday, I was served custody papers. He wants full legal and physical custody even though he abandoned the boys and is behind on child support. Now my husband of 5 years and I fully support the boys, financally, medically and every other way possible. We have provided a stable home with every need being meet. I have been told by many people to not worry, but it is very hard. I guess I just need some support and reassureance.
My ex has just served with custody papers for my oldest boys soon to be 8 and 10. This is just another string of ploys because he is still mad at me for leaving him over 5 years ago. In 9/03 there was a search and seizure done at his residence. He had a moderatly large growing operation. He weaseled out of charges by rolling on someone else. The problem is that since the state trooper called me and told me of what happened, I told him that it would be best if the boys did not see him. Keep in mind that it was the oldest boy who came home and asked me to do something about his dad's habitual drug use. I did deny him visitation a couple of times, then he stopped calling and coming by because the boys would tell him we don't want to talk to you or see you. I did not tell them to do this.... so then he sued me for contempt, and even though he lied through his teeth, I was fined 2000 for denied visitations because I could not prove that he did in fact get caught growing. The judge also did not take the negative inference from him pleading the 5th like I have been told that he should have. Anyway. From there, I received three tickets for failure to permit visitation because I would not drag my kids from hiding and literally throw them on the porch kicking and screaming. The tickets were eventually thrown out and all I got was a 100 fine. So then, the boys would tell him I dont want to talk to you when he called and would tell him that they would not go with him when he showed up. to date it has been 8 months without any communications from him of any sort. Then on Monday, I was served custody papers. He wants full legal and physical custody even though he abandoned the boys and is behind on child support. Now my husband of 5 years and I fully support the boys, financally, medically and every other way possible. We have provided a stable home with every need being meet. I have been told by many people to not worry, but it is very hard. I guess I just need some support and reassureance.
