Will the kids stay there Wednesday through Friday without him? That would technically give him the majority of the week and ony two real days without him. You could take them and he could bring them home. Honestly with your ex I don't think that would work because I could see him saying I am not bringing them you have to come get them. But it is an option.
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stealth2
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I think his plan is they will go up as normal for the summer, spend M-F with stepMom and Sa/Su he'll be there. If we were talking 2-3 days a week that he'd be away, I'd tell them to suck it up and off you go. But 5 days? Our son wants to go to Scout camp with his troop - that would be a possibility. Our daughter wants to go to riding camp at the barn she rides at - that would also be possible (she went at Dad's last summer, but he signed her up at one that only catered to beginning riders. So she got nothing out of it). Those are just some examples.
I agree with you 100% about him being gone for 5 days. That is why I thought maybe Wed-Fri would only be the two days they would have to suck it up before the weekend.
Since he won't be there technically he isn't "visiting" with him. I kind of wonder if a modification for the period of his assigment could get ordered.
Since he won't be there technically he isn't "visiting" with him. I kind of wonder if a modification for the period of his assigment could get ordered.
stealth2
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That's what I'm looking at - tho I'd prefer to go through the mediator if possible as that's less confrontational. I'm really not trying to be a bitch about it - but I want the kids to be able to make the most of their summer. If that's spending the summer with their Dad - fine (and last summer they had a great time as he took them to Europe for a month - wonderful experience!).
Guess we'll see what happens.
Guess we'll see what happens.
I don't know what the wrt stood for on the first page when you referred to talking to the other side. Do you think you could talk to stepmom? As a mom and stepmom, I love my kids and spending time with them, but I refuse to have them sit in my face all summer long. I doubt seriously that stepmom has the intention of having them cooped up all week with her.
How do the children get along with stepmom? Did your ex mention her being willing to have the children or what her plans might be?
Besides being able to bond with stepmom, have another set of friends, and experience a different summer, they'd probably be talking to their father more, at least by phone (I'm going by the belief that she's not the fairy-tale evil stepmom). If he's starting this job soon, you might want to consider sending the children for spring break to see how that goes and what you can expect.
How do the children get along with stepmom? Did your ex mention her being willing to have the children or what her plans might be?
Besides being able to bond with stepmom, have another set of friends, and experience a different summer, they'd probably be talking to their father more, at least by phone (I'm going by the belief that she's not the fairy-tale evil stepmom). If he's starting this job soon, you might want to consider sending the children for spring break to see how that goes and what you can expect.
stealth2
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wrt = with respect to
As for what plans stepMom might have - not a clue. I can only go by last summer when our daughter and hers went to riding camp for one week, and her son went to soccer camp for one week. The rest of the summer (apart from their trip) seemed to be spent just dangling around.
No communication between my ex and I extends to his wife. He has forbidden her to speak with me, so I don't intend to push it.
They get along well enough, although I've heard some inklings of favoritism towards her kids. There has been a push for them to call her Mom, which they resist. I've told them that that is an issue they need to discuss with their Dad, not with me. Their stepsibs... it's not an easy relationship. They find it unsettling that the sibs call my ex Dad (who refers to their father as their ex-Dad - so I can't help but think I'm refered to as our kids' ex-Mom). It's overall a very convoluted and complex situation.
We normally split Spring Break, and I've already contacted him to see how he wants to handle it this year. And I have no problem with them spending part of the summer with their stepMom & sibs, but am not certain that 9 weeks is something that makes sense.
As for what plans stepMom might have - not a clue. I can only go by last summer when our daughter and hers went to riding camp for one week, and her son went to soccer camp for one week. The rest of the summer (apart from their trip) seemed to be spent just dangling around.
No communication between my ex and I extends to his wife. He has forbidden her to speak with me, so I don't intend to push it.
They get along well enough, although I've heard some inklings of favoritism towards her kids. There has been a push for them to call her Mom, which they resist. I've told them that that is an issue they need to discuss with their Dad, not with me. Their stepsibs... it's not an easy relationship. They find it unsettling that the sibs call my ex Dad (who refers to their father as their ex-Dad - so I can't help but think I'm refered to as our kids' ex-Mom). It's overall a very convoluted and complex situation.
We normally split Spring Break, and I've already contacted him to see how he wants to handle it this year. And I have no problem with them spending part of the summer with their stepMom & sibs, but am not certain that 9 weeks is something that makes sense.