New Info for Contempt Hearing

[Summer2018]

I had to file an ex-parte motion for a contempt hearing. My estranged wife has violated the temp parenting plan since it went into effect. Holding my oldest daughter back for months (she claims in emails that my daughter wants nothing to do with me), cancelling mediation appointments and now refusing mediation altogether. No notification of a move (just around the corner but nonetheless, I wasn't told until after the move and it was by the children) It is common to have no phone contact for 7-10 days despite the commissioner ordering her and then sternly reminding her to provide a phone for communication, and on and on. Recently, she signed our children up for spring sports. While I was happy to know this, I was not consulted at all. She made me aware when she sent me an email telling me to pay the bill. I decided to coach my youngest children in t-ball. She was furious even making a scene at the ball field. After only one practice she stopped bringing them. I found out today that she has removed them from my team and put them on another. My contempt hearing is Tuesday 5/8. Am I allowed to make the court aware of this at the hearing even though it is not in my declaration?

 

[LdiJ]

I had to file an ex-parte motion for a contempt hearing. My estranged wife has violated the temp parenting plan since it went into effect. Holding my oldest daughter back for months (she claims in emails that my daughter wants nothing to do with me), cancelling mediation appointments and now refusing mediation altogether. No notification of a move (just around the corner but nonetheless, I wasn't told until after the move and it was by the children) It is common to have no phone contact for 7-10 days despite the commissioner ordering her and then sternly reminding her to provide a phone for communication, and on and on. Recently, she signed our children up for spring sports. While I was happy to know this, I was not consulted at all. She made me aware when she sent me an email telling me to pay the bill. I decided to coach my youngest children in t-ball. She was furious even making a scene at the ball field. After only one practice she stopped bringing them. I found out today that she has removed them from my team and put them on another. My contempt hearing is Tuesday 5/8. Am I allowed to make the court aware of this at the hearing even though it is not in my declaration?

Yes, you can certainly make the court aware of that, and then you can sit back and watch the judge seriously rip her a new one. That was just plain tacky.

 

[Summer2018]

Yes, you can certainly make the court aware of that, and then you can sit back and watch the judge seriously rip her a new one. That was just plain tacky.

Thank you for your reply. Tacky is right....and then some. My children told me on Sunday that they were off the team. "Mommy sad Daddy is mean and he is not our coach" My wife's attorney called me yesterday to ask that I meet to drop their mitts off for Tuesday's practice. I told the attorney that there wasn't practice but we had a game Wednesday (today). She then told me the kids were on another team. I reminded the attorney the parenting plan states we make those decisions together. All she said was she needed to know about themitts because she had an appointment. I let the attorney know I needed all gear, including those mitts, with the children on Wednesday for the game on the team they were signed up for. She didn't agree or not agree. Just thanked me for returning the mitts. My sister-in-law came to pick up the mitts. I told her, too, that I needed the gear on Wednesday and I also mentioned the parenting plan. She responded, "You agreed to sign them up but the both of you didn't agree you would coach so you broke the rules first" I guess that gives me some insight as to how she may respond to this. IDK but this just doesn't sound like it's right. The thing is, she actually signed them up without me knowing. She sent me an email later saying, "I signed the kids up for spring sports as the requested. Please reimburse me the 70% you are supposed to. I was happy they were playing but the truth is, I was not part of the initial decision.

She is represented for the first time since this began in June 2017. I am representing myself after racking up a $18k bill since last June. (And I am not playing the victim but I am wondering if I was overcharged...that's a topic for another place and time.) There is so much to say. My declaration was jam packed with information. I look at it now and pray the commissioner isn't annoyed. Do you think it might be helpful to post more details in a new thread to possibly get some advice for the hearing on Tuesday 5/8? Her response is due today at noon. As you already know, my response needs to be effective but concise. Thank you for helping me.

 

[TheGeekess]

Do not start a new thread to discuss this situation. One is enough and provides history/background.

 

[Summer2018]

Ok. I will post some more details. Thank you.

 

[stealth2]

Honestly? You both need to grow up. IMO.

 

[Summer2018]

Stealth2 can you elaborate? I do respect all opinions however, there is a lot of history here besides what I have written. My 12 year old daughter has not been to visitation since January. She used to be in the car during the drop-off / pick-up of my other children. Now she is not. I haven't seen her eyes for over 60 days. My ex sent two emails saying "your daughter wants nothing to do with you." This is concerning. We had a close relationship prior to all of this. The constant ignoring of the parenting plan, including refusing mediation, constant visitation interruptions, and more, are getting worse and worse. I have been patient. These new events are being done after she was served for contempt. She has never followed rules anywhere. She cannot even hold a job for more than a few months. I feel I need to point these things out to the commissioner. It's so confusing to the kids. Anyway, I respect and appreciate your response. You are here to help and if you see a need for me to grow up, perhaps the commissioner will as well. So, I do welcome another response. Thank you.

 

[Summer2018]

I received the response to my motion for contempt. in short it says i failed to cite the parts of the parenting plan that were violated and to give specific dates and times so my ex did not have to respond and The notion should be dismissed. The declaration was jam packed with information and that was probably a mistake. In the document, I did have headings with the parts of the parenting plan that were violated, explained the violation and included exhibits (emails) to support the allegations. The emails have times and dates. I know none of us have crystal balls but in your experience does this look like it will be dismissed? How should i respond?