NEW need help nowhere to turn.

[Chelle0511]

yes theres fish and cefs etc but since she lived with her mother and heath and myself we all made to much for thier aide!... maybe she should have filed by herself but well i am helping as much as i can, so she wasnt lieing to them.... and im not giving up...
Believe me she tried darn near everything, i know i went with her for most of them.

~Do you and "Wednesday" have a home of your own now?

 

[midian]

Yes???... why do you ask? I mean we are renting but yes let me say that

 

[midian]

Oh yes and i do know that i seem curt sometimes but this situation has me stressed... I do appricate all the advice guys... thank you.

 

[Chelle0511]

Yes???... why do you ask? I mean we are renting but yes let me say that

~Well when I suggested FISH, CEFS, etc. you said that the family made too much money. Yet in your original post you said that "Wednesday" turned the child over to the father because of living environments and because you couldn't afford the things that the child needed due to the fact that the father was not paying child support. I guess I'm asking how both of the above qualify.

 

[midian]

well it wasnt until after we had tried to aquire aide that we gave she gave the child to the father? Sorry i thought i explained that in the first post... and yes the living environment was not good for her with all the smoking! Since i was under contract until three months later i couldnt just leave which is why it got brought up in the first place. Was it not the right thing to let the child get out of that situation? I guess what im asking is why is getting the child away from that environment not good for her. Why dont you view that as doing something better for her?

 

[Chelle0511]

well it wasnt until after we had tried to aquire aide that we gave she gave the child to the father? Sorry i thought i explained that in the first post... and yes the living environment was not good for her with all the smoking! Since i was under contract until three months later i couldnt just leave which is why it got brought up in the first place. Was it not the right thing to let the child get out of that situation? I guess what im asking is why is getting the child away from that environment not good for her. Why dont you view that as doing something better for her?

~Under contract?
I guess telling you what you should have done will not help now...but, there is government housing and additional assistance out there. I'm not keen on the idea but if that is what a mother has to do to raise her child then so be it. That would have taken the child away from smoking. Electric bill, there is a program to pay that as well, and foodstamps wood have fed the child. So, she did have a choice. So what she needs to do is get the free consulations, go to court with the attorney that you choose and work with whatever decision the judge makes. By the way I am not mean, but there is no other choice for you at this point. Good Luck!

 

[midian]

i dont buy that... and i dont think your mean sorry if i came off that way. Like i said there has to be some other option... this ass hole is not getting away with this.

 

[SMURFEELAW]

okay well so it was a bad decsion i agree.... now is there any advice you can give me as far as to help getting the child back. What we can do to prove herself a fit parent?

At this point I don't think it is about proving mom fit as much as it is proving dad unfit and what you have written thus far isn't going to prove that. The best way to prove her fit is to take care of her child financially while the child is with dad and to take care of child emotionally and financially and physically during her visitation.

 

[SMURFEELAW]

Sorry I totally thought that page two was the end of the thread. Maybe that is a sign that I have been reading these posts too much today.

 

[Graycat]

Why did you state the Father "has been a Deadbeat and still is" in your
earlier post? He is paying support, and Wed. giving it back does not
equal her supporting thier child. Is this Father a deadbeat?

 

[midian]

ummm yes he is....

he wasnt paying support until he went to the attorney generals and asked to have it removed.... obviously this is getting me no where....

 

[nextwife]

So if SHE'S not paying him support, what does that make her?

Sorry, but women are no less capable than men of earning a living. He's raising the child without getting any CS from her, isn't he?

 

[LdiJ]

This is a long thread but I would like to add something. Since dad has the child in his custody, and since the dad didn't pay child support for two years, I suspect that what the AG is collecting from dad is the arrearages rather than current support. Therefore, in my opinion, wednesday IS supporting the child if she is returning his money to him.

He would owe those arrearages even if he got custody and wednesday was ordered to pay child support. So it really isn't HIS money that she is returning to him, its hers.

I realize that the AG could also be collecting current support as well, however based on the fact that they are already in court over custody, and it was given temporarily to dad, I doubt that current support is involved at this point.