New to site - question about vacations with dd before an agreement

[krispenstpeter]

Tsk...Tsk.

My opinion of your situation still has not changed. If you want to be patted on the head get down on all fours and purr like a kitten. If you want to be treated like an adult then Listen like one.

You did what you don't want your soon-to-be ex to do. Do you think I'm the only one that finds problems with that? Two supposed adults acting like children isn't going to help this situation and frankly, I don't give a rat's ass about you or hubby.

That CHILD is all I care about. And the two of you had better grow the hell up real fast or she'll be the one suffering.

NICE? I don't give a damn about nice. Facts are facts and what your soon-to-be ex is doing and what you WANT to do is nothing more than a power struggle.

STOP IT! or let your child suffer the consequesces.

P.S. By the way, do you think the others who have a problem with what you want to do are all males? Think again

 

[stealth2]

The long and the short of it is that if the two of you can't reach an equitable agreement on custody & visitation, the court will dictate the terms to you. Neither of you are really in the driver's seat, and while you can each ask for the moon, in reality you're more likely to get only the cutout on an outhouse instead of the one in the sky.

A much better alternative would be to sit down and really think about what a fair and balanced arrangement would be - for the both of you and especially for your child. If there is something you feel reasonable for you to get to do (i.e. take kiddo to grandma's out of state), then you should realize that it is reasonable for Dad to be able to do so as well. If you want to be able to see her face opening presents on Christmas morning, you should realize that Dad likely would also like that opportunity. And so on.

Unless, of course, you prefer spending thousands of dollars in court. That's always an option. And one which may be necessary if you can't reach an agreement. But I'd suggest trying first.

 

[bellamaya]

Mi!,

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[stealth2]

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