NJ Law Regarding Living Together Eviction

[Lyn]

I think HOMEGURU is asking why is Party #2 so pissed that she refuses to leave. The fact is that she had a good man and didn't appreciate him when she had him. Basically, she dogged him out. She lived there rent and bill free!!!! So, now that the party is over, she now doesn't want to let a good thing good. I'm sure the next man won't do for her what he's done. And of course, I'm sure she doesn't want another woman to come along one day and step into what she had. She's never lived on her own and I think she's afraid to go out into the world and fend for herself (and for her son). As for IAAL, as you can see in my Topic, the state is New Jersey.

 

[CSan]

I am not a lawyer but for the ethics part I think you should sit down and have a real talk with her and consider the fact whether or not her and the child willl have a place to go once you do change those locks, you dont want to go to sleep at night wondering if they are homeless . also there are alot of things you can suggest to her that she can do to obtain housing of her own and if you can be patient a little longer give her an altermatum either she gets her act together and finds some where to live and mantain on her own or let her know you will take legal action . If she's a mother she will consider finding her own for her childs sake also you can offer to kick her out and temporarily keep the child while she is picking her self up by her boot straps ,remember if she becomes homeless that child can and will be taken from her by the state. there are many homless programs for women and children that will help her get a job and her an apartment (1) EAU -emergency assitance Unit (2) Social Services and (3) shelters for woman and children give it a thought you put up with her all this time maybe if you give her that push she will respond ,also think as if the shoe was on the other foot If you were the one with child. consider these options its better than having a long dragged out fight and once the police is involved its no telling how things will turn out .WOMAN are vendictive she might turn around and say you physically abused her then physically through her out and she has a child domestic problems that involve a child are very touchy then you will be labeled as endangering the welfare of a child . JUST THINK

 

[Lyn123]

The only reason the guy hasn't changed the locks yet is because he does not want to put the child out in the streets. He has been asking her to leave for the past 10 months and there are always excuses on her part. She has had more than enough time to save money to move (she's not paying any bills in his house). Party #1 has talked to the child's father and the father is willing to take the child until she can find a place to live, but she doesn't want to give the child to the father. The next excuse became, she doesn't want to live in an apartment, she wants to buy a house and can she have time to save for a house. Every time Party #1 tries to come up with an option that will keep him from putting her out, she refuses the option and won't leave. If she leaves she wouldn't be homeless. Her friends and family have told her to should leave and she could stay with one of them, but she's refuses their advice and assistance. I believe she's just being vendictive. I believe she won't leave, because she doesn't want him to get on with his life and he can't as long as she's there. How can you be ethically and try to work out a solution with someone who refuses to be ethically themseves. She doesn't seem to be concerning her child, when the child hears and sees what's going on. So, it's not about her child, it's about her. Sometimes you have to fight fire with fire.

 

[Tracey]

Ethics, Schmethics. When he wants her to leave, he'll kick her out. Until then, he's gonna be co-dependent. Frankly, it sounds like this situation bothers you more than him. HE obviously would rather suffer the inconvenience of houseguests than deal with the confrontation/guilt that comes with tossing them onto the street so they can go sponge off someone else. It's none of your business. Stay out of it. If you're dating this guy, then either wait until he deals with his ex or dump him & move on to someone who's got a little more self esteem.

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This is not legal advice and you are not my client. Double check everything with your own attorney and your state's laws.

 

[LegalBeagle]

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by Tracey:
Ethics, Schmethics. When he wants her to leave, he'll kick her out. Until then, he's gonna be co-dependent. Frankly, it sounds like this situation bothers you more than him. HE obviously would rather suffer the inconvenience of houseguests than deal with the confrontation/guilt that comes with tossing them onto the street so they can go sponge off someone else. It's none of your business. Stay out of it. If you're dating this guy, then either wait until he deals with his ex or dump him & move on to someone who's got a little more self esteem.
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I think I'm in love

 

[Unreal]

Is she has somewhere to go, then kick the bum out and change the locks. Or else tell your friend to buy some cloths like a rug and have her beat him.

 

[TheRook]

Tracey, that was the best advice. This guy (Party 1) has major problems if hes been putting up with this woman (Party 2) for 10 months. Lyn (Party 3) is obviously infatuated with this guy, but until he gets his spine in place, Party 2 is going to continue to be in the way.

Tell Party 1 to buy the locks and set a date. State to Party 2 that she has to be out on such and such a date. I would think a week would be ample. Party 2 has plenty of places to go and has her father to take care of the kid if she needs him. Then when party 2 goes out, change the locks, toss out the clothes, drop off kiddie at dad's etc.