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braydensmom11

Junior Member
The father has not been around or tried to come around my child. I have talked to him, but he has never said he wanted to help.
 

Zigner

Senior Member, Non-Attorney
Your "fiance" cannot adopt your child...a step-parent would be able to...but not a fiance.
 

Zigner

Senior Member, Non-Attorney
The father has not been around or tried to come around my child. I have talked to him, but he has never said he wanted to help.

Has he been determined to be the father, legally?
Has he been court-ordered to "help" (ie: child support)

If not, then he has no legal obligation what-so-ever to "help."
 

braydensmom11

Junior Member
The father was not there when my child was born, so no he is not on the birth certificate or anything. He has not been around in almost a year, so that is why my fiance wants to adopt.
 

Antigone*

Senior Member
The father was not there when my child was born, so no he is not on the birth certificate or anything. He has not been around in almost a year, so that is why my fiance wants to adopt.

Once your fiance becomes a husband, and then after you give it a year or two, then get an attorney to help you through the process.

Ask your fiance this question: Would you be willing to pay child support for "our" child if we ever get divorced?"
 

Zigner

Senior Member, Non-Attorney
The father was not there when my child was born, so no he is not on the birth certificate or anything. He has not been around in almost a year, so that is why my fiance wants to adopt.

Then don't complain about the purported father not "helping". You have done nothing that would require him to "help." He is not the legal father, thus he has no legal obligation.
 

ecmst12

Senior Member
Even if the biological father was deceased, it's unlikely your fiance would be able to adopt before you were married for a few years.

What you COULD do right now is file in court to establish paternity and child support and maybe even visitation. Then the father would be legally obligated to provide support, and likely his wages could be garnished (you did not post your state) if he did not pay voluntarily. Some states even garnish wages automatically without giving the NCP the option to pay voluntarily.
 

mistoffolees

Senior Member
Your "fiance" cannot adopt your child...a step-parent would be able to...but not a fiance.

MIGHT be able to. Mom would probably still have to serve the potential father(s) and he would have the chance to object. Since he has not been entirely absent (OP says he has seen the child within the past year), it's not a slam-dunk by any means.

Once your fiance becomes a husband, and then after you give it a year or two, then get an attorney to help you through the process.

Ask your fiance this question: Would you be willing to pay child support for "our" child if we ever get divorced?"

And OP needs to ask herself this question: "If you and fiance/husband were to split up later, would you be OK with the fact that he might be the one to get custody of the child?"
 

Silverplum

Senior Member
If your fiance adopted your child, you realize it would no longer be your child don't you?

You realize you don't know enough about family law to be posting anything other than questions about your own situation, don't you?

This post of yours I just quoted, and others, are just legal nonsense. :rolleyes::rolleyes::rolleyes:
 

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