No Justice Please Help

[LdiJ]

I have absolutely no idea what is being asked here... User names? IMs?

I honestly don't know what you are being asked either.

In any case...if by "sole custody" your son is hoping for no visitation for mom...or that he gets to decide visitation....then that is unlikely to fly. Even with sole custody mom's going to get a specific visitation schedule.

You need to check with the court clerk to see how many days in advance mom needs to be served....its very possible that your son doesn't have enough time before this next court date to serve mom.

You also need to be prepared for the fact that she may possibly run again...as soon as she gets served.

 

[BL]

dos8395 - got your email.
Replied - check your email.

Regards,
DG

This Is what I'm asking .

When members E-mail each other ,then come back and post , we on the thread have no idea what was typed .

Who is guardian Angle ?

Who is Virginia ?

 

[dos8395]

This Is what I'm asking .

When members E-mail each other ,then come back and post , we on the thread have no idea what was typed .

Who is guardian Angle ?

Who is Virginia ?

Virginia is the "appropriate state".

A guardian Angel is just that. Angels looking after us; we've stumbled across the hide out address

I believe my questions were clear, but it is hard to wrap my mind around things right now!

 

[dos8395]

Sole Custody

Virginia (appropriate state! )

There might not be time "to serve". If not, then the 7/21 court case will be cancelled & then sole custody reapplied for.

Judge was ready to grant sole custody (supervised visits to mom) but mom hadn't been properly served... So, better to wait a little longer than act hastily & mess things up.

We know mom might run again. But if she does, that's just her shooting herself in the foot!

 

[BL]

Virginia is the "appropriate state".

A guardian Angel is just that. Angels looking after us; we've stumbled across the hide out address

I believe my questions were clear, but it is hard to wrap my mind around things right now!

That's one fer the books . Wrapping my mind around things ...

I get side tracked

 

[dos8395]

Oh Boy !

That's one fer the books . Wrapping my mind around things ...

I get side tracked

So together we're side tracked wrapping our minds around things

Another problem... Documents for 7/21 do not have moms name on it.

Dad has to go to courthouse & get actual paperwork from them & request to have private processer(s) serve her at the 3 addresses. While he's at the courthouse, he's going to file contempt again. Should he file for temporary custody? Or can he, since mom has the child?

 

[dos8395]

This is Riduculous

VA.

Jacob is at the courthouse right now. The clerks are Refusing to give him copy of ammendment hearing for 7/21 so he can use private process servers. He's practically in tears. This is just ridiculous. He has done everything morally & ethically correct & is tryiong to work in the best interest of his child. I'm so angry.

 

[dos8395]

New Allegations, Oh Jeez...

undefinedJacob asked me to call the detective on the case in PHX regarding his "Custodial Interference" report. He said she wasn't returning his phone calls & the last time he spoke to her, 3 weeks ago, she was "abrupt". I left 2 message & on my third attempt, finally got to talk to her. She was curt w/me & said babys mom has made statements about "abuse" against Jacob. I was speechless & called him & asked him. He was floored. No way. I am a survivor of d.v. & my boys know that. No way. I gathered myself together & called the Det. back & was polite, & she actually warmed to me. She said that this (the Custodial interference) was just a "pissing contest" between two parents. I calmly told her, no, there had been no problem until babys mom disappeared ~ no warning, no nothing. Last time Mom saw Dad was ten months ago for goodness sakes & NOW she's claiming abuse?! And how about the "abuse" being bestowed on Jacob ~ he hasn't even heard his sons voice since mid-may... The Det. said that the allegations have not been "formalized" into a police report, but she did advise babys mom what "steps to take" regarding her claims. Next sentence she says "But I have to remain unbiased, I haven't called Jacob back because I've been busy working on other things", & if there really is a court order (she has a COPY of it!!!) then I'm sure it'll be sorted out". Court again on Thursday, 7/21, & Jacob is getting really discouraged...

 

[BL]

http://www.missingkids.com/en_US/documents/CrimCustodInterfStatutes.pdf

 

[dos8395]

Court Tomorrow

Son got email from mom yesterday, praising him, telling him what a nice guy he is & could he just postpone court awhile? She asks J. to consider the effects this (court) will have on thier son... First contact since mid-May. Oh, hell no. We don't believe he has properly served her still, but have documentation she knows about court etc. Can J. ask for Temporary Emergency Custody right there, in court if ammendment isn't granted? He's considering filining an Ex parte Restraining Order too... Thanks!

 

[stealth2]

In all honesty, you need to step aside and make your son responsible for dealing with this situation. I realize that you just want to help, but having a middle man only complicates things. I'm already amazed that any of these people haven't already refused to speak with you as you are not a party to the case.

 

[dos8395]

In all honesty, you need to step aside and make your son responsible for dealing with this situation. I realize that you just want to help, but having a middle man only complicates things. I'm already amazed that any of these people haven't already refused to speak with you as you are not a party to the case.

My son is being responsible & has been responsible for dealing with this, as you call it, "situation". My son knows we've, his father and I, already dealt with some issues like this. while J. is mature & responsible, he is still an inexperienced 20 year old man trying to do right by his son. He doesn't have a computer; I do. Questions are coming from him. And if you don't want to help or answer questions, fine, don't. J is after the best interest of his son; & my family & I will help him as long as he asks. My family & I will not "step aside" & leave him to deal with this alone. It is a shame woman, such as my grandsons mom, use children as a pawn, & are as vindictive & munipulative as she's turned out to be. I don't mean to be harsh, but please don't assume anything. J. has been responsible from day one, & we are justifiably proud of him. I beleive this board was set up for childrens best interest. That's why I'm here. Again, if you don't want to help, don't. If someone would like to answer the question, we appreciate any insight.

 

[BL]

If your son has not seen his Son since May per Court Order , then He needs to be assertive .

If what the mother is trying to imply , is to think about the result of his actions upon his Son , the HE needs to respond , that is exactly what he is doing , that the Child deserves BOTH Parents in his life ,and for her to think about her actions in the same way , and do not wait or back down .

He needs to tell her he intents to proceed .

Now if you want to help him achieve this ,fine .

He needs to quit playing her games .

The Child is being put in the middle and should not be .

 

[dos8395]

Court Order

Mom is the one who is violating, not J. She took off with thier son, & has refused to tell him where they are. But has asked him to try & quit copurt proceedings. We go ahead as planned. J. 2 brothers will be in court tomorrow as well. As a family, we stand united. And mom should quit playing games with the child.

Thanks for the helpful advise, J. sincerely appreciates it, as does our entire family.