O/T email question

[bugsmom18]

What is the name of your state? Iowa

I value everyone's opinion on this site so I would like to ask your advice on a situation I have. My DH and I have a blended family (his DD, my DD and our DS). His ex-wife and I get along fairly well but she is the type of person that I take everything said with a grain of salt. I am very good friends with ex-wife's niece as well and have heard several "horror" stories of what this large family is capable of doing to people (back-stabbing is terrible, etc). I stay out of this kind of stuff as I will do whatever it takes to get along with my SD's mom.

The ex even emails me regularly (jokes, etc). In the last week, I have received 2 emails from the ex's brother. Granted, these are also "forwards" that ex-wife sent to this brother, several other people and me that was a survey and he sent me his answers. I replied after the 2nd one and mentioned that he might be replying to all people instead of just his sister and since he hasn't met me, he may not want me to be able to read this stuff. He sent back a "nice" reply basically saying he's trying to make "as many people smile as he can". I just replied and said ok, nice to "meet ya" thru email and left it at that. Now this morning I had a message from the ex's SISTER. I have met this sister and she DOES NOT like me and makes no bones about it.

I find it coincidental that I am now receiving this after I emailed the brother yesterday. This sister lied on the stand and caused lots of problems for my friend when she was young which led to her custody situation of not living with her mom and then hearing everyday how bad her mom was/is, etc. (She (21) now has no contact with her dad or this family. I am nervous that these people are setting "something" up. I have no idea what they could as I have given them nothing to be upset about. We have SD a ton more than the decree states and mom emails/texts me to pick up SD from school and other times, etc. But I've been told by numerous people to NEVER let my guard down where this family is concerned.

My dilemma is this: I really don't care, I guess, if I get the emails from them. I'd rather NOT but I don't have to read them if I don't want to. I considered blocking their email address from my program but didn't want that to come across as being "petty" to the other family. I want to do NOTHING that compromises what good relationship mom and I have come to and certainly want nothing to come between SD and I.

What would you do? Just file the emails, block the addresses, ask mom to talk to them about stopping?

 

[Isis1]

is this to a personal e-mail address or to a work e-mail address? if it's a work address, then i would use the non-work related e-mail at work being innappropriate as it can be accessed by IT personel.

 

[Silverplum]

Same thing happened to me, bugsmom. (Hi, bugsmom! )

I ignored most of the emails -- the forwarded forwarded stuff, the jokes, etc.
I wrote back when it was personal, and kept it to a minimum.
The joy of being My! Newest! Bestest! Friend! wore off in a couple of months. Haven't heard much from her in quite a while.

Somehow, I made it through without making enemies. Mostly, I played dead.

 

[bugsmom18]

Thanks!

Thanks for the replies Isabella and Silver. I appreciate it! It seems silly to have to ask something like that but with stories I've heard on here (and what I do know about this family) I try to plan for the worst but act like everything is good if ya know what I mean

It was just a little TOO coincidental that I got these two emails from the ex's siblings (one I've never ever met). I'm just going to file them away and "play dead" to use Silver's term. If I ever get a personal email from them, I'll deal with it at that time. (and probably ask for advice here)

Have a good evening everyone!