Off the wall question for all to comments

[tab62]

What is the name of your state?WA

If the divorce decree states no moving the child out of the state and the mother moves with a verbal from the child's father can he later on change his mind. The time the child has been out of state is now around 6 years but he wants her back in his state.

Thanks for looking at this strange question...


Tom

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

What is the name of your state?WA

If the divorce decree states no moving the child out of the state and the mother moves with a verbal from the child's father can he later on change his mind. The time the child has been out of state is now around 6 years but he wants her back in his state.

Thanks for looking at this strange question...

Tom

My response:

While it was absolutely wrong to do in the first place, c'mon it's been six years! The child has a new life, new friends, school, and everything else about the child's environment. The child has "roots" in that community.

Why would you now, after so many years, want to do such a selfish act?

Besides, from a legal standpoint, I could make a REAL good argument against a "move back".

IAAL

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Plus the fact that, after six years, the child's resident state could make a good case for accepting jurisdiction.

 

[tab62]

The Bio-father is demanding it. Also he hasn't paid a dime (Child Support) since he feels that letting his daughter go to another state cancels the finanical support to his wife. I guess his daughter isn't happy with the step-dad due to some schooling issues (not getting her way to a special school).

 

[BelizeBreeze]

And of course, you'll come back now and tell us you don't have a court ordered custody/support/visitation order from the original state or that you were never married and therefor, never submitted to a paternity test.

What are the FACTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

One chance and one chance only.

 

[ChevyGirl]

Of course he can change his mind about what he wants, but that doesn't mean he is going to get it. Mom needs to get a modification. And no more verbals, they are not legal.

 

[ChevyGirl]

And of course, you'll come back now and tell us you don't have a court ordered custody/support/visitation order from the original state or that you were never married and therefor, never submitted to a paternity test.

What are the FACTS!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

One chance and one chance only.

I dont' know if you fell off the wagon or if I did, but it is stated in the OP about a "divorce decree" meaning they were married and wouldn't need a paternity test.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Well Chevy, there is a very simple reason why I asked the question. Notice we haven't heard from the poster yet?

Hang on for a bit more and maybe he'll come back and answer

 

[tab62]

The poster is the step-dad. The bio-dad is making threats that he will sue me if his daughter moves in with him in San Francisco. He keeps going back to his wife moving his daughter out of Albany, NY and that I am the fault since his wife moved with me. We are having troubles with the 15 year daughter- basically if she doesn't get what she wants to cries now to her bio-dad and states that she will move in with him. The Bio-dad and mother have Joint Custody so this does pose some legal things.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

The Bio-dad and mother have Joint Custody so this does pose some legal things.

Well, that statement was a big DUH!

First of all, you need to stay out of this. PERIOD. You have no legal standing and any information you could post here is third-hand. If your wife wants answers she needs to get online.

Because, frankly, without acknowledgement from the courts that the move was in the best interest of the child, she is in for a very big surprise.

As for the bio-father never paying child support, again you haven't answer the questions I put forth. So, I have to conclude that 1. you don't know the answers or; 2. you know but it would make your story less plausible.

Either way, this has nothing to do with you and until I get the answers to the questions I posted earlier I'm done with this fiasco.

 

[speedcam]

Well, that statement was a big DUH!

First of all, you need to stay out of this. PERIOD. You have no legal standing and any information you could post here is third-hand. If your wife wants answers she needs to get online.

Because, frankly, without acknowledgement from the courts that the move was in the best interest of the child, she is in for a very big surprise.

As for the bio-father never paying child support, again you haven't answer the questions I put forth. So, I have to conclude that 1. you don't know the answers or; 2. you know but it would make your story less plausible.

Either way, this has nothing to do with you and until I get the answers to the questions I posted earlier I'm done with this fiasco.

ok first off, I ask questions for my wife because a) she is at home b) because we don't have a computer at home and c) because she asked me to.
so does your first part of your post include everyone that is asking questions for their significant other? if so i would have to believe there wouldn't be much need for this forum since you don't want anyone asking any questions except for the person that is involved, to which as a step dad i am involved somewhat, even if that person has NO way of coming on here.

Chevy, if verbal's aren't legal, then why did we just get taken to court because my wife and her ex-husband had a verbal agreement? seems to me if we can get ordered into court for it , it must be somewhat legal.

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Chevy, if verbal's aren't legal, then why did we just get taken to court because my wife and her ex-husband had a verbal agreement? seems to me if we can get ordered into court for it , it must be somewhat legal.

You can get ordered into court for prancing naked on top of the Empire State Building but that doesn't make it (the prancing) legal.

As for step-parents coming here to try resolving issues that have nothing to do with them, each case is different. And the reason I asked the questions of THIS poster is his lack of signifigant facts in the original post.

That tells me that either he is hiding something or doesn't know. Now, how are you going to help someone who doesn't know the right questions to ask?

Come on Speedy, you've been here long enough to know the problems with third-party interference in custody battles.

 

[speedcam]

i know, and like i said i was just asking. maybe a read wrong if so sorry. just seemed like we,step -parents, as of late weren't allowed to ask anything for the other half. but i agree, he does need to answer your question......

 

[BelizeBreeze]

No problem speedy. In fact, I wish more step parents would become involved in their families lives. But since our poster failed to identify himself from the get-go, that leads me to believe that there is WAY more to this story than we'll ever find out.

Now I know that doesn't happen often here (laughs out loud) but in this instance, my radar is peaking.