TheGeekess
Keeper of the Kraken
What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Bama, home of the Roll Eagle!
There's been a few issues with Yard Dog, and I am contemplating sending him this email (italicized is the draft)...
If you want to discuss visitation with me, it will be done via email, not at drop-off/pick-up and certainly NOT IN FRONT OF The Child!!! I've asked you time and time again to not involve her in discussions about adult matters.
Last week during drop off, Yard Dog approached the car and asked me in front of The Child about holiday visitation (of which he has none according to the CO). I was flabbergasted to say the least....
Stop discussing visitation with The Child. I've asked you time and time again to not involve her in discussions about adult matters. You can discuss what you've done during the visit and what you'll do during the next visit, but that's it. If you want to discuss things with me, you can email me, PER THE COURT ORDER.
She asked me the other day (after his telephone visitation) about the next visitation (not having a calendar in front of me, I told him that he'd have her on Jan. 2nd).
She was asking about the date (telling me it was the third and not the second).
Stop telling The Child that I don't like you. I've asked you time and time again to not involve her in discussions about adult matters. That is not something to be discussed with a child and certainly something I don't want to explain to The Child.
Not ever have I told her that I don't like him (even though the sight of him makes my BP go up about 15 points.) Yard Dog has also asked The Boyfriend (when TB picked up The Child last month after visitation) why I didn't like him.
I'd bet dollars to donuts that The Child was right there when that was asked.
The court order states visitation is the first Saturday of each month. You agreed to it. I agreed to it. The judge signed it. That's all there is to it. I have to follow the court order (as you do) and that's all that has to be done.
Just to recap the Court Order: I have sole legal and physical custody. The CO does not mention holidays. He has no overnights. He has the first Saturday of each month from 10 AM-4 PM, plus phone visitations 2x/week (Tu &Th) for 30 minutes (and I move heck and high water to make sure she is available for the phone calls; I inform him when she is at my parents' house so he'll know that she'll call him (instead of him calling her). [Her cell service does not extend to GMom & GDad's house]). We are to communicate via email.
Am I wrong? Should I just delete the email out of the Drafts folder? Is this merely a difference in parenting style?
There's been a few issues with Yard Dog, and I am contemplating sending him this email (italicized is the draft)...
If you want to discuss visitation with me, it will be done via email, not at drop-off/pick-up and certainly NOT IN FRONT OF The Child!!! I've asked you time and time again to not involve her in discussions about adult matters.
Last week during drop off, Yard Dog approached the car and asked me in front of The Child about holiday visitation (of which he has none according to the CO). I was flabbergasted to say the least....
Stop discussing visitation with The Child. I've asked you time and time again to not involve her in discussions about adult matters. You can discuss what you've done during the visit and what you'll do during the next visit, but that's it. If you want to discuss things with me, you can email me, PER THE COURT ORDER.
She asked me the other day (after his telephone visitation) about the next visitation (not having a calendar in front of me, I told him that he'd have her on Jan. 2nd).
She was asking about the date (telling me it was the third and not the second).
Stop telling The Child that I don't like you. I've asked you time and time again to not involve her in discussions about adult matters. That is not something to be discussed with a child and certainly something I don't want to explain to The Child.
Not ever have I told her that I don't like him (even though the sight of him makes my BP go up about 15 points.) Yard Dog has also asked The Boyfriend (when TB picked up The Child last month after visitation) why I didn't like him.
I'd bet dollars to donuts that The Child was right there when that was asked.The court order states visitation is the first Saturday of each month. You agreed to it. I agreed to it. The judge signed it. That's all there is to it. I have to follow the court order (as you do) and that's all that has to be done.
Just to recap the Court Order: I have sole legal and physical custody. The CO does not mention holidays. He has no overnights. He has the first Saturday of each month from 10 AM-4 PM, plus phone visitations 2x/week (Tu &Th) for 30 minutes (and I move heck and high water to make sure she is available for the phone calls; I inform him when she is at my parents' house so he'll know that she'll call him (instead of him calling her). [Her cell service does not extend to GMom & GDad's house]). We are to communicate via email.
Am I wrong? Should I just delete the email out of the Drafts folder? Is this merely a difference in parenting style?
so i feel your frustration to no end. but the posters are right. disregard. i ask the kids if they are done with their phone call and hang up. when dad calls to specifically ask for changes the day before, i just remind him the kids will be available according to the court orders and hang up. i figure let the NCP bury himself. he'll go to court and tell them he's harrassing me about it. he thinks telling the courts he tells the kids i say no, is a good thing. 