Been away at a big trial and then took a week off -- am back on freeadvice now.
Having a child go out of state for visits w/a virtual stranger sounds tough. The judge could order that the visits go according to schedule or he could say that given the unique circumstances here, other arrangements will need to be made.
Do you have a copy of the Indiana Parenting Time Guidelines? Those went into effect March 31, 2001, and they would help enlighten you about your rights/responsibilities in cases like this.
If you'd like me to mail you a copy, let me know a mailing address, and I'll be happy to mail you one.
Hope this helps. Let me know if you have other questions. OK?