Overstay of 3 years

[dido]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? MD
I came to the US with a visitor's visa and I've overstayed for 3 years more than what I was supposed to by looking at the departure date shown on my I-94. I'm dating a US citizen, we are in love and have plans of a future together but we might not be ready to start a married life yet so I wanted to know: Is there a different way I can adjust my status other than getting married? Could we have a problem if we get married and start my AOS and decide not to move in together for at least a year or so? Please advice

 

[evcalyptos]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? MD
I came to the US with a visitor's visa and I've overstayed for 3 years more than what I was supposed to by looking at the departure date shown on my I-94. I'm dating a US citizen, we are in love and have plans of a future together but we might not be ready to start a married life yet so I wanted to know: Is there a different way I can adjust my status other than getting married? Could we have a problem if we get married and start my AOS and decide not to move in together for at least a year or so? Please advice

I can see why someone as old and crusty as IAAL gets that way...

You knowingly broke the laws of this country, which is kind enough to offer one legitimate way out of your difficulty. But you don't 'waaaaana' take that gracious offer, you still want to bend it to your lifestyle. And to top it off, you want others, who are presumably respecting the laws of the land they live in, to assist you in further breaking of the laws.
An yet you are so unmotivated that you will not even read the 2nd grade-reading-comprehension guides that spell it out in painful detail at the government's own website (www.uscis.gov if you are interested).

Short answer: No, you aren't entitled to doodlie until you're married to a US citizen, whose gov't will forgive your overstay -because- he is a citizen and they want to make HIM happy, not you. I waited until I was a mature person to get married; the benefit is that my spouse got to join me in my home country. I take my marriage seriously & I don't believe in 'just do it' to solve your immigration problems. That said, marriage is your ONLY way to be legal in the US. Marry him a go for it all the way, or go home.

 

[AHA]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? MD
I came to the US with a visitor's visa and I've overstayed for 3 years more than what I was supposed to by looking at the departure date shown on my I-94. I'm dating a US citizen, we are in love and have plans of a future together but we might not be ready to start a married life yet so I wanted to know: Is there a different way I can adjust my status other than getting married? Could we have a problem if we get married and start my AOS and decide not to move in together for at least a year or so? Please advice

How have you been supporting yourself as an illegal for 3 years??
You have already violated your visa priviledge, why do want to make it worse by committing marriage fraud?
As a married woman, I would suggest you don't get married if you're not even ready to be living together! The amount and quality of "proof of bona fide marriage" you have to produce for AOS interview is too staggering for you to fake, not to mention the flat out denial you will get if you live in the same city but not together, yet you're married............clearly you can understand why your scenario would never fly with an experienced immigration officer. They see through these scams for a living, you know.

 

[dido]

I don't want to commit a marriage fraud because our relationship is real and we have a strong bond. We have been a couple for almost 2 years and I've been there for him when he needed my support as his best friend and a shoulder to cry on when he lost his wife. I care really deeply about him and if I'm now afraid of being deported and not before is because I met him, my true love, and I swear God I don't want to lose him. If I said "we might not be able to live together yet" is because we want to give his daughters more time to heal before we start living together as a family. I'm not sure what to do but I'm sure love will guide us thru.

 

[dido]

I see you don't even know the meaning of love and don't know that it doesn't have barriers and I'm SO SO SO SORRY for you because if you stay the way you are you will never know what it feels to love someone and be afraid of losing them. I'm sure you don't love anybody and that NOBODY loves you, either. That's why you are so insensitive and get so angry to know that EVERYBODY else but you is able to experience this wonderful feeling called love. And love is what makes me strong and helps me deal with unkind and inconsiderate stupid people like you. I DON'T EVEN REMOTELY CARE about anything you could tell me. I'm very sorry for you that's all I can say.

 

[pfwest]

Your country????????? I am an alien and married a native American, who is the most sensitive person I know. Caring, loving something you never experienced. So I dont think you are an native American. Did your married ended in divorce after you got married to an US citizen.

 

[dalsh]

I dont think I have posted here enough to defend or attack anybody, but I have heard of true love and I have 2 neutral pennies:
if you went home voluntarily and just waited out the 10 year re-entry bar, you could apply for any visa you qualified for and it would be like you never did anything wrong. I'm not being mean. your boyfriend could travel to you freely (or live there for that matter). Who knows? the different environment and getting to know your family could be the healing he needs anyway and since his wife is gone he wouldn't need anyone's permission to take his kids too. The next 10 years are going to blow by anyway. if marriage wasnt happening soon, I would just go get the time over with.