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Parenting problems
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CourtClerk
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Everyone says that at first.... then they get their head out of the sand and realize that a jackazz is a jackazz with everyone... including you. You aren't special dear, he just hasn't started in on you..... yet.
workinggal
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Of course he's not
Your differant...your special....He loves you more....
WAKE UP!!!
I hope you are prepared to deal with all the emotional stress that is going to come from this man re: his ex and his first born children. On top of being treated like crap.
When we see you here in the future asking for divorce advice, I will remind you that you said he treats you different.
Take a good look at his ex and what she goes through...it just may be you one day.
I feel so bad for these kids**************
I will take this into consideration...however, the ex don't bother us, she just lets him get his visitation and he pays his child support. We hardly ever hear from her. It's my husband who I'm concerned about
Just Blue
Senior Member
I don't know what kind of advice you expect from us...The issues your hubby has are mental health not legal. You should talk to him about "seeing someone".
workinggal
Member
Your husband is a control freak. It's not like you didn't know it before getting pregnant.
Good luck with that.
May I suggest, she be in the room next door
wileybunch
Senior Member
Yes, definitely.
workinggal
Member
therapy, perhaps but I will talk to him..... I don't see the control issues on my end but I'm not immuned to it
wileybunch
Senior Member
Your husband's character is who he is wherever he goes and how he responds/reacts to situations. I understand he isn't pulling these particular issues with you, but you aren't in his ex's shoes. You do see that he himself is out of control on these issues while trying to overly control his ex. Even if she's the biggest PITA, she didn't MAKE him into that. Even if you think he would never do these things to YOU, the fact is his current behaviors with his ex (and also what he's doing to his child in all of this :::sad::: ) are affecting your relationship. I get that some men will back down when they can't stand the conflict (my husband would like to do that more often than I would have let him) and that alone is enough reason to get into counseling to find healthier reactions, but your husband takes it a step further and actually screws his child over to get to his ex so even though that's not your child, you should be the sane one and say something has got to change there.
escape2paradise
Member
Are you for real? It isn't going to get any better after the child, babies don't fix problems! If they did there wouldn't be so many NCP's on these boards. Get a grip!
Just because you don't see them, doesn't mean that he is not subtly working them in. And once you have a child with him, you become more vulnerable. Where you might have walked out before....the child makes you dependant and perpetually involved. Don't expect it to get better. There is a reason that they are not together now. And it is not likely that they are not together simply because she failed to appreciate what a wonderful Daddy and Husband he is.
escape2paradise
Member
Oh Brother!
Didn't your mama ever teach you that you can learn so much about a person by how they treat others. He used to be all in loooooove with her too, now look! Someday the honeymoon will end!
>Charlotte<
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I have to disagree with the others who say he'll end up treating you the same way he treats his ex. I'm sure he'll be very nice to you and a great dad for your child. Provided, of course, you do exactly what he says, exactly when he says it, and exactly how he wants it done.
TheGeekess
Keeper of the Kraken
You know, I thought that way when I was dating a man with a history of beating up his girlfriends/wives. Until he tried to beat me up one night while he was drinking.
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