passport issue

[Farfalla]

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I would like to think he loves his first child me and our unborn child equally! I know marriages dont last forever but I will try my hardest to make it work.....period

Um... good marriages do last forever. While divorce is high, 50% of all marriages do last forever even today. Sounds like you are expecting that yours will end in a divorce too. So it will. For marriages that last a lifetime, the primary reason they do last is that the couple believes that divorce is NOT an option so they work out their problems instead of runnign to court.

Since you expect your marriage to end... what how he treats his ex... that is how he will be treating you as soon as he gets tried of you. In that light you should be encouraging him to treat his ex with respect and fairly... it might go a long way to training him to treat you that way when the big divorce comes about.

 

[Farfalla]

Isn't OP the freak that was confused when the mother to her hubby's child was pissed when OP showed up at the hospital after delivery...??

Sorry...I probably could have worded that better...lol!!

OMG

That's lower than low.

 

[LdiJ]

Op, please take this post in the spirit that is intended.

I have reviewed your threads. Every one of them got closed by the admin. Thats a sign that you are not learning what you need to be learning from your postings.

On every thread you got the legally valid answers to your questions, on page one of your thread. Yet each thread went on and on and on with you either defending your husband or trying to insist that your opinion should somehow count, legally.

Please accept the fact that you are legally nothing in the child's life, and that the child's mother and father are the only two adults who count.

Also, please understand that the legalities of things will never change, just by you arguing about them. The legal reality is the legal reality.

In this instance, your husband is being a dufus, because she is GOING to get the passport, and she is going to be able to travel with the child. Your husband needs to accept that.

Besides....and sigh....I don't think this has anything to do with the fact that he thinks she might not bring the child back. I think this is revenge because she wouldn't give him overnights that he wasn't entitled to receive, so that you and he could travel out of state wtih the baby.

If that is the case that is just more of the pettiness that seems to be part of your problems with the mother.

The best thing for both your husband and this child, is to have as healthy a possible co-parenting relationship with the mother. The best way for that to happen is for you to stay completely out of things, always, other than helping your husband when the child is present.

If you need to ask questions, that's fine, but accept the answers that you get on the first couple of pages, please don't drag it on and on and on.

 

[Ohiogal]

Um... good marriages do last forever. While divorce is high, 50% of all marriages do last forever even today. Sounds like you are expecting that yours will end in a divorce too. So it will. For marriages that last a lifetime, the primary reason they do last is that the couple believes that divorce is NOT an option so they work out their problems instead of runnign to court.

Since you expect your marriage to end... what how he treats his ex... that is how he will be treating you as soon as he gets tried of you. In that light you should be encouraging him to treat his ex with respect and fairly... it might go a long way to training him to treat you that way when the big divorce comes about.

Wrong. The numbers of divorces every year is HALF the number of marriages. However that does not mean ANY of those marriages last forever or until death do you part.

 

[Humusluvr]

Op, please take this post in the spirit that is intended.

I have reviewed your threads. Every one of them got closed by the admin. Thats a sign that you are not learning what you need to be learning from your postings.

On every thread you got the legally valid answers to your questions, on page one of your thread. Yet each thread went on and on and on with you either defending your husband or trying to insist that your opinion should somehow count, legally.

Please accept the fact that you are legally nothing in the child's life, and that the child's mother and father are the only two adults who count.

Also, please understand that the legalities of things will never change, just by you arguing about them. The legal reality is the legal reality.

In this instance, your husband is being a dufus, because she is GOING to get the passport, and she is going to be able to travel with the child. Your husband needs to accept that.

Besides....and sigh....I don't think this has anything to do with the fact that he thinks she might not bring the child back. I think this is revenge because she wouldn't give him overnights that he wasn't entitled to receive, so that you and he could travel out of state wtih the baby.

If that is the case that is just more of the pettiness that seems to be part of your problems with the mother.

The best thing for both your husband and this child, is to have as healthy a possible co-parenting relationship with the mother. The best way for that to happen is for you to stay completely out of things, always, other than helping your husband when the child is present.

If you need to ask questions, that's fine, but accept the answers that you get on the first couple of pages, please don't drag it on and on and on.

I truly pray that OP will take your EXCELLENT ADVICE.

 

[Just Blue]

Op, please take this post in the spirit that is intended.

I have reviewed your threads. Every one of them got closed by the admin. Thats a sign that you are not learning what you need to be learning from your postings.

On every thread you got the legally valid answers to your questions, on page one of your thread. Yet each thread went on and on and on with you either defending your husband or trying to insist that your opinion should somehow count, legally.

Please accept the fact that you are legally nothing in the child's life, and that the child's mother and father are the only two adults who count.

Also, please understand that the legalities of things will never change, just by you arguing about them. The legal reality is the legal reality.

In this instance, your husband is being a dufus, because she is GOING to get the passport, and she is going to be able to travel with the child. Your husband needs to accept that.

Besides....and sigh....I don't think this has anything to do with the fact that he thinks she might not bring the child back. I think this is revenge because she wouldn't give him overnights that he wasn't entitled to receive, so that you and he could travel out of state wtih the baby.

If that is the case that is just more of the pettiness that seems to be part of your problems with the mother.

The best thing for both your husband and this child, is to have as healthy a possible co-parenting relationship with the mother. The best way for that to happen is for you to stay completely out of things, always, other than helping your husband when the child is present.

If you need to ask questions, that's fine, but accept the answers that you get on the first couple of pages, please don't drag it on and on and on.

Excellent advice LD!!

 

[stealth2]

Realistically speaking, LDi's post says all that needs to be said to OP until she's willing and able to understand what's been said to her ad nauseum. As long as she's not wiling or able to do so, everyone is wasting their time responding.

 

[CourtClerk]

Besides....and sigh....I don't think this has anything to do with the fact that he thinks she might not bring the child back. I think this is revenge because she wouldn't give him overnights that he wasn't entitled to receive, so that you and he could travel out of state wtih the baby.

Don't forget the fact that mom won't come to the door or let him in at the exchanges

 

[Farfalla]

Don't forget the fact that mom won't come to the door or let him in at the exchanges

There might be a good reason why mom won't come to the door or let him in.

My ex was so abusive to me in front of our son when he picked him up at my home that it was a problem. In our final visitation agreement it states that my ex will not come to my door but instead that he son will go to the car.

It's sad but it had to be that way.. the man would explode every time he came to my front door.

 

[CourtClerk]

There might be a good reason why mom won't come to the door or let him in.

Read the OP's prior posts. Her husband is doing anything and everything to torment this woman and make her life difficult. He's an abusive control freak and his ex is basically letting him know that he can't control her anymore. He doesn't like that.

 

[Silverplum]

There should be a way to look up which countries are part of the Hague something...look up in a Nolo Press book or online...as to which countries agree to abide by...which means there are laws in place in the case of kidnapping that will respect US laws to work with them to retrieve a kidnapped child.

Of course there is. From my delightful stash of useful bookmarks:
http://travel.state.gov/family/abduction/hague_issues/hague_issues_1487.html

 

[Humusluvr]

Read the OP's prior posts. Her husband is doing anything and everything to torment this woman and make her life difficult. He's an abusive control freak and his ex is basically letting him know that he can't control her anymore. He doesn't like that.

They make for some pretty amusing reading!

Added that this step mom has intruded into mom's life and way over stepped her boundaries. Mom in this case should get WHATEVER she wants for the torture she's had to endure from stepmom and her hubby.

 

[Humusluvr]

Of course there is. From my delightful stash of useful bookmarks:
http://travel.state.gov/family/abduction/hague_issues/hague_issues_1487.html

I dub you Queen O' The Bookmark

Your crown is on its way, UPS.

 

[Silverplum]

I dub you Queen O' The Bookmark

Your crown is on its way, UPS.

Oooh! I love crowns, tiaras, anything royal, really.
Thanks!

 

[CourtClerk]

I dub you Queen O' The Bookmark

Your crown is on its way, UPS.

Can we get her a crown with a giant bookmark on it???