Paternity Question

[anapr]

Well, he has been acting as the father of the child for 2 years...and has always thought he was the father (no reason to suspect otherwise) until recently.

This person has always portrayed herself as honest and kind, and several things have come out recently that directly go against those principles. So it seems that now, things like the child being born "4 weeks early" but at a "normal birth weight" are under suspicion, whereas when the child was born, there were no questions raised.

It seems as though a whole wall is coming down and we are getting a glimpse of what is inside...and it is not pretty.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Well, he has been acting as the father of the child for 2 years...and has always thought he was the father (no reason to suspect otherwise) until recently.

This person has always portrayed herself as honest and kind, and several things have come out recently that directly go against those principles. So it seems that now, things like the child being born "4 weeks early" but at a "normal birth weight" are under suspicion, whereas when the child was born, there were no questions raised.

It seems as though a whole wall is coming down and we are getting a glimpse of what is inside...and it is not pretty.

It would have been better to have petitioned the courts for custody and visitation after he signed the AOP, he could have asked for a court ordered DNA test then without any problem. But since he has held himself to be the father for two years and established a relationship with the child, there is a possibility that he may not be able to obtain a court ordered DNA test unless he can get some sort of visitaiton and get the DNA sample and he if he is not the bio dad. RIght now his only right is to pay child support for the next 21 years.

 

[ceara19]

The only reason I can think of is if there is a possibility that the child is not his.

I disagree. The fact that they already have other issues in front of the courts is a big clue that they aren't exactly getting along. Dragging things out as long as possible makes perfect sense from MOM'S perspective. Typically, child support is retroactive, starting on the day the petition was filed. It usually doesn't matter if a final order is issued in 3 weeks, 3 months or 3 years, the date of filing remains the same.

By dragging the process out, she can keep dad from seeing the child as long as she possible, while, in all likelihood, still being awarded the maximum amount of child support.

 

[anapr]

Ceara, that is interesting. While i agree that she is defnitely trying to make things difficult, the child support has already been decided. Because he has paid her all along (and the right amount--and was able to prove it) he was not required to pay any arrears payments.

You hit on what i thought might have been going on all along--that she is just trying extra hard to make things difficult. I suppose i find it a little incredible, because i know if someone were questioning the paternity of my child, i would want the test so that I could say "hey, you jerk--see? I was right all along!" (obviously this would be my childish impulse )