Please help me

[Isis1]

Good news! I met with the chief. I now have a "corrected" police report from Saturday night's events. He told me to shred the first one that I got. Ha ha.... not gonna happen. Something is up with that whole dept.

I showed the chief the texts from yesterday and asked him to hand write me a report on them. He did with no problem. About 2 mins after I left the police station I got this text from Dad

"sum1 saw u leavin the pulice u bst nt b strtn ne (s word) wit us. We wil finish it n u no it"

Guess what I did? Turned my happy little butt around, went back to the police station and showed the chief and told him I wanted another report. He told me it would be best to get an RO against Dad for the time being. Told him that's what I plan to do right after I left there.

After I got to my courthouse, I sat in the car for a minute and organized all my new papers and made sure I had everything in order. Got yet another text from Dad.

"stop (f word) ignorin me Im sick of u aleady"

Went in the courthouse and started my affidavit. I was before the judge by 9:05. I really didn't have to say ANYthing at all. He asked if I made any progress with the family court. I said "yes sir, his visitation was suspended pending a DHS investigation, and a hearing at family court December 4th."

He said "great, I see no need for him to contact you any further until then"

Sometimes I think its a blessing to live in such a small town. If you act right, the right people will remember you and "take care of" you.

So all in all. Both children and I are protected via these papers, from Dad, wife, and Grandpa. I know its just a piece of paper. I just hope it will "scare" them into laying off. I've told my daughter, again, the importance of 911 and how they can help us if we need them.

Daughter is doing lots better with everything that has happened. She keeps asking me

"Mama, why didn't you do the karate moves I showed you on that lady?". <3

Do you all think I should give a copy of the ROs to the kids pediatrician? Her office is in Dads town. I would hate for them to drive by and see us there and try to start something. At least they would know to be on alert.

I gave my mom copies, as she is the only one to ever keep the kids aside from myself. Son is there now, while I'm at the dentist with daughter. I don't believe that Dad knows where my mom lives. The kids and I will be staying with her tonight, because they will all be served today. Just added protection, I guess.

I'm also going in to talk to the DHS investigator this afternoon.

YES!!!!! honey, i am thrilled to pieces for you!! you DID IT!!!!

 

[Ohiogal]

It will all work out for you Dawn!

 

[wileybunch]

Dawn, he and that clan are a total piece of work.
I'm glad you listened to the prompting that told you to "be still" that day. NOTHING would have been gained by fighting back and the composure you had kept things clean and gave no reason to assign any blame to you. You've gotten great advice here and taken it and are having the best outcome possible. Your son is going to be protected better now because you stayed still that day. Good luck to you.

 

[liandrajade]

dawn i am sooooo happy the law is helping you like they should be, i wish all parents were as lucky!!! big hugs and kisses to all, keep your head up and know everyone on here is pulling for you...how is little man feeling?

 

[Hoosyermom]

Ive been following your threads Dawn and just wanted to say Im sorry you and your children have had to deal with all this crap and congrats on getting RO's on them but I was just curious if the police plan on filing charges on them for assaulting you?

 

[mdgtfrmhll]

dawn i am sooooo happy the law is helping you like they should be, i wish all parents were as lucky!!! big hugs and kisses to all, keep your head up and know everyone on here is pulling for you...how is little man feeling?

Dawn, I am glad that you are getting the help you need by law enforcement and the courts. I hope things continue to only get better for you and your little ones going forward.

 

[CJane]

Keep a copy of the RO's in your purse, and one in the glove box of the car.

Send one to the Dr office.

Make sure there's one on file w/the police in Dad's town.

Watch your back.

Report EVERY violation once you know they've been served.

Call the DA next week and see if any charges are pending against anyone.

 

[LdiJ]

Congrats to you Dawn...you really did do it. I am quite sure that dad has no idea that you have that video, and that is what is already his undoing and will be his undoing in court.

 

[mdgtfrmhll]

Is there a way the one could use text messages in court? I know she has been receiving them, and was able to show them to the Chief of Police, but how would she go about using them when they go to court early next month, or is that not an option?

 

[LdiJ]

Is there a way the one could use text messages in court? I know she has been receiving them, and was able to show them to the Chief of Police, but how would she go about using them when they go to court early next month, or is that not an option?

She can certainly use them in the restraining order hearing. Whether or not she can use them in the family law hearing will be up to the judge.

 

[sometwo]

Im so glad you got the RO on dad too!

Definately report any and every violation! Might do them some good to serve jail time all of them.


I just hate your little ones have to go through this. They are truly complete idiots. Makes you wonder wth they're thinking.

 

[frylover]

Dawn, I'm so glad you seem to be getting some help.

I can't remember if anyone has said this, and I'm sure you thought of it, but just in case....give your little girl's school a copy of the RO (I doubt you have any pictures of these crazies to give them, do you?) I know that at my school, if we were aware of a situation like this one we would take extra safety precautions beyond the normal ones already in place.

Bunch of freakin' lunatics!