Please Help

[Blueeyes1]

What is the name of your state? Newy York Virginia

My friend has been talking to a man she met over the internet they have not met yet but have basically formed a "phone relationship"
The part that bothers me is he has told her he would love to get "married" and have a family and he feels she could be the one????
He came to this country in the 80's on a student visa and never left he is now 40 years old . He works, pays taxes and owns property.
A week ago he admitted to her he has been waiting for his Greencard for
"five" years.
He said when the time comes if they feel they are right for each other he would put her name on the deed of his home in Virginia to prove his good intent not to scam her for residency.
He has even talked about going to city hall to get married before the "traditional church wedding" to aid him in obtaining a greencard so he may sell his house and seek employment in New york. He seems to be very charming and perhaps his heart is in the right place but Im looking out for my friend. ANY ADVICE WOULD BE APPRECIATED.

Thanks soooo much

 

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If your friend is only looking for a spouse for a guaranteed GC, then she better look for an USC, as that would be pretty faster than one with a GC and who is not even been officially granted. Your friend has to be in love with this guy, put up with him b/c it will be awhile, for her to get what she really values.. Maybe others have brilliant ideas. Wish your friend good luck.

 

[AHA]

If they've never even met and he's already talking about how she can help him get a Green Card, that would raise major warning flags in front of my eyes!! I wouldn't care if he put my name on the deeds to a dozen houses, that means squat. If he wasn't trying to scam her, why is he so eager to prove that at such an early stage in the relationship? Why does he even bring it up at all? If he has been "waiting" for a Green Card for 5 years but needs to marry a USC to get it, he obviously has something to hide and most likely isn't even in the US legally or wouldn't qualify for a Green Card on his own (hence still not having the card after 5 years). He clearly has alternative motives and a Green Card plan, I would advice your friend to walk away.

 

[Blueeyes1]

My friend said her understanding from him is since the system is sooooo behind in issuing GC this has caused him to wait "5" years.
How could she confirm what he is telling her? I know she is not interested in assisting him obtain a GC through a marrage. It would be in her best interest to wait. However she wants to confim what he is saying.

 

[Blueeyes1]

Anybody, please

 

[evcalyptos]

My friend said her understanding from him is since the system is sooooo behind in issuing GC this has caused him to wait "5" years.
How could she confirm what he is telling her? I know she is not interested in assisting him obtain a GC through a marrage. It would be in her best interest to wait. However she wants to confim what he is saying.

AHA gave you an excellent answer, what else are you looking for? There's quite a limited pool of question-answerers here. I could give you a couple of other groups to go ask, but I can gurantee that the answers are going to be similar to what you read here, with maybe a bit more abuse (but then again, IAAL could show up here any minute now).

I'm not familiar with any GC processing that is 5 years out, unless sponsorship by a GC holder-spouse or potentially another, very distant relationship.
I am not aware of any legal status that he could be hanging out in the US with for 20 years (years!).
The only remedy for such illegal presence in the US is via marriage to a US Citizen. What conclusion do *you* then draw?

As for confirming what he's told her, unless she wants to get nitty-gritty and ask him for specifics that you can check out with boards like this, there is no way for her to find out on the sly what his status is. I can assure you though, that someone living the majority of their adult life here will not be eager to leave. He would be highly motivated to find a solution to his problem, and there is only one remedy (remember above?): Marriage to a USC. That doesn't make his interest in your 'friend' *primarily* about the GC, but it certainly casts doubt. Especially when talking marriage with someone you have not met in person... someone who lives virtually next door.

 

[Blueeyes1]

My friend did say he was being sponsored by a Doctor although Im not sure if he is a relative.
Are we all sure this "5" year wait is not a total possiability.
How about any questions I can tell my friend to ask him to see if he is lying to her?

Thanks Again

 

[evcalyptos]

My friend did say he was being sponsored by a Doctor although Im not sure if he is a relative.
Are we all sure this "5" year wait is not a total possiability.
How about any questions I can tell my friend to ask him to see if he is lying to her?

Thanks Again

What lying?
"waiting 5 years for a green card" is sufficiently vague that he could mean anything by it.
More importantly, if he 'thinks' he is not illegally present in the US, what status has he held for the past 20 years? An alien has to 'be' some sort of status here, student, worker, refugee etc

"Sponsor" is another term with multiple meanings in Immigration.

Short of asking him point blank what his status is, I don't know a way for her to find out.

 

[Blueeyes1]

Im sorry I don't know to much about these matters.
My friend said he came in twice as a student.

 

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I'm thinking aloud that this clarification is not for your friend, or she might as well take part in the discussion? Except your friend (or ...) is madly in love with this guy, then she better think twice in wooeing an USC to give her what she is looking for... What if your friend could arrange a date with this guy and get to know him. This might perhalps provide a forum for your friend to make a decision. A week's romantic date will surely help? Cheers

 

[Blueeyes1]

Wait perhaps Im being misunderstood. The man she is getting to know is in need of his GC not her.