Pornography

[sparky31676]

Men are horny creatures by nature and do this all the time. They do it more if they are sexually deprived. Thinking about my previous post, you're son may have been sleeping and woke up frightend to find that there was noone around. It may have been completely innocent and perhaps dad did not think he would be interrupted. Just a thought...

Stealth - my word against his, no hard proof

The argument that came up later, I left immediately with child, was lots of apologies. He was wrong. He didn't know why he did it.
Child was originally watching a TV show, not asleep.
He figured he would just sit there and watch the show, but blocked the door "in case" he got up.
I also apologize for all the debate, I know I should post the actual situation instead of a general question next time.

 

[seniorjudge]

Let me pose an alternate scenario:

Male parent puts appx. 3 yr. old. child, awake, in adjacent room. Blocks the door to this room with a large object. Child continues to tug and bang at door to get out. Male parent proceeds to pray and study the sacred writings of [insert your religion here]. Now, the child is in no immediate danger. Is this neglect?

 

[BelizeBreeze]

Oy. PEOPLE are.

And THANK GOD they are

 

[veronicalouise]

That situation in my opinion may not be held as legal neglect, but as a mother, and grandmother, it is neglect to me. When a child is in a room alone, ANYthing could be wrong. I would never put a child in a room, and put an object in front of the door to contain them, but since he did, when that child was putting up a ruckus, was he not even concerned as to what was going on? What was the large object? Could the child have been physically hurt trying to get out of the room?

 

[sparky31676]

That situation in my opinion may not be held as legal neglect, but as a mother, and grandmother, it is neglect to me. When a child is in a room alone, ANYthing could be wrong. I would never put a child in a room, and put an object in front of the door to contain them, but since he did, when that child was putting up a ruckus, was he not even concerned as to what was going on? What was the large object? Could the child have been physically


One square floor fan and one tall stand fan-that certainly could have been pulled on top of him easily.
No concern when I walked in. He actually didn't realize I came in until I screamed "What the hell is going on" I called out his name and child's name when I first walked up. There is a central hallway and the door to the room he was enjoying himself in is an arch way, no actual door.

 

[Venus05]

Definition of Neglect

Let me pose an alternate scenario:

Male parent puts appx. 3 yr. old. child, awake, in adjacent room. Blocks the door to this room with a large object. Child continues to tug and bang at door to get out. Male parent proceeds to pray and study the sacred writings of [insert your religion here]. Now, the child is in no immediate danger. Is this neglect?

1. Disregard
2. Be remiss about
3. Leave uncared for
4. Fail in duty or performance through carelessness
5. Lack of attention or care

Although the child is no immediate danger, I think it is neglect and that the male should stop what he is doing and pick a better time to relieve himself. Only my opinion...

 

[stealth2]

1. Disregard
2. Be remiss about
3. Leave uncared for
4. Fail in duty or performance through carelessness
5. Lack of attention or care

Although the child is no immediate danger, I think it is neglect and that the male should stop what he is doing and pick a better time to relieve himself. Only my opinion...

Did you actually READ what SR posted?

 

[veronicalouise]

Unfortunately, sometimes life is not fair, and no matter how hard we try, we cannot as parents shield and protect our children as much as we would like to. I am so sorry for you and the situation. I agree with some of the others, probably little could be done in the court of law to limit his visitation. You would have to have proof. Don't suppose he would confess, do you? I wish you good luck. You might remind him, we all have those uh, urges, but we know the right time and place to act on those. For his child's well being in all respects, he needs to learn discretion, and self control.

 

[Venus05]

Did you actually READ what SR posted?

Yeah, a little too fast....sorry Judge

 

[stealth2]

SO what would your answer be in SR's scenario?

 

[Venus05]

Unfortunately, sometimes life is not fair, and no matter how hard we try, we cannot as parents shield and protect our children as much as we would like to. I am so sorry for you and the situation. I agree with some of the others, probably little could be done in the court of law to limit his visitation. You would have to have proof. Don't suppose he would confess, do you? I wish you good luck. You might remind him, we all have those uh, urges, but we know the right time and place to act on those. For his child's well being in all respects, he needs to learn discretion, and self control.

Well said Veronica and I could not agree with you more.

 

[sparky31676]

1. Disregard
2. Be remiss about
3. Leave uncared for
4. Fail in duty or performance through carelessness
5. Lack of attention or care

Although the child is no immediate danger, I think it is neglect and that the male should stop what he is doing and pick a better time to relieve himself. Only my opinion...

No, No. I get it. It doesn't matter what the person is acting out. It matters what is being done to the child.

 

[Venus05]

No, No. I get it. It doesn't matter what the person is acting out. It matters what is being done to the child.

I'm glad you get it. I wish you well.

 

[Venus05]

SO what would your answer be in SR's scenario?

4. Fail in duty or performance through carelessness.

.....and in this case possibly endagerment of the welfare of a minor child

 

[critterperson]

Thank you, this is my point I am trying to reach, it IS an unhealthy act. It is disgusting and immoral.
It was at approx. 5:30pm.When I walked in, he seemed to be quite concentrated.

I'm not sure if its unhealthy- Experts say that 9 out of 10 men do it and the other one is a liar. They also say that this behavior is a stress reliever. Is it possible that the baby was taking a nap and woke up in the middle of this and he was Just finishing up? I know it is totally gross......but I guess if you think about it I would rather have him releave his stress on himself instead of venting on a child??? Did he act supprised when you showed up? any guilt anything??? If not he most likely has some issues that may need to be addressed by a doctor.