I was very clear with my Bio's My REAL parents are the ones that raised me. My REAL Sister is the one that I grew up with.
Thats not to say that the other brothers and sisters have not embraced me as their "Big Brother" very nice kids
Just a suggestion to you. Make sure that your kid knows tell them the first time they ask where they came from. They won't understand it but it won't be a shock later either.
Worst thing thats going to happen is they will have some really bizzare ideas where babies come from
Thank you.
I am a huge advocate of ALWAYS, from the beginning, being truthful with one's child, in age appropriate terms, about the fact that "their mommy and daddy is not the same mommy and daddy they were born from". My 9 year old child has known since pre-verbal age, and is totally at ease and matter of fact about it. It's just a fact of life to her, like her eye color. Actually, she thinks it's kinda cool being from a different place and she delights in telling people she was born in X country (in eastern europe) and knows she was living in the Baby Home until we met her and adopted her. She knows her adoption story, down to which cities we travelled through to get to her and can trace the route on a globe.
I am, frankly, appalled when I hear women or men express that their child doesn't know their partner or spouse is NOT their "real" parent (this is more often the case with step parent adoptions).