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[Peanuts200788]

What is the name of your state? GA

My X and his friends posted this video of themselves on Youtube drunk and acting stupid...should I save this? Can this be used later on down the road?

 

[Silverplum]

What is the name of your state? GA

My X and his friends posted this video of themselves on Youtube drunk and acting stupid...should I save this? Can this be used later on down the road?

Probably not. It's not illegal to get drunk and stupid...unless you are in charge of a child while you are drunk and stupid.

 

[Peanuts200788]

what if X wrote an e-mail to someone saying he was high...that probably doesnt count does it?

 

[Silverplum]

what if X wrote an e-mail to someone saying he was high...that probably doesnt count does it?

Naw. Emails are easy to fake.

Peanuts, honey...don't spend your energy trying to prove Dad-to-be unfit. He's not even a Dad yet. Give him a chance to grow up and become a Dad, or fail on his own. But whatever he's doing while you're pg is not of interest -- he's NOT a Dad yet. He's NOT hurting anyone but himself. IF/WHEN he endangers the actual child? Jump on him with all 4 feet. Till then? Have a pleasant, healthy, happy pregnancy.

 

[Peanuts200788]

Thanks Silver.....

And you're right.....

 

[Silverplum]

Thanks Silver.....

And you're right.....

You're welcome, Peanuts. Take it easy, ok? Be cool, calm, healthy...all that good stuff.

(I love being right! )

 

[Peanuts200788]

I just hate it cause I was dumb enough to date the stupid ...... well i wont get into anymore name calling LoL but you get the idea.

 

[LdiJ]

Naw. Emails are easy to fake.

Peanuts, honey...don't spend your energy trying to prove Dad-to-be unfit. He's not even a Dad yet. Give him a chance to grow up and become a Dad, or fail on his own. But whatever he's doing while you're pg is not of interest -- he's NOT a Dad yet. He's NOT hurting anyone but himself. IF/WHEN he endangers the actual child? Jump on him with all 4 feet. Till then? Have a pleasant, healthy, happy pregnancy.

Extremely well said Silver!

 

[momandsmom003]

Extremely well said Silver!

Ditto.... All energy, good thoughts and well being should be centered around having a healthy baby.

Peanuts.. I can truly understand your nervousness. You are bonding with your unborn child as we speak and the thought of ANYONE hurting he/she, is unimaginable.

But man oh man I feel sorry for good ole dad if he even tries to be irresponsible when baby arrives. It would be like taking a baby cub from a momma tiger. All teeth, fangs, claws etc. If he knows what's best, he will do what is best for you all's child or have HE** to pay. Which is the way it should be.

 

[nextwife]

What is the name of your state? GA

My X and his friends posted this video of themselves on Youtube drunk and acting stupid...should I save this? Can this be used later on down the road?

Know what? Hubby and I rarely drink, and are very responsible adults. New Years Eve, kiddo had a sleepover and we had our first kidless New Years in eight years. And we, too, got drunk and stupid and had a great time with our friends (didn't drive, either).

So what? That does NOT make us in any way unfit to parent our child.

 

[Peanuts200788]

Know what? Hubby and I rarely drink, and are very responsible adults. New Years Eve, kiddo had a sleepover and we had our first kidless New Years in eight years. And we, too, got drunk and stupid and had a great time with our friends (didn't drive, either).

So what? That does NOT make us in any way unfit to parent our child.

you're right...i'm just nervous (which is probably hormones) and in protective state ..... if you watched the video you'd understand...which if you want have at it:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QV5ahv9y7Ww

 

[LdiJ]

you're right...i'm just nervous (which is probably hormones) and in protective state ..... if you watched the video you'd understand...which if you want have at it:

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QV5ahv9y7Ww

Ok...I watched it...the WHOLE thing which was really boring. All it was was a few guys acting stupid, and obviously drunk. They obviously thought that they were being humorous, rather than boring, but there wasn't anything there that should scare you.

 

[Peanuts200788]

can i blame it on hormones??

 

[LdiJ]

can i blame it on hormones??

Sure, you can easily blame it on hormones.

 

[Peanuts200788]

i guess i am over reacting a bit....it's just the thought of IF he had the baby over there with him and was doing that...and i don't know...i know that i have unresolved issues with him, and animosity towards him so that causes me to look at him differently...

an outsider watching that video probably thinks wow that was stupid...i look at it and think OMG this is the father of my child WHAT WAS I THINKING?!