LdiJ
Senior Member
I see. But what a child wants one day can change the next. I'm not saying that's the case here. My daughter loves my fiance very much and wishes loudly all the time that he were her real daddy. I'm not sure how things will go when I approach her father. He will either say yes to get out of child support, or no because he doesn't want his pride bruised. Does her opinion trump his? I find this hard to believe, but maybe when she's a teenager?
You are misunderstand how it works...Let me try to explain it better. If the child agrees with the adoption the case moves forward, irrelevant of who wins. If the child doesn't agree with the adoption the case doesn't move forward at all. So, its not that the child's opinion trumps her father's opinion, its that the child's opinion trumps YOUR opinion...or both of your opinions if you both agree on the adoption and she doesn't. In other words, in a state where the child's opinion matters, the adoption isn't going to happen if the child doesn't want to be adopted by the person in question, no matter what the adults want.