What is the name of your state? Arizona
Well, here is my situation. A few months ago, I met a woman at a concert and we became friends. At the time, she was separated from her husband and living in her own apartment. Since she lived 2 hours from myself, we mainly had phone conversations/email, although on a few occasions, she would drive to my place for lunch or to watch a movie. After several months, one day her husband entered her apartment, took her phone from her, and checked her phone records. He questioned her about who I was and then I started receiving phone messages from him, saying that if I didn't stop talking to his wife, he would find me and "settle this." She called me later and told me that he had done this to many of her male friends in the past out of jealousy. This was a case of bad timing too, I suppose, as she had recently decided to move out a few weeks before I met her and he was obviously upset about that. Apparently, she had discovered he was having an affair.
Over the holidays, she tried to contact me and sent me some text messages on Christmas and New Year's. Apparently, he was keeping tabs on her phone messages, as when I would send a reply (stuff like "Happy New Year to you too"), I would then receive more threats. A couple of times he sent me text messages as well, usually littered with profanity and insults.
To make matters worse, she decided she was developing an attraction to me, let me know via an email, and told her huband about her feelings. She emailed me saying she was feeling confused and conflicted, and needed some time to herself to decide how to proceed with her life. I emailed her back saying I thought that was the right thing to do, and also that the threats of violence were getting worse and that I was concerned about that. A few hours after sending that email, her husband again left me a voice message, but this time said 3 seperate times that he was going to kill me and come after my friends and family. He said that he would bring 7 of his friends with him and that he knew where I lived. And again stated that if I emailed or tried to talk to his wife about this, that I would "find out what it's like to meet God." I don't think she knew about this call, as she tried to call me the next day and left a message, wondering how I was and if I was avoiding her for some reason.
I have never met her husband, but am hesitant to call him back and try to talk to him as he was become increasingly hostile in his messages to me. I have all of his messages saved in my voicemail, and I figured he was trying to intimidate/scare me at first, as she has told me he has done this to others many times. But now that he has stated, point blank, that he will kill me and harm my family and friends, I am quite concerned that he might actually do it. I feel bad for ignoring her calls, as she is a genuinely nice person who thinks I am snubbing her. I want to at least let her know how bad the situation has become and the reason I have been avoiding her calls. But I don't want to aggravate an already stressful situation.
My question is this: Should I go to the police and at least make a report of this harassment and threats? What would the police actually do in this case?
Do I call her and let her know if I do make a report, or just keep ignoring the calls? I don't even know where her husband lives at this point, but I do have his cell phone number -- can the police get information from a cell phone provider if it is in relation to a alleged crime? I don't want to make things worse for her and wish we could continue our friendship, but at this point, I need to protect myself and my family. Any and all advice is appreciated ...
Well, here is my situation. A few months ago, I met a woman at a concert and we became friends. At the time, she was separated from her husband and living in her own apartment. Since she lived 2 hours from myself, we mainly had phone conversations/email, although on a few occasions, she would drive to my place for lunch or to watch a movie. After several months, one day her husband entered her apartment, took her phone from her, and checked her phone records. He questioned her about who I was and then I started receiving phone messages from him, saying that if I didn't stop talking to his wife, he would find me and "settle this." She called me later and told me that he had done this to many of her male friends in the past out of jealousy. This was a case of bad timing too, I suppose, as she had recently decided to move out a few weeks before I met her and he was obviously upset about that. Apparently, she had discovered he was having an affair.
Over the holidays, she tried to contact me and sent me some text messages on Christmas and New Year's. Apparently, he was keeping tabs on her phone messages, as when I would send a reply (stuff like "Happy New Year to you too"), I would then receive more threats. A couple of times he sent me text messages as well, usually littered with profanity and insults.
To make matters worse, she decided she was developing an attraction to me, let me know via an email, and told her huband about her feelings. She emailed me saying she was feeling confused and conflicted, and needed some time to herself to decide how to proceed with her life. I emailed her back saying I thought that was the right thing to do, and also that the threats of violence were getting worse and that I was concerned about that. A few hours after sending that email, her husband again left me a voice message, but this time said 3 seperate times that he was going to kill me and come after my friends and family. He said that he would bring 7 of his friends with him and that he knew where I lived. And again stated that if I emailed or tried to talk to his wife about this, that I would "find out what it's like to meet God." I don't think she knew about this call, as she tried to call me the next day and left a message, wondering how I was and if I was avoiding her for some reason.
I have never met her husband, but am hesitant to call him back and try to talk to him as he was become increasingly hostile in his messages to me. I have all of his messages saved in my voicemail, and I figured he was trying to intimidate/scare me at first, as she has told me he has done this to others many times. But now that he has stated, point blank, that he will kill me and harm my family and friends, I am quite concerned that he might actually do it. I feel bad for ignoring her calls, as she is a genuinely nice person who thinks I am snubbing her. I want to at least let her know how bad the situation has become and the reason I have been avoiding her calls. But I don't want to aggravate an already stressful situation.
My question is this: Should I go to the police and at least make a report of this harassment and threats? What would the police actually do in this case?
Do I call her and let her know if I do make a report, or just keep ignoring the calls? I don't even know where her husband lives at this point, but I do have his cell phone number -- can the police get information from a cell phone provider if it is in relation to a alleged crime? I don't want to make things worse for her and wish we could continue our friendship, but at this point, I need to protect myself and my family. Any and all advice is appreciated ...