Reduced parenting time

[mistoffolees]

ssshhh? creat drama? Look, I dont bother the damn man he hasn't seen nor paid child support in 5 months...the support is court ordered. Leave him alone, are you kiddin me? I work too much to take care of my child, he is not on my agenda all damn day!

If he's not on your agenda all day, why do you keep starting threads about him?

Bottom line is that changing visitation is a waste of effort. Just file for contempt for non-payment of support.

SHEESH.

 

[stepmom4ever]

If he's not on your agenda all day, why do you keep starting threads about him?

Bottom line is that changing visitation is a waste of effort. Just file for contempt for non-payment of support.

SHEESH.

Who are you? Do I give a damn what you think? I haven't started a thread on him in awhile and I came to ask a question. If you feel I'm just starting threads about a deadbeat brotha, then don't read them.... To everyone else, I will go down to the curts yet again and file for contempt of court order...Thanks!

 

[>Charlotte<]

What you *want* is to make it so he can't see his daughter because you won't let him, instead of because he doesn't want to. It's all about spite and control. Either way, the girl isn't going to see her father. She loses. But, hey, who cares about that as long as you can score some points, right?

I mean, it's not like you could spend your time, energy, and money more constructively by getting the support order enforced so she'll have more security. No, it's much better to have the satisfaction of telling him you took his rights away--whether he wants them or not.

Get the support order enforced and put the money in a college savings account. Look up 529s. She's going to have to be one of those people that succeeds despite her parents, and she's going to need all the help she can get.

 

[CourtClerk]

I dont know what happened to her and dont care

Well that's a shame, because had you had a better relationship with her, it would be a perfect opportunity for your children to maintain a relationship with each other, despite their father. However, you were too busy... being you and the only one that suffers here are the children.

Nice.

I believe I posted it on one of your many threads...

CC's rule of life 1.1 (coming to fruition once again)
What he'll do WITH you, he'll do TO you.

 

[jbowman]

Who are you? Do I give a damn what you think? I haven't started a thread on him in awhile and I came to ask a question. If you feel I'm just starting threads about a deadbeat brotha, then don't read them.... To everyone else, I will go down to the curts yet again and file for contempt of court order...Thanks!

You know, you STILL have a lot of nerve. You had a lot of nerve back in the day regarding the new baby - and you gotta lot of dang nerve now talking about what you give a damn about. Yuck

 

[mistoffolees]

Do I give a damn what you think?

I doubt it. You don't care what ANYONE thinks as long as you get a chance to spout off about your evil ex and find all sorts of ways to get back at him.

I thought MY ex was bad - but next to you, she's a prize.

 

[CJane]

Look, it isn't going to do any good at all to file for contempt - because he isn't going to pay support no matter what. You know that.

And it isn't going to do any good to file for a reduction in court ordered parenting time, because he's not going to use that time no matter what.

You need to do what the other mom did, and just let it go. I wouldn't even file for contempt for the child support. Eventually, it'll catch up with him, and you might see a dollar or two. In the meantime, be glad that you're only supporting yourself and the child, and not ALSO the deadbeat.

Move. On. Make plans with kiddo that don't include him. Keep them fluid enough that if he does show up, you can make kiddo available. Easy peasy.

 

[stealth2]

Oh. You again. Moving on.

 

[Ohiogal]

ssshhh? creat drama? Look, I dont bother the damn man he hasn't seen nor paid child support in 5 months...the support is court ordered. Leave him alone, are you kiddin me? I work too much to take care of my child, he is not on my agenda all damn day!

Good grief. If the support is court ordered, file a motion to show cause. YOU were WARNED about this when you were irritating Kim in the delivery room. For the simple reason that this is all that was foretold you need to stick around so that you can be a lesson. You have done NOTHING but CREATE drama. If he is NOT seeing his child then let it go. Reduce time? Don't count on it. Two months is not a lot of time. Why isn't he seeing his child? Is he working? Is he out of state? What is the reason he gives? Yes, it matters.


ETA: Amazing how Kim will ALWAYS get before you, now isn't it? Sloppy seconds must really suck.

 

[mistoffolees]

Good grief. If the support is court ordered, file a motion to show cause. YOU were WARNED about this when you were irritating Kim in the delivery room. For the simple reason that this is all that was foretold you need to stick around so that you can be a lesson. You have done NOTHING but CREATE drama. If he is NOT seeing his child then let it go. Reduce time? Don't count on it. Two months is not a lot of time. Why isn't he seeing his child? Is he working? Is he out of state? What is the reason he gives? Yes, it matters.

Or is Mom doing everything in her power to keep him from seeing the child?

 

[CJane]

Or is Mom doing everything in her power to keep him from seeing the child?

Read the history. She wouldn't have to do anything to keep him from being involved with the child if his behavior to his previous child is any indicator. He couldn't even be bothered to legitimize that child.

 

[Ohiogal]

Read the history. She wouldn't have to do anything to keep him from being involved with the child if his behavior to his previous child is any indicator. He couldn't even be bothered to legitimize that child.

But, but but but but but but ... that was KIM's fault that Jovet didn't legitimize the child! Come on. That is what Tajuana said then! So therefore it has to be S4E's fault (hey Yolanda!!!!!!!!!!) that Jovet doesn't do anything now. History repeats! Mom has to be to blame. Right? RIGHT?

ETA: I hate when I forget how to spell. Gotta wonder if Tajuana will send such a letter to the next woman or if the next will intrude upon the delivery room:

Tajuana, Jovet's wife,

This is Kim, Elijah's mother! First of all Tajuana, at this point I really don't expect you to understand where I'm coming from because you're not a mother and because of your outlandish antics in times past by forcing your ENTITLEMENT as the WIFE in my face. So, I write you this email because there are some issues that need to be addressed before there is any form of progress between, you, your husband and I . I would have confronted you on this matter earlier, however, it was not the appropriate time to discuss the matter, as I just gave birth to my son when you and your husband were at my bedside unannounced and considering the fact that my anger up until now would have warranted an unhealthy situation between you and I.

I will address the issue of you showing up at the hospital the day I delivered my son requesting information about me (absolutely deplorable). Tajuana, it was in the best interest of you that we did not cross paths at that particular moment, as that would not have been wise. Curious, what were you planning to do? As a real women, you had no business looking for me to find out who I was, your search should have been toward your husband, as he had ANOTHER women pregnant PRIOR to marrying you. You see, I KNEW who my child's father were (which is your hubby), it was your hubby who RAN from responsibility ONCE I told him I was pregnant. He didn't just pick me off some pole in a strip joint, you get my drift?

He CHOSE to leave a pregnant women. He knew I was pregnant and DECIDED to ignore it. " I'm " NOT your problem in this situation. Your husband is the problem.

Yet another issue, showing up at my place of residence with your new hubby completely disrespecting me was an absolute NO, NO. I ALLOWED it only on the strength that Jovet (your hubby) parents were present in my home other wise that would have clearly been an unhealthy situation. This is NOT your battle to fight as this child is between your hubby and I. Your role is to just SUPPORT and LOVE your husband. LEGALLY, you have NOTHING to do with this, I laid with your hubby not YOU, get where I'm going with this (not your business) . If you don't believe me, take it to a Family Court and see what the end result would be for THIRD PARTIES overstepping their boundaries.

Tajuana, moving forward, I'm going to put this out there so that you get a clear understanding of the severity of my concerns regarding you, I will be around for a very long time weather I talk to your hubby or communication with your hubby is NIL regarding OUR son. You NEED to respect the fact that I'm your hubby child's MOTHER and I will respect the fact that YOU'RE Jovet's wife, nothing more, nothing less. So DON'T make the mistake of THINKING that you and hubby will BULLY me because your MARRIED. That wont hold water with me none what-so-ever. I'm not this quiet little girl who know no better because I'm "BITTER" OVER THE FACT THAT JOVET IS MARRIED TO YOU". Tajuana, he is now your headache to deal with but as a wise person, you might want to re-assess the situation at hand. You're a newlywed couple with a two month old child in the picture by another women, whom you knew nothing about until delivery day (assuming the way you showed up at the hospital on that day). That alone should convey your hubby's character (not spiritual at all) as I understand you two are heavily involved in church. Your hubby thought I would disappear once I told him I was pregnant, wrong, life is like a boomerang, so you can now rid yourself of all insecurities, it will be healthy and more spiritual for you.

Your husband will have to deal with me for 18+ years.

We can also discuss this matter in person, should it warrant such action.

 

[stealth2]

For anyone unfamiliar with OP and her history? Have fun reading THIS:

https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/problems-bio-mom-388706.html

 

[Isis1]

For anyone unfamiliar with OP and her history? Have fun reading THIS:

https://forum.freeadvice.com/child-custody-visitation-37/problems-bio-mom-388706.html

Actually, i think TMZ is the only one that doesn't know.

 

[TheGeekess]

Self-help legal resources

For those who want to consider filing an action in court on their own, below is a list of resources. These sites have forms and instructions, which include forms for legitimation and visitation.

Fulton County Family Court - Home - Family Court This is the site of the Fulton County Superior Court Family Division's Family Law Information Center. Any resident of the State of Georgia can visit the center in person at its location. The address is 185 Central Avenue, Atlanta, Ga. 30303. The phone is 404-335-2789. One can receive a free, brief legal consultation with an attorney by calling and making an appointment. However, a non-custodial parent must follow the guidelines of the county with legal jurisdiction over his/her particular legal issues.

DeKalb County Police Department This is the site of DeKalb County Superior Court's Family Law Information Center. Any DeKalb resident or person with a family law issue related to DeKalb County can visit the center at its location at 120 West Trinity Place, Decatur, Ga. 30030. The phone is 404-687-3990. Brief, legal consultations with an attorney are available for $10 by calling and making an appointment.

Cobb County Government This is the site of the Cobb County Superior Court Family Law Workshop. Any Cobb resident or person with a family law issue related to Cobb County can visit the center at 30 Waddell Street, Marietta, Ga. 30090. The phone is 770-528-1812. The workshop is free of charge and provides answers to basic questions about divorce, paternity/legitimation, contempt, and modification cases.

http://production.albany.ga.us/law_library/LL_forms_family_law.htm This is the site of the Dougherty County Superior Court Law Library. Any Dougherty resident or person with a family law issue related to Dougherty County can visit the center at its location at 225 Pine Avenue, Room 212, Albany, Ga. 31702. The phone is 229-431-2133. The library manager, who is an attorney, is available to provide assistance with conducting research, finding appropriate materials and possible legal resources, suggesting self-help resources, and answering legal reference questions in person or by e-mail. However, the library manager is not permitted to give legal advice or interpret specific legal situations.

Northeastern Judicial Circuit Family Law Information Center and Guardian ad Litem Program - Hall County, Georgia This is the site of the Hall and Dawson County Superior Court Family Law Information Center. Any Hall or Dawson resident or person with a family law issue related to Hall or Dawson Counties can visit the center at its location at 225 Green Street, S.E., Gainesville, Ga. 30501. The phone is 770-531-2463. Brief, legal consultations with an attorney are available at no cost in Dawson County. However, a financial qualification is required for attorney consultations in Hall County.

Appalachian Family Law Information Center This is the site of the Appalachian Family Law Information Center serving Fannin, Gilmer, and Pickens counties. Any Fannin, Gilmer or Pickens resident or person with a family law issue related to these counties can visit the center at its location at 1 Broad Street, Suite 102 A, Ellijay, Ga. 30540. The phone is 706-299-1444. Brief, legal consultations with an attorney are available by appointment for income-qualified individuals.

LegalAid-GA.org | A guide to free and low-cost legal aid, assistance and services in Georgia This site is a project of the Atlanta Legal Aid Society, the Georgia Legal Services Program and the Pro Bono Project of the State Bar of Georgia. It is a guide to free legal information and services including the topics of legitimation, visitation, and custody.

A list of the Georgia Superior Court Clerks for every county is on this web site: GSCCCA.org - Georgia Superior Court Clerks' Cooperative Authority.

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