candid said:
Colorado. About five years ago I was using drugs and as a result turned over custody of my two sons to my aunt who promised to help me out until I got my life straight, which I have now been clean for app. 3-1/2 years. My parental rights were taken away from me. Because what I believe is greed for money by my aunt, she will not even let me visit the kids any longer. I have hired two attorneys to at least try and get me visitation with my sons, to no avail. They indicate once parental rights are gone, there is nothing that can be done. Is this true?
*** Yes, once parental rights have been terminated, the parent longer has legal rights. I don't understand your comment about greed for money being the reason she won't let you see the kids. Does you seeing them take money away from her?
Your rights weren't taken...you had a choice...and you chose drugs. I don't mean this as a judgement, it's the painful truth. The courts will hold out for a parent who even hints initiative to clean up his/her act. I give you credit where it's due for cleaning up for over 3 years. Congratulations, and I hope you remain clean eternally. I'm sorry I must be blunt, but the kids weren't a couple of couches you left in storage over at your aunt's house...they are living, breathing, feeling beings...and have lived for 5 years with this woman, who may possibly have emotional investment in them also...not necessarily monetary. Maybe when she promised that she'd help you, it was with her understanding that you would seek help immediately, and not with the idea that you'd continue for another year and a 1/2 before getting clean? I don't know the exact nature of your dilemma, and a paragraph certainly isn't going to tell me your life story or the definite reason your aunt is pulling them from your life...
The only way to possibly gain any sort of communication is to continually apologize for anything you have done to turn her on you like that...and even if you are continually rejected, if you want to ever have the possibility of seeing the children again, then your only hope would be to repeatedly send loving, apologetic, peace-seeking messages.
Really, even if you hate her....it's not for her it's for the kids. If they are worth to you the discomfort of having to humble yourself to someone who you'd rather die than do so, then I wish you success. Fighting will get you no where at this point.
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And that's my two cents ........ka-ching!!!
