Relocation without Notification

[stalkedtoolong]

I was divorced in Colorado in 1995. I received sole custody and the father received two visitations per month, no overnights. There was domestic violence. The children are now in their teens. The divorce court order was very brief and said nothing at all about moving away or relocation. My ex-husband has threatened to kill me if I ever try to leave town. Now I want to leave the state without telling him in advance. Can I? Must I tell my ex? Tell the court? Ask permission? Or can I just disappear in the night?

 

[MySonsMom]

Disappearing in the night would be a very bad idea on your part. You either need to get permission from the Father, or the courts. I suggest going through the courts after you get a restraining order on this man for the threats.

If you do this right, you should be alright. If you do it your own way, it could be a nightmare.

If you choose to send the Father a notice of relocation, he will have a certain amount of days to contest the move....If he doesn't, you can leave. Or, you can ask the courts to grant the move.

Good luck!

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response to MSM:

That was an excellent response. You hit all the points, and in the order of which they should occur. Therefore, I have nothing more to add.

IAAL

 

[stalkedtoolong]

Thanks for the good advice. I want to do this right, although I'm really afraid of this man. A restraining order would get him arrested after he kills me, I'm sure. Even the judge told me that and said it wouldn't help. Now, how do I go about telling the court I want to move? Who do I call? Do I need a lawyer?

 

[MySonsMom]

My response to MSM:

That was an excellent response. You hit all the points, and in the order of which they should occur. Therefore, I have nothing more to add.

IAAL

Thanks IAAL, that was a compliment that means a lot to me.

Now, to the poster. If you choose the route to notify the Father. Send him a certified letter stating that you will be moving to ____________ on ___________. Pretty much, just let him know of the move. Then, it is up to him to contact the courts to contest the move. If he does not contest the move, then you are free to go. If he does, then you will need to go to court. And if you go to court, you will probably be given the go ahead to move anyway. When you send this certified letter to the Father, send one to your attorney, his attorney (if he has one) and the courts with your case number on it. That way, you have informed more than enough parties. About those threats, get a restraining order from the police. Do you have proof? Letters, conversations...incidences? Bring everything with you to the police station, and get that RO.


Good luck!