rights of Dad

[haiku]

actually in some states (New England, for example) to just get state medical coverage for a child you do not have to name the dad and/or co-operate with child support enforcement.

The only time it is mandatory is if you want welfare benefits, and or medical benefits for YOURSELF.

(just something I learned reading the fine print on quite a few different applications....)

 

[Phnx02]

conversely, a parent also has a moral duty to let the other parent be a parent and have unfettered visitation without a court order, too, right?

Absolutely!

 

[whitedoveh]

Just to update you on the situation....we had our hearing yesterday. The day before after 3 weeks had gone by since she got her summons, she files for continuance since she doesn't have anyone representing her yet... Naturally it was turned down.

She represented herself and we were not allowed to be in the same room when the hearing was conducted. That was poppycock. But our lawyer explained that since she was representing herself...it would seem unfair that everyone would be ganging up on her. Ok...jeez I think we're being railroaded. But so be it. From what our attorney says, she was the laughing stock. She tried to say we lived 166 miles away...when it was only 78... the magistrate shot that down in a heartbeat. She tried to say there was signs of molestation to our son and that she had taken him to the hospital and as of yet has not got the results back... Come on!!! 3 months since I've seen him....the cops would have been on me like flies on honey long before now. Well when that didn't flie....she ordered a paternity test. Oh my... I was there day one , signed the birth certificate, he lived with us until she left numerous times and when she did, filed for child support and I haven't missed a payment. Would I be so dumb to accept that if I weren't the Dad. And why would she have accepted my child support if she thought I wasn't... Can the courts see through all of that?

So she wants a paternity test done.. Nothing else is working. So we have to wait 2 weeks for that to get back. In the meantime, we get to have him (my parents and I) on Saturdays from 12:00 to 6:00..which is better than nothing. We're greatful for that much.

So thanks so far to everyone who has been supportive to me to this point.

Furthermore, we need to get on those congressman and representatives about the unfairness toward Dads, who pay their child support faithfully but the Mom can keep the child from them, without any reprimand.

 

[FellFromGrace]

i agree with whitedoveh, dads are screwed legally... we have no laws to help, and most law favor the mother... when a child is born, its our fault, all our responsibility, and yet even a crackhead prostitute can keep her baby.... its riduculous... well be happy, whitedoveh, at least you get to see your child. some of us arent even that lucky.

 

[djohnson]

I understand in the past there has been leaning towards the mother, and even now to some extent. I however have seen very fair laws and things happen to make things more equitable. It's an individual case by case basis. If you aren't even seeing your child, then you have other issues than an unfair court.

 

[FellFromGrace]

I understand in the past there has been leaning towards the mother, and even now to some extent. I however have seen very fair laws and things happen to make things more equitable. It's an individual case by case basis. If you aren't even seeing your child, then you have other issues than an unfair court.

its nice to think that court systems are fair, but if they were you wouldnt have 95% of this forum filled with men trying to see their children. we get little say in how are kids are raised yet half our paychecks help take care of them. and as for me, the reason i dont see my son is because his mother moved away to another state... so now i have to spend about 2 grand to get see my son for a week. and fortunetly money doesnt grow on trees.

 

[djohnson]

There are just as many women here trying to get or see their kids too. You are just caught up in your own problems which has nothing to do court rules. You haven't even established paternity. You have let it go one for well over a year and done nothing to try and see your child legally. Things like that just doesn't fall in your lap. If you want to see your child you fight for it. You are blaming everyone and everything but yourself when you have done nothing (per you other posts) to try and get visitation.

 

[MinCA]

Let's say the DNA shows him to not be bio-dad. He gets no custody, no visitation, but will most likely be on the hook for support.

WhiteDove, e-mail me at victoria rose designs (at) hotmail (dot) com I have some phone numbers of people in Ohio for you.

I am a woman and fight for FATHERS' RIGHTS because most women WILL do anything to stop a father from being around. She doesn't want to be around him anymore, the relationship's over, so the children shouldn't have a relationship with their dad either. Oh, but she'll gladly accept your money, then b*tch that Dad is a dead-beat for never being around, even though she prevents it and will lie in court. The poor victim, her!