needhelpnow3321
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Illinois- My daughter is 12 and my husband wants to adopt her. We have been married for 8 years now. I left my biological daughter's father, let's call him Stan, 8 or 9 years ago because things were not going well and he was selling drugs out of our home. Our home was raided one time while my daughter, Stan, Stan's friends, and I were all at home. He got arrested, (but released) and I secretly started making plans to leave, but in the meantime, our home was raided again while I was at work and my daughter was at daycare. I moved away after he went to prison. He served his time and now he has been out for a few years.
I have no hard feelings against him and actually think he is a ok person, but definately not the person I want raising my daughter in the event something were to happen to me. Not sure if he is still selling drugs, (I don't think so), but his life is not together, stable, or reliable or responsible. I, as well as my daughter, want her to be raised by my husband.
He had not contributed anything for her until I finally after about 2 or 3 years after his release requested that he do so. I requested a minimal $25 dollars a week starting April 2008. He started in June 2008 paid $100 per month thru Sept. 2009 and hasn't paid a dime since... He was always late except for one time. In Nov 2009, I increased the amount to $50 per week moving forward, and he agreed. He always says he is going to deposit the funds, but he never does.
He has seen her a hand full of times since he's been out, and calls not very often, but calls on birthdays, Christmas, etc... I was never married to him and he signed a Voluntary Acknowledgement of Parentage when she was born.
I have asked for Stan's consent for my husband to adopt her and he said, "no". Is there anyway to go around his consent. What is considered proof that he waives his rights?
I have no hard feelings against him and actually think he is a ok person, but definately not the person I want raising my daughter in the event something were to happen to me. Not sure if he is still selling drugs, (I don't think so), but his life is not together, stable, or reliable or responsible. I, as well as my daughter, want her to be raised by my husband.
He had not contributed anything for her until I finally after about 2 or 3 years after his release requested that he do so. I requested a minimal $25 dollars a week starting April 2008. He started in June 2008 paid $100 per month thru Sept. 2009 and hasn't paid a dime since... He was always late except for one time. In Nov 2009, I increased the amount to $50 per week moving forward, and he agreed. He always says he is going to deposit the funds, but he never does.
He has seen her a hand full of times since he's been out, and calls not very often, but calls on birthdays, Christmas, etc... I was never married to him and he signed a Voluntary Acknowledgement of Parentage when she was born.
I have asked for Stan's consent for my husband to adopt her and he said, "no". Is there anyway to go around his consent. What is considered proof that he waives his rights?