Sick of deadbeat getting away without paying support.

[patty200]

What is the name of your state?What is the name of your state? Kansas
Me and my ex husband were married for about 2 1/2 years, and we have a baby girl that is a year old. 5 months after we were divorced we went to court for child support and he was court ordered to pay a lousy $127.00 a month. He owes total monthly around $900.00 a month on his four children by four different women, he owes over $40,000.00 in back child support. He goes month after month with out paying his child support, he went to jail once on two $10,000.00 bonds and he got out by paying $100.00 and that didn't even go to child support, he told the courts that he would make a payment on his child support, which he did a few days later, but he hasn't made a payment since then. I have never recieved a payment in child support from this man. My case has had no activity what so ever! His oldest childs' mother has contacted me lately wanting me to see if I could find out where he lives so she can have his butt thrown in jail. This man has only went to jail twice in the past four years for non-payment of child support, and those two times really weren't for not paying child support, they were for not showing up for court on child support. I am so sick of the system not working for OUR kids...... this man has gone for years with out paying child support, and nothing is happening to him, not a dang thing!!!!! If anyone has any helpful hints, thoughts, words, anything...... please reply! Thanks!

 

[kat1963]

You know Patty if you jump off the Empire State Building chances are you are going to be nothing but a great big splat on one of the 6th floor balconies. Why did you MARRY this guy knowing that he wasn’t supporting the kids he already had? Why did you have a child with him knowing he wasn’t supporting the kids he already had? This is risk you took. You jumped knowing full well what the consequences were. Now it’s up to you to pull yourself AND your child out of it. Obtain education/job training so that his lack of financial support has little meaning financially, emotionally or otherwise because the bottom line is this: THE DUDE DOESN’T CARE & THEY CAN NOT MAKE HIM PAY.
KAT

 

[nextwife]

Dearie, you knew full well (or should have known full well BEFORE going ahead and making a baby with him) what kind of "responsibility" track record he had. Consider your maternity no different than if you has used a sperm bank because the only support you are likely to ever see is that which you yourself provide. You went ahead and made a baby with someone who:

A. Already had a hefty CS obligation
B. Had been making babies with numerous women
C. Has a huge arrearage to also pay off
and
D. Had a history of not paying anybody.

 

[patty200]

OK, first of all I wouldn't change a thing in the world, I have a wonderful baby girl by my ex husband. Yes he is a piece of crap and a deadbeat, and I did state that *his ex* contacted me wanting to find out where he is so she can have him thrown in jail. I personally don't give a rats butt if he ever pays a dime, I am a full time working mom that supports my kids. And yes unfortunatly I married him not knowing him but a short time, yes that was stupid on my part and YES looking back I shouldn't of known more, but I am not going to sit here and say, *I should of done this and that...... ect...* I know I won't ever recieve a dime from him and I am actually ok with that. I didn't get on here and ask for advice to get put down...... forget that! Thanks but, no thanks!!!! I am on here for HER, not ME. she doesn't have internet access and I thought I would help her out a little bit.

 

[howamidoing]

OK, first of all I wouldn't change a thing in the world, I have a wonderful baby girl by my ex husband. Yes he is a piece of crap and a deadbeat, and I did state that *his ex* contacted me wanting to find out where he is so she can have him thrown in jail. I personally don't give a rats butt if he ever pays a dime, I am a full time working mom that supports my kids. And yes unfortunatly I married him not knowing him but a short time, yes that was stupid on my part and YES looking back I shouldn't of known more, but I am not going to sit here and say, *I should of done this and that...... ect...* I know I won't ever recieve a dime from him and I am actually ok with that. I didn't get on here and ask for advice to get put down...... forget that! Thanks but, no thanks!!!! I am on here for HER, not ME. she doesn't have internet access and I thought I would help her out a little bit.

If you could care less about getting money or finding this man.Tell the "other " mother it isnt your responsibilty to find him and get money for HER kid!You didnt lay in that bed when THEY decided to make the child.

 

[patty200]

Do you people help others or just criticize????????? I am asking some advice, I didn't come here to hear other bitch about what *I* did or didn't do, or what *I* should or shouldn't say....I am simply asking for advice! Thanks!

 

[LUVMY3KIDS]

Hello Patty, I am not sure how the cs system works in kansas but I do know that in VA, if he works at all they can garnish his wages, and his taxes. He obviously isn't going to pay voluntarily, but if he works the system should be able to track him down and take money from his checks. If he doesn't work then I'm not sure what to tell you. One thing I would tell her to do is call child support enforcement everyday to get results for her case if thats what she has to do. I would call them until they did something. Also, you can look him up on the internet through several types of searches if he has an address or phone number he can be found no matter where he is. I know this probably wasn't much help, but I hope some of it can be used and be helpful to you and this other woman.

 

[kat1963]

Do you have mental health issues? You didn't ask a legal question you asked for: "helpful hints, thoughts, words, anything......". There isn’t going to be a lynch mob going after the man. He isn’t paying, he isn’t going to pay, and he doesn’t care if he goes to jail. These are things both of you already knew. THEREFORE, what additional information could you/her possibly need to know?
Unless…you are harboring him eh?
KAT

 

[stealth2]

I am so sick of the system not working for OUR kids......

And I'm sick of women who hook up with sleazeball guys and then whine about it. Unfortunately, your daughter is the one who pays the consequence of your lousy decision to marry/procreate with this guy.

 

[patty200]

ok, first of all I don't think I made a lousy decision having my child, just because he is an idiot and doesn't care less about his kids I DO!! If everyone in this world made perfect decisions, DAMN.....we would have a perfect world. but instead we have to deal with idiots everyday. I AM NOT WHINING BECAUSE I DON'T GET CHILD SUPPORT, I COULD GIVE A RATS ASS. I am raising my child by myself and I am happy to do so, I would rather raise ten kids by myself then raise one with an idiot that can't or won't pay his child support. As far as him paying or not paying while we were together wasn't even mentioned, because that's besides the point..... anyways, I don't know why I am justifying myself to you or anyone else, screw that......

 

[patty200]

And I'm sick of women who hook up with sleazeball guys and then whine about it. Unfortunately, your daughter is the one who pays the consequence of your lousy decision to marry/procreate with this guy.

my daughter isn't going to pay *the consequence* of **** you A**.... she gets what she needs and it sure as hell isn't from some peice of **** like her father. I provide for her and screw those people that say.... *kids need both parents* SCREW that.... so I guess I will stop *whining about it* and not ask anymore questions, even though I wasn't asking for myself, oh well........

 

[haiku]

cheese. We need more cheese to go with this WHIIIIINE!.....

 

[stealth2]

Sure, pats. Come back when you want to know what to do about your daughter who's lookin' for love in all the wrong places.

 

[patty200]

Sure, pats. Come back when you want to know what to do about your daughter who's lookin' for love in all the wrong places.

screw you to mention my daughter, you have problems bringing my child into this argument, screw you!

 

[AHA]

You are a parent, stop talking/writing like a teenager on a high. You can express yourself without cussing in every sentence. Be a role model.