sleeping arrangements

[jenchelf]

What is the name of your state? Oklahoma

My x is spending the night at his girfriends house when he has our 4yr old daughter. I have a huge problem with this. Is there any way I can prevent him from doing this?

 

[Whyte Noise]

Only if it's written in the court order for him not to do it.

 

[momof3tboys]

It is in my divorce papers that neither parents can stay overnight with a person of the opposite sex unless they are married while the child is with them. Maybe you could talk with your lawyer & have them do something like that.

 

[imxoz]

Well Ive got to tell you, I have it in my decree, and my husband said that he can as long as they don't sleep together. My atty told me that the court is hesitant to get in the middle of moral issues. It sucks, but I think they can add it but will do little about it. It is almost like you have to prove psychological damage. Best of luck to you.

 

[DustyO]

It sucks but here it is...

When I had problems with my ex taking our son to another womans home and spending the nights there, and also leaving him with her while he went to work, I didn't know what to do. He wasn't being cared for by this girl. My son told me all about how things were when he was there. She didn't feed him, and when I picked him up he was wearing the same clothes I'd dropped him off in. ( His father was arrested durring this visit.) And I wasn't notified until the 2 days later when my ex's mother called me to come pick up our son. This upset me very much. So at our next court date I asked the judge to rule that he couldn't do this anymore. The judge promptly told me that in not so many words it was none of my business where he went with him and who he left him with durring his visitation time. I was confused by this and to this day still can't understand how my son's well being and whereabouts is none of my buisiness. Anyway... I can sympothise with you and hope things get better for you.

 

[DustyO]

Forgot to tell you

Another thing that hapened while he was with his father was he was forced to sleep in the same room with 3 other children of the opposite sex in the same bed. ( In Michigan this is supposedly illegal. ) Or from what I've heard it is. I'm not positive on this. But even if it isn't illegal by my moral standards it's wrong.

 

[doin-it-myself]

Sorry but most courts (NONE that I know of) don't go by morals. I don't see where it is any of any bodies business where their EX lays his head at night if it is not interfering with the child.

( His father was arrested durring this visit.) And I wasn't notified until the 2 days later when my ex's mother called me to come pick up our son. This upset me very much.

This isn't a moral issue this IS a legal one.


But what I am saying that just becuse you and your ex are no longer together he hasn't got the right to say who you are with and you have no right telling him who he should be with. Every relationship has to start somewhere. Sorry that is the way it is and that's life. You should deal with it and go on. Who knows that "other woman" may be your child's step mother one day and who are you to say not. I'm not meaning to sound snippy, but but usually courts don't deal with morals and they will not get involved in personal relationship unles it is harmful to the child example abuse

 

[DustyO]

You're Right on part of it..

As to where my ex stayed it was none of my buisiness. But when it comes to my son it's a different story. I do not agree with him being forced to sleep in the same bed (or even the same room) with 3 little girls. This happened while on a visit with his father at his then girlfriends ( now wifes ) house. ( which I'll add was his last visit in over a year. By his fathers choice. )I have never met this woman I mentioned nor do I have an urge to.. I've accepted he's moved on with his life and so have I. But I was under the asumption that it is illegal for members of the opposite sex to share a room. ( If they're children. ) I figured I had better put that in or people would be calling me dumb and saying uh duh where do you think babies come from? LOL Anyways.. that's what I was stating that even if that isn't illegal it is still wrong.


OK So here's my question for the law people... Is it illegal?

 

[stealth2]

Probably not illegal. As for being a good idea? How old were the kids involved?

 

[VeronicaGia]

You can go to court and ask that a restriction be placed on him for this, but realize that anything you ask for can be put on you too. So, when you have a new boyfriend, expect the same.

And, as someone else said, a judge can be hesitant to place restrictions on the private lives of others, as long as no law is being broken. In this case, there's no law being broken.

 

[DustyO]

Thanks For the Info

These three little girls were all under the age of 10 at the time.
And my son was 5 1/2.