Soldier not paying kids medical bills

[rmet4nzkx]

Just like I thought, this is a problem of your own making, not that mom is not providing for their care but you have chosen to get other care for your own convenience, that is why you chose to go behind the scenes and stir things up, that is why her commander has done nothing. If you chose to obtain other medical care when it could be covered by Tricare then that is your husband's choice.

Why are you so vindictive that you are continually looking for ways to adversely impact the mother's military career, isn't it enough that you have her children?
In 4 months you have started 33 threads all about this subject apparnetly you have too much time on your hands and are not liking the answers you are geting

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[Shay-Pari'e]

She is stationed at Fort Campbell, KY. The debt isn't owed to the Doctor's office...we have paid it in full. It is owed to the Dad. Would he just contac the IG office at her location? I am not military so let me double check this...he contacts IG and provides copy of court order and the bills to show what is owed. Then they will just pressure her to pay him? Sounds easy enough! Thanks!

The Tricare issue is another story. If she enrolls them we will use it as secondary insurance. We have to pay the 250.00 a month to my husbands work regardless to cover myself and him. The amount is the same whether it is the 2 of us or all 5 of us. I also can't take them on base where we live and we have tried to do the referral dr. thing with them in the past (Dad was military) but it was horrible. We would use it as a secondary though.

Your husband goes to the base, ...he get's a pass,.........he goes to "Pass and ID". From there he fills out a form for an agent letter. With that agent letter he will be authorized to take the children on base for Dr.appointments.

He was military, he knows this.

 

[mrsbrown]

Unfortunately, he can't take off to take the kids to their appointments. I stay at home and it makes more since that I run them to the dr. If she takes the initiative to enroll them in Tricare then great. That would be great for if she ever does take them for a extended visit. In case they got sick or anything. But we would still need to keep our existing insurance. I don't care if they are on Tricare or not, it would be easier and probably cheaper to have it even as a secondary, but we still provide insurance for them. This isn't a matter of making her enroll them (the fact she doesn't do it willingly says enough) it is a matter of her paying her financial obligation to the kids. The divorce decree states that the Father will provide primary insurance for them. Of course we are going to do what is convienient for us and for the kids. Why would we do what is convienient for anyone else? I am not concerned about anyone elses convience. Anyways, thanks for the help. We found out how to obtain the payment for her portion, how to handle the chain of command, and got some good ideas on the modification.

I am sorry if some of you are more upset that we are trying to find things out then the fact that she is a deadbeat mother. Maybe you should go give advice on a site that is more dedicated to parents deserting their kids instead of one where parents and step-parents are trying to raise them.

 

[rmet4nzkx]

Quit this campaign against the children's mother. She is not a deadbeat but you are interfering with her career and the relationship with her children by peseverating on these issues. Your husband is to provide primary insurance for YOUR convenience and you have to have insurance anyway so it is no skin off your backs. You have no intention of cooporating only interfering. Get off your control trip before you are asking us another 33 quesitons about your divorce!

 

[mrsbrown]

Rmet....how many divorces have you been thru? I am just curious. Because I haven't had to go thru any...which is why I am always on here trying to figure out how things are to be handled.

No, I am not interfering with her relationship with the kids. I used to interfere and try to encourage her visits. Offer to drive the kids to meet her, help them make calls and send emails to her. But it is a oneway situation and it is really sad.

My husband has to provide insurance because he is the primary caregiver and she was unemployed at the time. I am assuming the courts could tell he would be able to provide better for the kids. Doesn't it say anything to you that she CHOOSE to leave them? She CHOOSES to not call, write or visit? She CHOOSE to go months without paying child support? After a parent behaves like this it makes it really hard for the other adults involved to feel bad for them anymore. We feel bad for the kids, not for her. It is a sad situation, but it isn't anyones fault but her own.

Both my parents were divorced and happily remarried. All 4 of my parents/stepparents get along great. I know 1st hand how to create a happy and well blended home. I can't help it if she doesn't want to be a part. I keep in touch with weekly emails with her Mother...just so that side of the family doesn't have to suffer because she chooses to not be a parent. We send them pictures, drive them 7 hours for a week long visit, help them write cards etc...all things we enjoy doing because these people are their family and unlike the birth mother these family members actually make the effort to stay involved in the kids lives.

If you don't like that I ask questions, then just don't answer. If my posts really bother you that much..then you need to get some hobbies because you are getting a little too attached to the site.

Anyways, thanks to everyone else. We will see how it goes when the courts mail her paperwork for the modification. Who knows? Maybe she will respond rationally and it won't be a battle. That would be wonderful.