Sole legal custody?

[CourtClerk]

No, they don't take place in his home (his wife won't allow my daughter in the front door). He picks her up, takes her to the mall so he can buy some stuff for himself, feeds her fast food, and brings her home. I have asked him to set up an e-mail account to specifically communicate with me but he refuses. He told me that he can't "hide things from his wife". I've just been leaving messages on his voicemail or telling him in person when I see him. I make all the decisions anyway, I just wondered if I could take him out of the decision making process to speed up her treatments since I can't communicate with him.

I'm not clear how any of this is slowing her treatment. He has a history of letting you dl what you want with the child, so if there is a delay in treatment, that's your fault. You already know what he's going to say, so do what you have to for your kid and keep it moving. Why do you insist on nagging the man half to death?

 

[SESmama]

I can actually see why she would continue to contact the father trying to get some sort of answer. I was in the same spot and finally made a decision after informing him and now we are in a disagreement about our son's OT. I used to nag the ex about it to and he never answered me until the one day I said "I am going to do..." (this was after telling him what was recommended and receiving no reply) and the proverbial stuff hit the fan. I am not saying her ex is this way but I can see why she would continue to try and get any type of answer.

 

[usound76]

I'm not clear how any of this is slowing her treatment. He has a history of letting you dl what you want with the child, so if there is a delay in treatment, that's your fault. You already know what he's going to say, so do what you have to for your kid and keep it moving. Why do you insist on nagging the man half to death?

I'm not nagging him half to death. It states in our papers that "both parents are to agree on any course of treatment or procedures that pertain to the minor child". I just don't want to get dragged into court by him saying that he didn't agree to what I decided when I can't get a response from him in the first place.

And to frylover:
Yes, you are absolutely correct. I guess some people still believe that disabilities are contagious.

To majomom1:
I have a gut feeling that he was, but I cannot confirm my suspicions.

 

[LdiJ]

I'm not nagging him half to death. It states in our papers that "both parents are to agree on any course of treatment or procedures that pertain to the minor child". I just don't want to get dragged into court by him saying that he didn't agree to what I decided when I can't get a response from him in the first place.

And to frylover:
Yes, you are absolutely correct. I guess some people still believe that disabilities are contagious.

To majomom1:
I have a gut feeling that he was, but I cannot confirm my suspicions.

That is why you word your communications with him to avoid that problem. You simply send him an email outlining the situation, and what you feel is appropriate to do, and you tell him that unless he tells you otherwise by XXX date, that you will assume that he is in agreement.

When he doesn't respond, you go ahead. Of course, that means that you should print out your emails to him, with the full headers, and keep them in a hard copy file in case you ever need them for court.