spousal support

[karend]

What is the name of your state? west virginia

my husband left me in october 2002 for the 3rd time in our marriage. he is in the army national guard full time. he was put on active duty in november 2002, and then was sent overseas in febuary 2003. he left me with all the bills. he was making my car payment. he opened a seperate bank account and made his sister power of attorney. i do work, his income his 4 times more than mine. i need assistance in making my bills. i have tried to make him pay me he will not. i need help.

I have filed for divorce!

 

[djohnson]

Is he still deployed? Have you filed for divorce? Have you filed for anything through the courts? Are you not able to work?

 

[karend]

I supplied this information in my orginal message.
Here again are the answers.

I just found out today that is back in the states...

He is still on active duty.

I have already filed for divorce and sent his papers to him via certified mail.

He has recieved them..

And I do work... fulltime.....

I am having to make all the bills.....

I need to know what I can do to get him to help....

 

[djohnson]

Since you didn't continue in your original post and started a new one that is the information we go on. I don't search every poster to find out what they might have said in another post. If you have children, which you don't say, then you need to file a custody order and child support order immediately. If you don't then I don't think there is anything you can make him do. You are working, short term marriage, he is probably not going to have to pay alimony. The debts will be up to the two of you to work out in the divorce and until then it's each of your responsibilities separately to figure it out. If you can't afford to stay in the house, you will have to move. If you can't afford your car, you will have to give up. You can't make him give you money no more than he can make you start giving him money. You are both adults and will have to survive on your own.

 

[djohnson]

What is the name of your state? west virginia

my husband left me in october 2002 for the 3rd time in our marriage. he is in the army national guard full time. he was put on active duty in november 2002, and then was sent overseas in febuary 2003. he left me with all the bills. he was making my car payment. he opened a seperate bank account and made his sister power of attorney. i do work, his income his 4 times more than mine. i need assistance in making my bills. i have tried to make him pay me he will not. i need help.

I have filed for divorce!

p.s.

I copied this so you could see that this is your only other post and none of that information was put in here. It says he left you again, nothing about filing for divorce. It says he was sent over seas in Feb, nothing about him being back or anything else needed to answer you. We are not mind readers.

 

[karend]

i have been married for 14 years and there are no children...

My home is paid for. I have been left with all the bills...

i just found out today that is back in the states.... 6-09-03

i have paid my car off. with the help of my family....

is the power of attorney he gave his sister legal, since are still married?

sorry for the confusion.

 

[djohnson]

The POA is legal. No where do I know of it does one require you to make your spouse a POA or having a spouse keep you from making someone else the POA. If everything is paid for then you may be in worse shape, I don't know about your state, but he could fight you for half of the equity in everything. My best advice would be make sure you have an attorney and he knows when you want out of all this. Your hubby may be nice but he may fight for his rights too.

 

[karend]

the house is not in either of our names. (mobile home)

my car is my name.

his car is in his name.

i had to sign the mobile home over to pay bills.

it was in my name.

 

[Pam1948]

Karen,
I read your message, and the other person that answers You and I agree with that other person. I hope you did get your self a lawyer. Don't worry about the cost he will have to pay half of it anyway, Just charge it if you can, If you don't and he get's a lawyer you will still have to pay half of the Lawyer fee. Make the Lawyer work for you FIND ONE THAT WILL HELP YOU. Don't stop and Think GET ONE NOW. YOU WILL BE BETTER OFF,

 

[texast2]

Ex military wife here,,

Just in my case, this is what I did.
My husband (ex) of five years , we had a new born , which makes a diffrence im sure, walked out of the marriage, into his g/f house. We lived in military housing at the time. The first thing I did was go to his C.O. I to was left with all the houshold bills. And I was working full time.
His C.O ordered him to pay ALL the bills , and make sure that we had groceries in the home ect,,,,,. This continued until we went to court for our final hearing. His C.O has more pull than you might think.
If you are truely in need of help, and not just wanting to rake him over the coals, the C.O will help you.
AS posted before me ,,,,, you need a lawyer NOW.