summer visit

[Inquiry123]

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e:

Yes, by all means, send a reminder. May I suggest a pastel coloured stationary...something scented would be nice. And for goodness sakes, send the fruit basket, too.

I wonder why the court didn't have the foresight to require her orders to be printed on floral, scented stationary? I wonder why the court doesn't just send someone over there each summer to drop-off a dozen donuts and remind mama that her kids are real important and that she might want to actually give that court order a once-over while enjoying a warm Krispy Kreme.

Oh, yeah. Adults. Responsibility. Conservatorship. Possession.

Maybe your husband's ex doesn't want you to be her babysitter. Maybe a condescending letter would be just the ticket to piss her off and give her another reason to play her games. Or maybe she'll get the impression that you're really only concerned about YOUR vacation time and the reason that you're really sending a "certified letter" is to play your own games. I don't know her reasons for not being involved and I don't care. It's HER life, let her live it.

If you do decide to "remind her", please, don't send a copy to the court as suggested. What do you think they're gonna do with it? Frame it? Send the Krispy Kremes? Do you think either attorney would forward a copy to the court? Nope -- it serves no useful purpose. Send them a Christmas card if you want to stay in contact.

The TX Standard Possession Order is very SPECIFIC as to the timeframes and requirements for each party's possession. If she sends notice within the boundaries of the order, you'll know what to expect. If she doesn't send notice, you'll also know -- the default dates are IN EFFECT. Period. That's her choice.

If you're worried about your vacation, the only thing that really matters is that you send YOUR notice between April 7 - 15. Your order (depending on whether you live more or less than 100 miles apart) specifies what you must do in order to ENSURE an uniterrupted summer vacation (ie. no weekend visit by ex). And don't send a copy of this to the court either.

Nite, nite.

 

[Inquiry123]

Can't sleep...

One last thing...

DON'T send anything indicating that ex must confirm intent to exercise visitation by "no later than say...May 31st...[blah, blah, blah]," That type of unwarranted ultimatum is just the kind of BS you need to avoid. And it's just the kind of BS that will piss everyone off (yes, I mean the court.)

Attempting to place your own restrictions on a parent's ORDERED visitation is another dangerous "game" to play.

 

[casa]

e:

Yes, by all means, send a reminder. May I suggest a pastel coloured stationary...something scented would be nice. And for goodness sakes, send the fruit basket, too.

I wonder why the court didn't have the foresight to require her orders to be printed on floral, scented stationary? I wonder why the court doesn't just send someone over there each summer to drop-off a dozen donuts and remind mama that her kids are real important and that she might want to actually give that court order a once-over while enjoying a warm Krispy Kreme.

Oh, yeah. Adults. Responsibility. Conservatorship. Possession.

Maybe your husband's ex doesn't want you to be her babysitter. Maybe a condescending letter would be just the ticket to piss her off and give her another reason to play her games. Or maybe she'll get the impression that you're really only concerned about YOUR vacation time and the reason that you're really sending a "certified letter" is to play your own games. I don't know her reasons for not being involved and I don't care. It's HER life, let her live it.

If you do decide to "remind her", please, don't send a copy to the court as suggested. What do you think they're gonna do with it? Frame it? Send the Krispy Kremes? Do you think either attorney would forward a copy to the court? Nope -- it serves no useful purpose. Send them a Christmas card if you want to stay in contact.

The TX Standard Possession Order is very SPECIFIC as to the timeframes and requirements for each party's possession. If she sends notice within the boundaries of the order, you'll know what to expect. If she doesn't send notice, you'll also know -- the default dates are IN EFFECT. Period. That's her choice.

If you're worried about your vacation, the only thing that really matters is that you send YOUR notice between April 7 - 15. Your order (depending on whether you live more or less than 100 miles apart) specifies what you must do in order to ENSURE an uniterrupted summer vacation (ie. no weekend visit by ex). And don't send a copy of this to the court either.

Nite, nite.

hee hee

So simple, So straightforward...it couldn't possibly be the solution.

 

[ejmmolina]

lol yeah i get it. enough said. thank you very much you all have been very helpful.

 

[LdiJ]

If you do decide to "remind her", please, don't send a copy to the court as suggested. What do you think they're gonna do with it? Frame it? Send the Krispy Kremes? Do you think either attorney would forward a copy to the court? Nope -- it serves no useful purpose. Send them a Christmas card if you want to stay in contact?

Actually, there IS a purpose. The copy gets put in the file and is there when and if they end up in court over the situation. If there is an attorney...then by all means copy the attorney instead. Its merely to get it on the record that attempts were made to arrange the summer schedule.

Of course they could do it your way....and then if mom shows up on July 1st, gets the kids and then refuses to bring them back because her six weeks aren't up...then there is a problem. Forcing mom to pin things down is the only viable solution.

 

[ejmmolina]

I agree with Ldij. However is she waits until July first for her visit she wouldnt get 6 weeks. School starts the second week of August and our court papers say they have to be home 1 week before school starts. But in that case we wouldnt be able to make plans for our vacation. We will send a copy to our lawyer keep one and send her one. Does this need to be notorized or anything???? I wouldnt think so but you never know.

 

[Inquiry123]

Friends don't let Friends drink & post...

"Get it on the record?" "In the file" What record are you talking about? Maybe that DJ guy can spin it for me. What file? The eX-file?!

LdiJ...c'mon. If this ever came to a contempt hearing, a copy of the letter sent and a cert. return receipt would be all that is needed. So, no, there is NOT a purpose to send it to the court. Right? No need to go all Jerry Springer and send copies to everyone.

My point is that NO LETTER IS NEEDED. There is an order in place.

Please, I know from your posts that your becoming more and more familiar with the TX code...take a minute and read through the part regarding "Extended Summer Possession". No need to pin anybody down -- the order already pin's EVERYBODY down. No need for drama. Just follow the order...everyone will have a vacation.

What if mom NEVER brings the kids back? What if aliens attack?

To show that it's not "my way" or your way, I'm going to send ejmmolina a stamp for that letter. And enough spit to make sure it sticks real good.

 

[ejmmolina]

I understand why not to send one directly to the court house seeing as we do have a lawyer. But we will make sure to get him a copy so that she cant say hers said something different. Trust me she would do this. Would getting it notorized help us to prove its from us??? Or maybe just having a witness like their doctor or therapist sign saying they read it too and know what it says. Meaning so she cant make a letter and say its from us. Would this be a good way to cover our butts. She lies about alot of stuff, she tried to say we never let the boys call her when we can show our phone bill and you can see we have. We want to make this as easy as possible for ourselves. We know we still have to go back to court for our final hearing so we dont want any problems. With the way her case is going against us we know she is desperate to find something.


Another question- If she cant afford to continue with her case against us can she ask it to be closed??? Or is it too late? Since she is the one who brought this case to court if she "loses" (as in we retain custody) is she likely to be responsible for court costs? Sorry for so many questions.....