Supervised visitation?

[ecmst12]

A YMCA is not anything like a prison.

 

[Ridewithme38]

A YMCA is not anything like a prison.

I've never been to one, i pictured a big cinder block room where you are sitting across a table from your child with people standing on the other side of a big picture window watching everything....with maybe some toys thrown in the corner of the room and a 8 month old Christmas tree still standing. (i don't know where the Christmas tree came from)

What are the supervised visitation rooms like at a YMCA?

 

[ecmst12]

That is not what supervised visitation is like anywhere. It's just like regular visitation except someone else is there. Your ignorance surprises no one.

 

[Ridewithme38]

That is not what supervised visitation is like anywhere. It's just like regular visitation except someone else is there. Your ignorance surprises no one.

I think your confused about regular parenting time, I picked up my daughter outside of my parenting time last night, because her mom wasn't home and I wanted to see her. I picked her up(Can't do that during supervised visitation) we went out for hibachi(can't do that in the YMCA) got ice cream(can't do that in the YMCA) then we went to the park behind our house and played on the jungle gym(there's no park in the YMCA) after that we went back to the house and played frisby with our dog, while teasing him a little bit by squirting him with the hose(Don't think you can even bring a dog in the YMCA, but no hoses) then we went in the pool for awhile and splashed around, we sat on the porch after the pool and dried off while watching the sun go down, then got dressed and watched a movie with some popcorn(can you do that at the YMCA?) then dropped her off at her moms.

What about supervised visitation is ANYTHING like that?? It seems it isn't my ignorance that is the problem, it maybe your bias, or your really really boring parenting time, do you do things with your kids?

 

[gam]

First let me say, I would never hurt my child and ANYONE who would deserves the worst imaginable....

With that said, My daughter is my heart, my soul, my life....If I was forced to only be able to see her under 'supervised' visitation.....I'd absolutely lose my mind, I don't know what i'd do...i don't think these supervised visitation situations ever help, you can't build a relationship with your child when they are lead to believe that you are a danger to them...

IF the world was full of butterflies and rainbows and i got to decide, if independent therapists(paid for by both parents) decide a parent is a danger to the child, he should NOT see the kid until he get's his 'stuff' together...Supervised visitation is just torture.

No one cares what your opinion is on this, it is not what the courts view as "the best interest of the child". This site is for legal advice only, if you want to voice your opinion, then start a forum and do that. Your BS opinions only confuse posters who come here for LEGAL ADVICE. You don't get to decide, you have no legal background and you do not have a Mental Health Background, so your opinion has no merit on the laws or on what harms a child.

 

[single317dad]

I think your confused about regular parenting time, I picked up my daughter outside of my parenting time last night, because her mom wasn't home and I wanted to see her. I picked her up(Can't do that during supervised visitation) we went out for hibachi(can't do that in the YMCA) got ice cream(can't do that in the YMCA) then we went to the park behind our house and played on the jungle gym(there's no park in the YMCA) after that we went back to the house and played frisby with our dog, while teasing him a little bit by squirting him with the hose(Don't think you can even bring a dog in the YMCA, but no hoses) then we went in the pool for awhile and splashed around, we sat on the porch after the pool and dried off while watching the sun go down, then got dressed and watched a movie with some popcorn(can you do that at the YMCA?) then dropped her off at her moms.

What about supervised visitation is ANYTHING like that?? It seems it isn't my ignorance that is the problem, it maybe your bias

You could possibly do all those things on supervised parenting time. Maybe not at the Y, but somewhere. Depending on the order, supervised parenting time can be very restrictive or quite liberal. In my own case, for example, Mom can see our child anywhere and anytime I agree to, and for any activity I agree to. Last visit was at the county fair, and he enjoyed all the fair had to offer with his mom while I was nearby.

You should educate yourself and gain some experience before you "advise" any more "clients" (i.e. bash women and the court system on a pro-dad site.)

 

[Ridewithme38]

You could possibly do all those things on supervised parenting time. Maybe not at the Y, but somewhere. Depending on the order, supervised parenting time can be very restrictive or quite liberal. In my own case, for example, Mom can see our child anywhere and anytime I agree to, and for any activity I agree to. Last visit was at the county fair, and he enjoyed all the fair had to offer with his mom while I was nearby.

Oh, your order allows you to be the person 'supervising' that could actually be Good for the kid if you two get along(or can pretend to) while the child is with you....It's important, especially in cases of divorce, that the parents show that they still respect each other and can act like 'adults' around each other! Mutual respect between you two will lesson the conflicts later on with the child.

 

[LdiJ]

Oh, your order allows you to be the person 'supervising' that could actually be Good for the kid if you two get along(or can pretend to) while the child is with you....It's important, especially in cases of divorce, that the parents show that they still respect each other and can act like 'adults' around each other! Mutual respect between you two will lesson the conflicts later on with the child.

Its also often a relative of the parent requiring supervision that does the supervising as well.

The only time that a supervision center is used is if the parent has proven themselves to be dangerous either to the child or the other parent, or when the relative supervisors don't do their jobs properly.

Dad's or mom's mom (grandma) is a common supervisor but if grandma doesn't actually supervise, then grandma gets yanked as the supervisor. Then it might go to a supervision center.

Or, mom or dad is the supervisor, but mom or dad commits DV on the other parent during a supervised visit. Then it might go to a supervision center.

Or, dad or mom are so strung out/messed up/dangerous that it ends up at a supervision center from the get-go.

So, supervision centers are only used in limited circumstances.