Suspend Fathers Visitation or...??? Help!

[Eekamouse]

So he's had no convictions or even any arrests for drugs? Was he arrested for domestic violence?

 

[Eekamouse]

How is it that you were living with him yet did not know of his drug use and sales?

 

[Proserpina]

How is it that you were living with him yet did not know of his drug use and sales?

Completely and utterly irrelevant.

The court has already acted - and evidently Mom did remove the kids from the environment and Dad didn't bother to argue the point in court.

 

[Eekamouse]

I think this smells funny. With no convictions or even arrests, how likely is it that the father would willingly agree to her parenting plan? And she thinks she can get a protection order for her children against him on innuendos and vague accusations but no real proof?

 

[Proserpina]

I think this smells funny. With no convictions or even arrests, how likely is it that the father would willingly agree to her parenting plan?

I'm not trying to split hairs, but he doesn't actually have to say the words. The court will take his silence as tacit agreement.

And she thinks she can get a protection order for her children against him on innuendos and vague accusations but no real proof?

If this was something completely new and there were no orders in place, then hell yea - she'd need more than allegations. But that's not the case here. The court has already decided that Dad needs to do A & B before he'll get anything else. If he doesn't do A & B, it's not actually that big a leap to obtain an order reflecting that Dad's unwilling to do what's needed.

This is where a GAL isn't so much of a luxury, but a necessity. This is one parenting plan that needs to be very carefully worded, too.

 

[Ohiogal]

I'm not trying to split hairs, but he doesn't actually have to say the words. The court will take his silence as tacit agreement.



If this was something completely new and there were no orders in place, then hell yea - she'd need more than allegations. But that's not the case here. The court has already decided that Dad needs to do A & B before he'll get anything else. If he doesn't do A & B, it's not actually that big a leap to obtain an order reflecting that Dad's unwilling to do what's needed.

This is where a GAL isn't so much of a luxury, but a necessity. This is one parenting plan that needs to be very carefully worded, too.

The issue is this sounds like a default. If he disputes lack of service at any point this could turn in to a big mess. OP, how was he served?


ETA: Just read the prior thread. It contradicts what was said here:

Yes, a judge suspended his visitation pending the outcome of the CPS investigation. My CPS worker will be recommending once-monthly supervised visitation at the CPS office and I have no problem transporting my children to and from those visits.

The distance between the counties is roughly 2 1/2 hours.

I have a job opportunity in Shelton as a CNA at a drug rehab treatment center. In addition, my boyfriend and I are getting married next month and since he works and is established in Mason County, so we decided it would be easier for the girls and I to relocate.

 

[JuliaPauline08]

The issue is this sounds like a default. If he disputes lack of service at any point this could turn in to a big mess. OP, how was he served?


He was served in person. Return of service was signed and filed for every single item served to him.

 

[Ladyback1]

He is also verbally abusive to me during visits (I am to supervise them) in front of the kids (screaming, name calling, etc)

I have said this before, and will say it again:

The custodial parent SHOULD NOT be supervising visitation in probably 99% of cases.
It creates too many issues for both parents as well as the children involved.

A third party should be supervising these visits.

 

[Just Blue]

The issue is this sounds like a default. If he disputes lack of service at any point this could turn in to a big mess. OP, how was he served?


He was served in person. Return of service was signed and filed for every single item served to him.

FULL Px Hx is interesting.