teacher suggested adhd and medication

[teaart]

What is the name of your state? CO

Is it legal for a teacher to suggest that my son has adhd? Then after we tryed behavior modifications at home (which we think are working), she was still not happy and when asked what she thought a viable solution was she said, "medication". Is that legal?

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

What is the name of your state? CO

Is it legal for a teacher to suggest that my son has adhd? Then after we tryed behavior modifications at home (which we think are working), she was still not happy and when asked what she thought a viable solution was she said, "medication". Is that legal?

My response:

Sure it's legal. First of all, she's in a position of authority, and is with your child for a number of hours each day. Teacher's are trained to recognize troubled children. Besides, it's not "illegal" to have an opinion, or to voice it. This is especially true if your kid bounces off of walls.

IAAL

 

[tigger22472]

The teacher has also probably had more experience then you have of seeing children that have benefitted from medication. The common myth about giving children medication for ADHD is that they are 'doped' up all the time. Just with any other kind of medicine there are different kinds of the same medicines and different people react differently to each kind. Some work for some and not others and vise versa. You would benefit your child to at least seek a doctors opinion on this and discuss your concerns if there are any.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

we tryed behavior modifications at home (which we think are working),

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My response:

The "belt" works miracles for "behavior modification" too!

"Goddamnit, Billy! I swear, if you bounce off another wall after eating candy bars all day, I'm gonna beat the ever lovin' crap out of you!"

IAAL

 

[stealth2]

What is the name of your state? CO

Is it legal for a teacher to suggest that my son has adhd? Then after we tryed behavior modifications at home (which we think are working), she was still not happy and when asked what she thought a viable solution was she said, "medication". Is that legal?

As legal as it would be for her to respond to your question "how can our son get better grades" with "study more".

 

[Exsisto]

I have heard every teacher since second year preschool suggest that I have my son evaluated for ADD/ADHD. I went to his pediatrician and he voiced his educated opinion that it's nothing to worry about until first grade. Don't take that as you should wait until first grade if your child hasn't reached that level yet. Five years and four teachers later I have him evaluated. What a big whopping surprise. We have a diagnosis of ADHD and medication.

Now, my son doesn't bounce of walls and behavior modification works HERE AT HOME. Why? Because it's just he and I and I learned quickly to have the patience of a rock, but what about the classroom when mom isn't around and there isn't the one on one time and attention? He's a bit different. Three weeks on medication and there's no zombie living inside my son but whoa boy the change was almost immediate and it's a good thing.

I tried more study, diet has been modified down to close to being a vegan with little to no candy for the past eight months (didn't matter) I tried the belt last year and he made honor roll but what am I going to do? Beat him until he's 38 years old and still living in my basement? Boy! if you don't get off that damned Everquest game I'm coming down there with a Texas tailblazer you'll not soon forget! I've walked over your sleeping heap of a lazy arse at 2pm to get to the laundry room for the LAST time!

I got the detailed results of the evaluation yesterday in the mail. Innatention, apethetic, doesn't care, not sociable. At home he's frustrated, moody, cries and worries. Couldn't seem to win and I've been working with him at home after school and home most nights since he started school. Home every night since last summer. I could be stapled to the kid and it wouldn't have made a difference except it would be a little awkward playing tag with his friends.

I used to go home crying mad when a teacher voiced their opinion about my son having something wrong with him. Bite the bullet and find a way to have him evaluated and look into how much your insurance will cover and find out how many of the preliminary tests can be done at the school for free before the actual appointment.

I wish I would have done this two years ago. If this isn't the first teacher that has expressed any concerns don't wait until your child falls deep into a hole missing many of the skills that he/she will need to carry him/her throughout the rest of his/her school career.

stealth, I hear you, that's part of what I tried, it only heaped onto the pile of frustration for my son and myself as the focus wasn't there. He's been simply incapable of doing it.

 

[stealth2]

stealth, I hear you, that's part of what I tried, it only heaped onto the pile of frustration for my son and myself as the focus wasn't there. He's been simply incapable of doing it.

Actually, that's not what I meant. There is nothing wrong whatsoever for a teacher to suggest what might help. A kid who is otherwise healthy, intelligent, not going through a life change etc and is just plain lazy - yeah, studying more is probably a valid suggestion to flagging grades. Just as for a kid who is disruptive, has difficulty concentrating, etc - being evaluated for ADHD is a valid suggestion. There is nothing illegal (or immoral) in suggesting these things. The prudent course of action WOULD be to speak with his doctor and have an evaluation. If the doc can't find anything - one possibility has been ruled out. There's not so much stigma these days, so to refuse to explore the possibilities (not saying you did - you had a doc tell you to wait) makes no sense.

Hope that's clearer.

 

[Exsisto]

IAAL, I was a spanker too, I spanked him right into honor roll by the end of second grade. At some point the spanking and yelling has to stop, it shuts the kid down and NOTHING get's accomplished and the relationship suffers.


I also have a constantly threatening, bad mouthing, behind the back game playing, put our son in the middle ex. Should I medicate our son because of that? Hell no. I'm going with what's working. I have done everything I can think of except for removing him from our son's and my life completely. He threatened custody when I fail at this and it's all my fault anyway. Here, let me lay down so you can kick me again. I was diagnosed with ADHD but never medicated.

If you have any better suggestions on how to deal with my ex and how to stop his bull**** I will be more than welcome to hear it because yes, the biggest part of our son's problems are his parents. I've been doing what I should and need to do. I've been here working with him day after day for years. The only ammo I can go with is building a board of professionals behind me and our son to help him get through life as best I can help him, how easy will it be to prove psychological abuse without dragging a nine year old into court? Did I say psychological abuse? Yes, bite me.

btw, never read Dr. Spock, heard he gives a nasty neck pinch that'll put you out like false teeth at a bingo parlor.

stealth, picking up the dog dirt was my son's first chore, had it for 3 years. Caught him singing "what a wonderful world this would be" while doing it when he was 6 years old.

 

[stealth2]

Existo - BTDT with the ex. I wish I knew what to tell you as far as how to deal with it, but I've done it by the seat of my pants. Enough time has passed that his threats of custody are no longer able to send me into sleepless nights filled with tossing and turning as I try to come up with strategies to prevent it. I know I'm doing a good job with our kids. May you find that place, too.

 

[Exsisto]

Fact remains that our son went through the evaluation and they went strictly by the testing and talking with our son. There isn't any bad stuff said about my ex but plenty of good stuff about myself and how I should be commended and plenty of good stuff about our son. That's good enough. Don't need any reminders in print about narcissist boy.

I'm ready to dare him to take me to court and let's do a home study while we're at it, blahbity blah. I'm ready, I don't have to put up or shut up because I don't say much at all. I just keep my nose to the grindstone and push on. I'm also ready to tell him he can't enter my home anymore because I can't take the verbal attacks almost every time I see him.

Everyone's child is different and everyone's child rearing methods are different. I am lucky enough to have a mother still on this earth that remembers dealing with me. I had a very different childhood than my son does. My father would draw an imaginary circle on the wall and put my nose it in and make me hold encyclopedias in each hand with outstreched arms for up to a half hour.

I hear what IAAL is saying, I know that even with things getting better with the medication and I have eased up my son still whines and complains. I yelled in my car all the way out here to the other side of town to help an office get some web site stuff together. I was yelling at my ex, at my son, telling my husband how much I appreciate him being there for me and picking up all the dad slack and almost bursting into tears but sucked it up cause I have to get to work. I think I started by yelling at IAAL but I got his point very early on and moved onto those who need a little "mom" time. A little primal scream therapy on the highway. My head doesn't hurt as bad and the rock in my stomach that has been there for days is gone for now.

Fact remains, there's been a problem in school, I know what part of it is and the teachers all have been saying the same thing for 5 years. I haven't seen dad being such a problem until this last year, and I have tried several methods of dealing with it, including taking away the video games, spankiing, taking away the movies, the grounding, you name it, I have most likely done it and it works for a period of time and it gets him through until there's another favorite thing or toy.

 

[I AM ALWAYS LIABLE]

My response:

Would you ladies all agree that, for the majority of women, you're "nurturers"; i.e., that nurturing is a mother's basic "life script"?

IAAL

 

[Exsisto]

As long as by "nurturing" you don't mean co-dependant, yes.

lol, either way to a certain degree, yes.

I wish I would not have missed what your original post was.

 

[n_and]

What is the name of your state? CO

Is it legal for a teacher to suggest that my son has adhd? Then after we tryed behavior modifications at home (which we think are working), she was still not happy and when asked what she thought a viable solution was she said, "medication". Is that legal?

If I may suggest something to you OP, you have already recieved your legal answer, no need to elaborate. However, try to use meds as a last resort. If you do a google search on ADHD, you will find a TON of info on the disease, as well as remedies.
Good Luck.