I can't believe she is getting so much crap about this! Her ex is an ROYAL A-HOLE and you all are damning her if she does and damning her if she doesn't. She has been trying to take the high road, FOR HER CHILDRENS SAKE, for years and HE spits in her face for it! According to some she's gone too far. And when she stands up for herself and her kids, she STILL out of line! Jeez-Louise!
I'm sorry, but once a parent turns into a jack-ass I feel that is the way they should be treated in return! It is a decision TIHEY make at that point. In this case, it is half HIS responsibility to keep the relationship with his children going. The fact that he chooses not to see his children because HE refuses to come get them, or what ever lame excuse he comes up with, means HE loses out. It does not mean SHE is responsible for it! UNLESS there was paperwork filed when she moved that said she had to provide transportation, then she doesn't have to do it! She offered that jerk a half way split and he refused it. Oh well, he made his bed, now he gets to lie in it!
I don't understand why it is the CP's responsibility to force a relationship between a child and a JERK of a parent. Everybody seems to think just because that person helped make that child that they should have a part in their lives, but when that jerk of a parent chooses not to be a good parent then the kids are better off without them! And yet we all sit back and wonder why our kids are so screwed up! Good God! My ex is a jerk but my husband shows my son what a REAL father does for his children. It is healthier for my son to have no contact with his jerk of a dad at this point then is it to force him to go visit a someone who has decided to put his ONLY child on the back burner because he met and married some wacko insecure woman who doesn't really want my son around in the first place.
When we force our children to go we are not teaching them a lesson that is beneficial to them. We put the kids in the middle of a situation they did not chose to be in and then turn around and crap on them some more by forcing them to have a "relationship" with someone who obviously doesn't really want to have that! It's all comes down to control. In this situation especially this so called "dad" only wants to rule his sons life (like he wants to rule his ex-wife). Don't want to come see me because I've been a jerk for most of your life? Oh well, adjust your attitude and get over it because I'm the guy that helped make you therefore I get the decision to make your life a living hell if I want! What in the world does that teach our children? If and when our children wish to have a relationship with the jerk parent they can do it on their time and their terms. Not because the laws in the country are so f'ed up right now that they are forced to.
I too have ex in-laws that would stand behind me 100% because of the poor behavior my ex has exhibited these past 3 years and it's about time the judges and the courts took note of that! When EVERYBODY else can see the big picture except the jerk parent the courts need to stand behind the GOOD parent!
