temporary custody reversal

[stealth2]

ellencee's right - you'll be much better off focusing on the positive aspects of being together with you. 'Cause (a) judges hate to hear badmouthing of the other parent(s) and (b) none of what you've said really meets the standard of proving unfitness.

 

[tippahgirl]

That is not what I meant...She wondered off into the woods, had her father been out there she would not have gone into the woods and that would not have happened. He is rarely home anyway becasue of his job,, so if he is not with her she should be living with me where I can spend time with her and give her the attention she needs.

 

[tippahgirl]

my sister and I grew up with our father and it was very hard for us as girls, but we had each other to depend on and we are very close. I hate the fact that the only time my girls see oneanother is when they are at my house.

 

[stealth2]

Here's something a judge is likely to ask you... Was your ex working the same job (the one that barely has him home) when you gave him temporary custody?

 

[tippahgirl]

yes he was working the same job but not the same hours, he was on days so he was home every night, now he is on mid and night shift and since she is starting school this fall he would never see her, I can be at home with my children at night and give them the attention and dedication they need for school and security. My 10yr old is starting middle school and there are all the questions of female stuff already coming up that her dad can't answer.

 

[stealth2]

The change in hours might work for you. But I'm curious - you say he's not around for her now - she's not in school yet. Where is he when he's not working?

The "female" stuff may not get you far. While I don't disagree, I know several men who have had custody of their daughters during and through puberty - the argument didn't work for their ex-wives.

 

[tippahgirl]

well for some reason he tends to hang out at the police department or he sleeps all day long. those are a few of the problems that lead to the divorce inthe first place. It is not that he doesn't love her but he just loves his job more and is more dedicated to it than to spending time with her.

I know that the "female stuff" is a long shot considering how many men raise thier daughters today but my daughter calls me crying all the time when her father is not around or he is asleep. She is so sad and don't want to live there. How can I just ignore her cry.

 

[withonel]

Seems to me if the temporary custody was for you to finish school and you have finished school, then you should be able to ask for the temporary custody to be discontinued and your custody reinstated.

As they are both girls, with different fathers, I think it would be good for the court to hear the benefits of having both girls in one home with their mother, while providing visitation with their fathers on the same weekends.

I also think that presenting the benefits of the girls' being with you instead of presenting the horrors of the girls' being with their fathers would be a more advantageous approach for you to take.

File for a modification of custody with the court.

This looks like the advice you should follow. File for the temporary custody order to be changed, present your case and hope for the best. It's the best thing you can do for you girls.