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Never just quit. Because if you just quit, it is considered a voluntary termination on your part. Thus you are highly unlikely to be approved for unemployment insurance. Besides, that you quit doesn't make it a bit more likely they'll pay your vacation time. And if they terminate you, the employer has to show, in order to keep you from being approved for unemployment benefits, that you were fired for a genuine good misconduct reason.
Frankly, I don't see your chances of being approved for U.I. as being very good. Anyway, file, and they'll thrash it out in the unemployment system whether or not your behavior, having a relationship with a subordinate, was enough to give them a good misconduct reason to terminate you. It doesn't much matter what they did with another case and someone else a while back. Regardless of what you were told by the person involved, you don't have any personal knowledge of specifically what they did to the other people who were dating or sexually harrassing co-workers, and the situation was not the same, as someone pointed out, because this other person was not a supervisor and you were. The idea of prohibiting supervisors from having a relationship with someone they supervise is pretty basic to the work world. You knew it was a bad idea.
They were in no way required by law in an "at will" state to give you any sort of corrective counseling or warnings before firing you. If they didn't, on a smaller misconduct, it might help your chances of being approved for unemployment, but this one is pretty big, not something they're going to say was whimsical on their part to fire you.
If this is in their policy manual, and you have knowledge of the policy manual, signed off on it, were trained in it, and were aware of the policy, and you have not seen other people in your position allowed to get away with this behavior freely all around you, not to mention that you tried to cover up and lie about the behavior when you were discovered, it looks pretty much like you knew this behavior was wrong, that it could reasonably result in your losing your job, but you chose to go through with it anyway.
The argument that they discriminated against you as a young person, doesn't fly, as you've been told. Likewise the "she/he pursued ME, it' wasn't my fault!" argument isn't a good one to try. But go on and hang on until they actually suspend you or teminate you, and then file for unemployment benefits. Who knows, they may just huff and puff about it for a few weeks and not terminate you. Be very careful, and be looking for another job, anyhow. I doubt if you'll be well thought of in the future here even if they do keep you.
Frankly, I don't see your chances of being approved for U.I. as being very good. Anyway, file, and they'll thrash it out in the unemployment system whether or not your behavior, having a relationship with a subordinate, was enough to give them a good misconduct reason to terminate you. It doesn't much matter what they did with another case and someone else a while back. Regardless of what you were told by the person involved, you don't have any personal knowledge of specifically what they did to the other people who were dating or sexually harrassing co-workers, and the situation was not the same, as someone pointed out, because this other person was not a supervisor and you were. The idea of prohibiting supervisors from having a relationship with someone they supervise is pretty basic to the work world. You knew it was a bad idea.
They were in no way required by law in an "at will" state to give you any sort of corrective counseling or warnings before firing you. If they didn't, on a smaller misconduct, it might help your chances of being approved for unemployment, but this one is pretty big, not something they're going to say was whimsical on their part to fire you.
If this is in their policy manual, and you have knowledge of the policy manual, signed off on it, were trained in it, and were aware of the policy, and you have not seen other people in your position allowed to get away with this behavior freely all around you, not to mention that you tried to cover up and lie about the behavior when you were discovered, it looks pretty much like you knew this behavior was wrong, that it could reasonably result in your losing your job, but you chose to go through with it anyway.
The argument that they discriminated against you as a young person, doesn't fly, as you've been told. Likewise the "she/he pursued ME, it' wasn't my fault!" argument isn't a good one to try. But go on and hang on until they actually suspend you or teminate you, and then file for unemployment benefits. Who knows, they may just huff and puff about it for a few weeks and not terminate you. Be very careful, and be looking for another job, anyhow. I doubt if you'll be well thought of in the future here even if they do keep you.
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Nah, they gotta be getting rid of you because of your race. You have every qualification I am sure they look for in a supervisor.
