Termination of parental rights

[dolphinlover675]

What is the name of your state? Illinois

I am a single Mom of two great kids. My son has not seen his dad in 15 months. His dad does pay child support, but not the amount he is supposed to. The choice not to see nathan his dads alone. There are no court orders saying he cant. We do have an open visitation schedule. He would have to contact me and let me know he wants to see him and then i can set it up. I am wanting to terminate his parental rights so that is something should happen to me my son would not have to go live with a man he does not know. I would be able to say who he lived with then. (by will). I was just wondering if that would be possible and how to go about doing it. By the way in september he willingly gave me full custody of our son.

Thanks

 

[stealth2]

You will likely have a problem as paying child support is considered contact. So, legally, he has not abandoned the child.

 

[ARTSMOM]

As well as the child support issue, you would more than likely have to prove neglect or endangerment according to state statues. As frustrating as it is, NCP's can choose to not exercise their visitations. As long as they are paying support, even if less than ordered, that is not enough to consider any type of neglect. States are not quick to terminate parental rights even when there is neglect.

 

[slylyd]

Many might beat me up for this, however I have a full case going on it. In my state (so check on yours) even though support does equal contact. Support does not equal contact. BUT you do need someone to adopt your child. In Ohio it says one year no contact OR support. Support and contact are NOT always the same thing. (I'm not referring to Stealth) I'm not saying it's easy easy either...by any means.

THIS IS JUST A SUGGESTION FOR YOU TO LOOK INTO, NOT SOLID ADVICE. I am almost done in the completion of mine, and so far everything IS in my favor.

 

[tigger22472]

Many might beat me up for this, however I have a full case going on it. In my state (so check on yours) even though support does equal contact. Support does not equal contact. BUT you do need someone to adopt your child. In Ohio it says one year no contact OR support. Support and contact are NOT always the same thing. (I'm not referring to Stealth) I'm not saying it's easy easy either...by any means.

THIS IS JUST A SUGGESTION FOR YOU TO LOOK INTO, NOT SOLID ADVICE. I am almost done in the completion of mine, and so far everything IS in my favor.

You are right contact and support are technically different ... most states require no contact AND no support but like yours it is OR making it separate issues.

 

[dolphinlover675]

i talked to him last night

I talked to my ex last night and asked him to give up his rights. He is considering it. I am doing this so that if something happens to me my son can live with my parents. They are better equiped to care for him than the ex. I also gave him the option of just agreeing to let my son live with my parents if something should happend to me, it would be a legal agreement in court with a judges signiture. Is this a possible solution to my problem. He could keep his rights and my son would be in a safe and comfortable enviorment? Just an option I thought of last night. Let me knwo what you think.

 

[DonnaWright]

Can't relinquish.

In Maryland a person cannot relinquish parental rights unless there is another person to step up and take over (a step-parent willing to adopt).

 

[MandyD]

OP, a child is not property and cannot be "willed". You can put in writing your preference, but in the end it'll be up to the courts with whom he resides. They will make their decision as to what is in the child's best interest. As DonnaWright said, unless there is someone willing to adopt the child, it's unlikely your EX will be able to just relinquish parental responsiblity.

 

[Silverplum]

In Maryland a person cannot relinquish parental rights unless there is another person to step up and take over (a step-parent willing to adopt).

And since the OP is in Illinois, that point is moot...unless IL and MD law so happen to exactly coincide on that point.

With less than a minute of googling, I had this:
http://www.illinoislegalaid.org/index.cfm?fuseaction=home.dsp_content&contentid=1407

 

[stealth2]

WOT?!?!?!?! Googling for the answer!??!!?! What a concept!

Hey - anyone wanna come for a party? I've got a crew of 11 yo girls coming to drive me nuts so I'm thinking I may need to drive them nuts first!

 

[Silverplum]

Good luck, *dude!* (When you put pretty stars around it, it indicates a lady-dude. IMO.)

Wine box? Check!
Comfortable shoes? Check!
Fire extinguisher? Check! (Long story short: after a small kitchen fire - caused by mom - during one of her daughter's sleepovers, my friend ended up with an entirely new kitchen.)

 

[stealth2]

hehehe a *dudette*. I've been told that the agenda for the evening is:

Wait for everyone to arrive.
Have snacks.
Talk about boys.
Listen to music.
Talk about boys.
Make pizza.
Talk about boys.
Scrapbook.
Talk about boys.
Eat dessert.
Talk about boys.
Open presents.
Talk about boys.
Watch movies.
Talk about boys.
Talk about boys.
Talk about boys.
Talk about boys.

Do we sense a theme here? My eldest has already decided that a night at Grandma & Grandpa's is preferable. He's going to learn how to make choux pastry from Grandma. Have I mentioned I have a budding pastry chef?

Oh.... all that is O/T.

 

[Silverplum]

Hee! I love little girl parties. I always have such fun with them! I hope you have a blast. Oh, and I hope the girls have a blast, too!

 

[stealth2]

We'll have fun. Of course, I have half the girls showing up straight from school. And my girlie-whirlie told the others that they're welcome to come any time, regardless what the invite said. Oy.

 

[casa]

hehehe a *dudette*. I've been told that the agenda for the evening is:

Wait for everyone to arrive.
Have snacks.
Talk about boys.
Listen to music.
Talk about boys.
Make pizza.
Talk about boys.
Scrapbook.
Talk about boys.
Eat dessert.
Talk about boys.
Open presents.
Talk about boys.
Watch movies.
Talk about boys.
Talk about boys.
Talk about boys.
Talk about boys.

Do we sense a theme here? My eldest has already decided that a night at Grandma & Grandpa's is preferable. He's going to learn how to make choux pastry from Grandma. Have I mentioned I have a budding pastry chef?

Oh.... all that is O/T.

hee hee You forgot primp in the mirror (imagining talking to boys), experiment with everyone else's make-up (while talking about boys), pretending parent is horribly embarrassing (while fathoming them ever being attractive to boys).........LOL That was fun.

Last week's sleepover went well for my oldest & I. (Of course she's a tomboy so there is a lot more "Eeeewww!" re; boys than "heeee heeeee heeeee's! ") I find wearing pajamas and chomping popcorn helps me fit right in. Thank God I got skipped on my turn with the rolling iron!