Texas CS arrears

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I mean, it's 100 degrees here!

 

[jbowman]

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I mean, it's 100 degrees here!

Well, I mean just HOT!! Nothing to do with weather, baby!

 

[lovemygirls2]

You guys are great! I come here often to learn as much as I can about family law matters and I also get a laugh now and then.

Thank you

 

[GrowUp!]

Congrats. I'll second the thanks on searching out your old thread and updating it within.

 

[lovemygirls2]

Another Update

Well, I am not surprised that my ex isn't doing anything that he isn't forced to do... I had one other payment since my last post for less than the ordered amount and 2 more court hearings scheduled.

After the last one the Judge excused me from having to go to any more of ex's enforcement hearings because I need to be at work.

Then my ex didn't show up for the hearing in November. This after being warned by the Judge and the caseworker that they did not have the time or resources to continue to monitor his payments directly from the court. (He was actually trying to tell them he would rather go to court, in front of the Judge every month than to be on probation) He was advised that he would be put on probation after the November hearing and a probation officer would monitor his compliance from that point.

So I called today and he now has a warrant for his arrest for not showing up to court. I don't get it. He will never do what he is supposed to do. He will never have anything because he refuses to work a regular job, where he pays taxes. One that can be monitored. He absolutely will not. He will have no retirement, no Social Security, nothing.

All that, just to get out of helping to support the children that we chose to have while we were married.

Anyway, I think that they will just wait for him to get stopped for speeding or something and then arrest him. I doubt seriously that they will go out of their way to send someone to his house to arrest him.

I am out of ideas... Anyone?

 

[MrsK]

Well, I am not surprised that my ex isn't doing anything that he isn't forced to do... I had one other payment since my last post for less than the ordered amount and 2 more court hearings scheduled.

After the last one the Judge excused me from having to go to any more of ex's enforcement hearings because I need to be at work.

Then my ex didn't show up for the hearing in November. This after being warned by the Judge and the caseworker that they did not have the time or resources to continue to monitor his payments directly from the court. (He was actually trying to tell them he would rather go to court, in front of the Judge every month than to be on probation) He was advised that he would be put on probation after the November hearing and a probation officer would monitor his compliance from that point.

So I called today and he now has a warrant for his arrest for not showing up to court. I don't get it. He will never do what he is supposed to do. He will never have anything because he refuses to work a regular job, where he pays taxes. One that can be monitored. He absolutely will not. He will have no retirement, no Social Security, nothing.

All that, just to get out of helping to support the children that we chose to have while we were married.

Anyway, I think that they will just wait for him to get stopped for speeding or something and then arrest him. I doubt seriously that they will go out of their way to send someone to his house to arrest him.

I am out of ideas... Anyone?

Unfortunetly, when you have people who are truly set on NOT paying support....there is pretty much nothing they can do. I mean if they catch him, they will jail him, but he will be able tp ay X amt of arrears (it wont be the whole amt obviously) and then he will just go back to his ways. Sorry, OP.

 

[lovemygirls2]

I guess I really know that. I just keep hoping

Thanks for replying. I really do appreciate everything I have learned here.

Seriously, CJ and OG. I learn so much from you guys. CJ handles both of her ex's probably much better than I could handle it with as much as she has going on. And OG, seriously, you are great.

Ok, I know there is someone here who is really good that is from Texas, but I can't remember their username right now.

Anyway, great job guys.

 

[IrishLady47]

I guess I really know that. I just keep hoping

Thanks for replying. I really do appreciate everything I have learned here.

Seriously, CJ and OG. I learn so much from you guys. CJ handles both of her ex's probably much better than I could handle it with as much as she has going on. And OG, seriously, you are great.

Ok, I know there is someone here who is really good that is from Texas, but I can't remember their username right now.

Anyway, great job guys.

You never know. My X did not pay any support for 9 yrs (and never was consistent even before he totally stopped). To avoid garnishment and tax intercept, he worked under the table and didn't file for a refund. A bench warrant for his arrest was issued. Finally, when he was almost 40, he had to get a job w/health benefits. CS started again when my son was almost 18. My X didn't end up paying up his arrears until my son was 25!!

So all my X really accomplished was shorting himself of a more comfortable retirement.

 

[lovemygirls2]

Another update

Well, my ex got picked up last week on his warrant for not showing to the last hearing. The OAG informed me that his purge amount if $4,000.00. I doubt that he is going to come up with that. No idea what will happen.

Oldest DD is upset that their dad is in jail. Youngest just said they don't ever see him when they are there anyway. I couldn't really do anything but let them know what was going on since this was supposed to be his weekend. It really sucks for the children. I just don't know what is right. I know that it's not right to not support your kids, but it just stinks when things have to go so far.

They are 14 and 15 YO now and unfortunately are starting to see dad for what he really is. I had hoped for so long that he would man up and get straight and sober before they realized.

Thanks again for all the advice, guys.

Have a great week.

 

[lovemygirls2]

Yet another update!

So, my ex spent some time in prison and now that he's out really had to get a real job. Child support is finally coming in, in a decent amount and on time every week.

Who would have thought that his going to prison (unrelated) would have turned out to be a good thing. I'm not sure what the future holds but am hoping he stays straight now that he's out. According to my oldest daughter he is doing much better, not drinking or doing drugs for now. Maybe now that they are grown they'll get a dad. Of course, he had to tell her that he really doesn't have money for Christmas because I'm breaking him with the child support.

Anyway, for those of you who go for years and years without getting support from your ex, take heart. You may just end up getting that money at some point. Its too bad that it didn't happen while mine were still kids, but at least its coming and I am helping my kids.

I just wanted to thank the seniors here again. I haven't posted here much, but I read here at least weekly and have learned a lot from all of you.

Merry Christmas

 

[mistoffolees]

So, my ex spent some time in prison and now that he's out really had to get a real job. Child support is finally coming in, in a decent amount and on time every week.

Who would have thought that his going to prison (unrelated) would have turned out to be a good thing. I'm not sure what the future holds but am hoping he stays straight now that he's out. According to my oldest daughter he is doing much better, not drinking or doing drugs for now. Maybe now that they are grown they'll get a dad. Of course, he had to tell her that he really doesn't have money for Christmas because I'm breaking him with the child support.

Anyway, for those of you who go for years and years without getting support from your ex, take heart. You may just end up getting that money at some point. Its too bad that it didn't happen while mine were still kids, but at least its coming and I am helping my kids.

I just wanted to thank the seniors here again. I haven't posted here much, but I read here at least weekly and have learned a lot from all of you.

Merry Christmas

Good luck to you and thanks for the update. It's nice when things eventually work out.

 

[goddessoflubboc]

Congrats, I'm glad it finally worked out. I used to work for the OAG and I hated it bc we had so many cases (7500 each) that lots of them didn't get the attention they deserved.

Ironically my ex never paid either. "Kiddo" is 30 :/

Hopefully your girls can have some kind of relationship with him going forward.