The National Center for Missing and Exploited Children

[CJane]

We know what city she moved to and yes she moved more than 75 miles away. Here's how it goes:

August 2005: Mom moves to new city about 180 miles away. Relocation is granted by courts and travel is to be split between parents.

August 2006: Mom moves to another new city, but this time it is closer to dh, so he does not contest the move, obviously.

December 2006: Mom moves back to city where she moved to in August 2005 and does not provide notification of move nor new address.

So she's in contempt for failure to notify/give information. There's very good reason to believe that the courts would, in fact, allow her to relocate since they've done so before. Your husband needs to file a motion to compel her to reveal her information OR to have visitation set for pick/up drop off at a neutral location and allow mom to have her 'secret'.

 

[stepmom&mom]

Imo, the reason that mom is doing this is because in the past, she has tried to deny visitation and my dh has told her that he is coming to pick up his daughter anyways and will be at her house at XXX time. I believe she's doing this so that she can control when and if my dh gets visitation with his daughter, because if he doesn't know where she lives, then he doesn't know where to go. The schools will not give us information about if his daughter attends over the phone, so that is out. Plus, if he did file contempt charges, where would he serve the papers?

 

[fairisfair]

private investigators follow people every day.

 

[CJane]

Imo, the reason that mom is doing this is because in the past, she has tried to deny visitation and my dh has told her that he is coming to pick up his daughter anyways and will be at her house at XXX time. I believe she's doing this so that she can control when and if my dh gets visitation with his daughter, because if he doesn't know where she lives, then he doesn't know where to go. The schools will not give us information about if his daughter attends over the phone, so that is out. Plus, if he did file contempt charges, where would he serve the papers?

First, you're putting the cart WAY before the horse. Mom facillitated visitation, even with the relocation, for Christmas. So, you have no reason whatsoever to believe she won't continue to do so.

I certainly hope that you're just being difficult, and not really this clueless... if you don't think the schools will cooperate over the phone (and I think they will, but that's irrelevant)... then your husband needs to send each elementary school in the area a CRR letter requesting his daughter's records and including a copy of the court orders. One of the schools is bound to respond. When they do, he'll have mom's address.

 

[stepmom&mom]

Actually, I'm really not just making this up. The last school that his daughter was at wouldn't even verify over the phone if his daughter was at school that day (the day that mom called and told him she moved.) They also told him that per mom's instructions that he couldn't pick up daughter from school without a note from her. Of course this is nowhere in the court order whatsoever.

Look, I'm really not just being difficult. I admit that mom is pretty wishy washy. When we first got the order set up, she wouldn't allow him to see his daughter until the court finally forced her hand. Then she tried to move away so he couldn't see her and my dh had to go to court for that. It really just depends on her whim. For example, mom was supposed to have daughter for Thanksgiving Break but she called my dh the day before break started and told him he needed to come pick her up and that if he didn't, he wouldn't see his daughter again. Long story short, he did pick her up (why wouldn't he want to see his daughter?)

Then mom texts my dh while he's en route to pick up his daughter from school for Christmas Break and says that daughter doesn't want to come with him for Christmas Break. This is when he finds out that she has moved and won't give the new address. He did talk her into letting him pick her up for Christmas, but he had to meet her at a public place and he was told he only had 45 minutes to get there or else he wouldn't be seeing his daughter at all.

 

[casa]

Actually, I'm really not just making this up. The last school that his daughter was at wouldn't even verify over the phone if his daughter was at school that day (the day that mom called and told him she moved.) They also told him that per mom's instructions that he couldn't pick up daughter from school without a note from her. Of course this is nowhere in the court order whatsoever.

Look, I'm really not just being difficult. I admit that mom is pretty wishy washy. When we first got the order set up, she wouldn't allow him to see his daughter until the court finally forced her hand. Then she tried to move away so he couldn't see her and my dh had to go to court for that. It really just depends on her whim. For example, mom was supposed to have daughter for Thanksgiving Break but she called my dh the day before break started and told him he needed to come pick her up and that if he didn't, he wouldn't see his daughter again. Long story short, he did pick her up (why wouldn't he want to see his daughter?)

Then mom texts my dh while he's en route to pick up his daughter from school for Christmas Break and says that daughter doesn't want to come with him for Christmas Break. This is when he finds out that she has moved and won't give the new address. He did talk her into letting him pick her up for Christmas, but he had to meet her at a public place and he was told he only had 45 minutes to get there or else he wouldn't be seeing his daughter at all.

Give dh to Mom- Period. Dad can file contempt against Mom for the failure to provide address/contact information. It's a civil issue and not a criminal one at this point.

 

[BL]

The last school that his daughter was at wouldn't even verify over the phone if his daughter was at school that day (the day that mom called and told him she moved.)

Now there's one way to find out .
Contact the prior school , or school district ( with proof of Parentage ) , via letter , and State you have NOT been barred by any court order from obtaining school records .

Then request transfer information , or confirmation of the school the children attend .

Then send for a School registration form copy .

That should have the info. , unless false info was entered .

 

[Zephyr]

private investigators follow people every day.

that's what I was thinking, have a friend drive seperately to the exchange point, when mom leaves with the child, friend can discreetly follow her, jot down the address....then if mom doesn't return the child dad does have the recourse of knowing where she lives