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[crystalk]

I came here to ask for advice and got few people giving advice but more people passing judgment on me. Heck I think some of you would have found fault with a saint. I think when someone turns to a place like this, its obviously because they dont know where to begin, but to be judged like you all do on here is horrible. I'm obviously having a tough time in my life right now, and instead of geting advice, I felt I had to defend myself to people who dont even know me or my whole situation. You all made it seem like my ex was a wonderful man, and that I was trash for assuming he was out to get me with his actions. Who knows this man better, You or I? Don't judge people till you walk a mile in their shoes. It wasnt necessary for anyone here to defend him, as much as it wouldnt be right for me to put down your parenting when trying to look out for your child. You all dont know the half of what this man has done or tried to do, but yet you try to make me look bad. You should all be ashamed of yourselves, yes I am at fault for falling for such a jerk, but something wonderful came from it and because of that I have him in my life forever. Youd should all just give advice and put your feelings about a situation aside, noone is asking if you oppinion, just your leagal advice.

 

[panzertanker]

I came here to ask for advice and got few people giving advice but more people passing judgment on me. Heck I think some of you would have found fault with a saint. I think when someone turns to a place like this, its obviously because they dont know where to begin, but to be judged like you all do on here is horrible. I'm obviously having a tough time in my life right now, and instead of geting advice, I felt I had to defend myself to people who dont even know me or my whole situation. You all made it seem like my ex was a wonderful man, and that I was trash for assuming he was out to get me with his actions. Who knows this man better, You or I? Don't judge people till you walk a mile in their shoes. It wasnt necessary for anyone here to defend him, as much as it wouldnt be right for me to put down your parenting when trying to look out for your child. You all dont know the half of what this man has done or tried to do, but yet you try to make me look bad. You should all be ashamed of yourselves, yes I am at fault for falling for such a jerk, but something wonderful came from it and because of that I have him in my life forever. Youd should all just give advice and put your feelings about a situation aside, noone is asking if you oppinion, just your leagal advice.

So, I took the time to peruse your posts and their responses....

I see NO one attacking you, they were pointing out that he may have truly taken her to the ER to be checked b/c he was concerned.

You are correct, we do not know anything about him. Heck, we know nothing about YOU for that matter... But it stands to reason that YOU are involved in the situation personally, so your judgement may be clouded. It becomes very apparent that you take things too personally by reading your responses; and reading THIS post.

Suck it up, you got good advice and good opposing viewpoints. You aren't happy with the responses???

You got what you paid for.

 

[Veronica1228]

I came here to ask for advice and got few people giving advice but more people passing judgment on me. Heck I think some of you would have found fault with a saint. I think when someone turns to a place like this, its obviously because they dont know where to begin, but to be judged like you all do on here is horrible. I'm obviously having a tough time in my life right now, and instead of geting advice, I felt I had to defend myself to people who dont even know me or my whole situation. You all made it seem like my ex was a wonderful man, and that I was trash for assuming he was out to get me with his actions. Who knows this man better, You or I? Don't judge people till you walk a mile in their shoes. It wasnt necessary for anyone here to defend him, as much as it wouldnt be right for me to put down your parenting when trying to look out for your child. You all dont know the half of what this man has done or tried to do, but yet you try to make me look bad. You should all be ashamed of yourselves, yes I am at fault for falling for such a jerk, but something wonderful came from it and because of that I have him in my life forever. Youd should all just give advice and put your feelings about a situation aside, noone is asking if you oppinion, just your leagal advice.

I read through your threads and I have to agree with panzertanker (Todd). No one was attacking you. They were giving their opinions and advice based on the information that you, yourself provided. If they did not have all of the data, whose fault is that?

 

[BelizeBreeze]

And if you wonder why I never bothered to give you my opinion, re-read THIS post you made:

#15 04-24-2005, 09:13 PM
crystalk
Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2005
Posts: 9

I dont think what I said was said properly, had he brought her to the er because of her rash I would have understood completely. But, he brought her to the er to accuse my fiancee of molestation. The Dss investigator found no evidence of this, and the doc found that what they were claiming was because of abuse was because of their own neglect. ..

Did you ever hear the saying, "the pot calling the kettle black"? Did DSS or the Emergency Room Attending Physician report any abuse, file criminal charges or otherwise tell you that they had proof of such charges that you are levelling here?

Guess you are playing the same game.

Grow up little girl. No one is guilty or innocent in this matter.

 

[abstract99]

You are given an opinion based on what you told us. Honestly.. I would rather have someone help me see a different view on the subject that I might not be seeing instead of me just going into court unprepared. You don't want the advice then fine... don't read it.... but what I told you is not only a possibility but the more you post what I believe to be the truth. You want everything sugar coted and when you ex does not do that for you, you get all mad at him. I'm not here to sugar coat for you, take it as it is.

 

[crystalk]

And if you wonder why I never bothered to give you my opinion, re-read THIS post you made:

#15 04-24-2005, 09:13 PM
crystalk
Junior Member Join Date: Apr 2005
Posts: 9



Did you ever hear the saying, "the pot calling the kettle black"? Did DSS or the Emergency Room Attending Physician report any abuse, file criminal charges or otherwise tell you that they had proof of such charges that you are levelling here?

Guess you are playing the same game.

Grow up little girl. No one is guilty or innocent in this matter.

Umm, Ok here I was posting because of judgemental people on here, yes you dont know the whole story, I hadn't intended to drag into account the 7 times I have had him pulled from my house by the police because of abuse or the fact that after a planned pregnancy and to get married, and that he was cheating on me a week after we found out. I wanted advice on legal matters, to know where I stood, or what information I needed if what I had wasn't enough. I know that when she goes to their house, she isnt taken care of as well as she is here, is it neglect? I dont know, but I do know that dss has been involved with his gf and she has had her son taken from her in the past, do I know why? No I dont, do I trust her with my child? not on your life. I actually fear that they would do something to my daughter just to try to pin it on me, now you might think that is sick, but that is the people I am dealing with. Maybe that gives you a little more insite to the matter, maybe not. But his current gf, has had 4 restraining orders on him as well as the 2 I have had on him after he broke my finger and tried to throw me down the stairs with the baby in my arms. SO now that you have more information on this guy who someone thinks was being a Good guy by taking her to the hospital, I think he left the diaper on too long on purpose so he could do that!!

 

[abstract99]

Oh and another thing... if you are going to post you should give all of the information ON THE FIRST POST! You can't come back 8 or 9 posts later and start saying "well he did this" or "well he did that". It will only hurt your credibility. It doesn't matter if he did it because it was still not illegal. You should really go read the last post that I wrote. You probably won't care at all but I can always hope.

 

[abstract99]

I know that when she goes to their house, she isnt taken care of as well as she is here, is it neglect?

Once again... not necessarly.

SO now that you have more information on this guy who someone thinks was being a Good guy by taking her to the hospital, I think he left the diaper on too long on purpose so he could do that!!

**Sigh** You're right... happy now?

 

[crystalk]

I felt the need to defend myself because I came on here for advice and got nothing but condecending attitudes from most. I gave the information that I thought was needed. And yes now I feel like I need to defend myself because I came here for help and got very little of that, and only got everyone sticking up for my ex, frankly the WHOLE issue is 3 years long and I didn't feel it was necessary to pull into account our whole relationship, just the facts that were needed to get the questions I had answered. I am closing this, and I wont be back to this forum, thank you to those of you who actually gave me advice I could use, for the rest of you, you shouldnt be posting your judgements, because you DON'T know any of the real people involved here.