Tomorrow is Court, Help !

[AnonymousR]

anyone have a clue?

btw, my daughter is asleep on my lap im in heaven.

 

[Reyna7]

Ok

Well I'm back
I have my baby Tuesday -- 14 hours, and i drop her off the next morning
I have my baby Thursday -- 14 hours, and i drop her off the next morning
I have my baby Sunday from like 9am to like 8pm, which isn't bad.

Ralph, take this time and bond with your baby, do not use this as a HAHA I got more time. Prove you deserve this time, then as your child gets older go back and get more time. Do not play the get even game,.,,play the I am a damn good daddy game. It really is not a game so just be a good Dad and do the right thing OK. I am glad you got more time.

 

[karma1]

Well....

did you get a copy of the order from the judge? Usually, you have to stick around after court and wait for it all to be stamped, etc....and might have to go to another area of the courthouse to get your copy....

Congrats!!!!

 

[AnonymousR]

did you get a copy of the order from the judge? Usually, you have to stick around after court and wait for it all to be stamped, etc....and might have to go to another area of the courthouse to get your copy....

Congrats!!!!

Well the judge just said, ok thats it.. and she gave us a re-worked Mediation agreement paper (Our holidays stay the same.. as we sorted those out in mediation) But it added more time for me.. (last page) No one told either of us to get any other papers, they said we could go ..

And I'm not using this as a HAHA I got more time, I'm using it as finally I get to see my baby.. not quite as much as I'd like but its better than nothing. I'll stick to this for a while and then go back and ask for more time of course.. til its 50/50 which is how i think it should be.

 

[LdiJ]

Well the judge just said, ok thats it.. and she gave us a re-worked Mediation agreement paper (Our holidays stay the same.. as we sorted those out in mediation) But it added more time for me.. (last page) No one told either of us to get any other papers, they said we could go ..

And I'm not using this as a HAHA I got more time, I'm using it as finally I get to see my baby.. not quite as much as I'd like but its better than nothing. I'll stick to this for a while and then go back and ask for more time of course.. til its 50/50 which is how i think it should be.

You know...even though you don't have 50/50 for all practical purposes you almost do. You basically get most of the child's time three days a week.

 

[karma1]

In your papers....

there had to be something checked off on what this filing was about----it's a general form that is used when filing....that should tell you who got what as far as custody goes....

I suppose if nothing else, you could request a clarification of the order and I believe you'd have to file for that...Order to Show Cause? perhaps? not sure...

I didn't go back and reread your posts but are you paying child support? With this new order of parenting time percentage increasing--you might want to re-visit this, too, if support was figured on a different amount.
Basically, Ca uses your income, her income and parenting time percentage to figure out the amount...

 

[AnonymousR]

there had to be something checked off on what this filing was about----it's a general form that is used when filing....that should tell you who got what as far as custody goes....

I suppose if nothing else, you could request a clarification of the order and I believe you'd have to file for that...Order to Show Cause? perhaps? not sure...

I didn't go back and reread your posts but are you paying child support? With this new order of parenting time percentage increasing--you might want to re-visit this, too, if support was figured on a different amount.
Basically, Ca uses your income, her income and parenting time percentage to figure out the amount...

No, the mother isn't making me pay child support. She wants to just tell me what the baby needs and I'll get it for her all the time, which is fair I guess. It shouldn't cost as much as the courts would make me pay, but I know my babys mother wouldn't use it all on my baby.. It was her idea too .

But if she took me in for CS, I would definately get a attorney for myself, and get more time than her.. She knows this, and probably knows she wouldn't get more than me.. so she wants to agree between ourselves, about the CS.

 

[USMOM]

Look, we are talking about a person, your daughter. Why are you talking about control and 50/50? She can't be cut in two and survive. You need to get over your control issues and see what you can do to provide what you can for this child. You still live with your parents. If you need control, control your own life so that you can offer this child something. If you don't, one day she will be a teenager that will teach you a little bit about control. Set aside mom's rights and dad's rights and think about child's rights. My 12 year old's father stayed on the control route. Now resents him for it. She is a terrific person and a good member of her community. When we deal with issues of her life it is a good discussion. he only visits her twice a year but the little devil gives him her best every time. She won't discuss anything with him because the issue is control. With me, she is as reasonable as a twelve year old could be because the issue is what can we do to give her opportunities and a healthy life. Let go of your interests, because every time I had to suck it up and do the right thing was well worth having a daughter who trusts me.