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willc88
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What is the name of your state? Child is in Virginia.
This is a bit complex as most of these issues are so I'll try to get all the details in the right order.
My daughter is now recently 8 years old. She and her mother live 5 hours away from me. When I go get my daughter for visitation it literally takes up 20 hours for both trips there and back for just a couple of days at a time like Thanksgiving we just passed.
My ex only drives about 3 miles from her house to where we agree to drop her off and pick her up for these visits. During our last two visits my daughter has been begging for me to let her stay at my home (I am married now with two other children that she loves and love her very much). I know if I mention it to her mother it will cause nothing but problems.
The original visitation order was set in a county that is exactly the middle point of this trip I have to make. At the time I moved here it was for work so I could support my family and pay my support as agreed with Viriginia. Shortly after that her mother moved 2 1/2 hours in the other direction and increased my drive to this great distance. This has been going on for over 2 years now with her mother refusing to move an inch to help me with the travel time. This past weekend I put 1,092 miles on my van to get my daughter for the holiday weekend.
Don't take this as me complaining about getting my daughter because I would do whatever it takes to see her but at this distance the holidays and summer break are all I get to see her.
My question is basically what can I do to try and get a judge or court to do to understand the amount of expense and time this is costing me and her mother doesn't move an inch?
Each and every time I have been to court for any reason she becomes completely unbearable about visitation dates, times, etc. Due to the distance and my work I can't just drop everything and drive 20 hours every weekend to get her. I've been looking for work closer to her with no luck so far and I don't want to take a pay cut to get closer because I'm sure the support amount wouldn't go down. I've had it reviewed twice since my other kids were born and it's went up both times. Needless to say my wife is none too happy about all of this.
I just want what's best for everyone and that the travel time be fair or at least some give in something. I feel like I get the entire ream because she claims my daughter on her taxes (she has no job), she doesn't travel to assist me with visitation (has a new car), and trys to blackmail me with no visitation if I don't do what she wants.
Thanks in advance for any assistance you can give.
This is a bit complex as most of these issues are so I'll try to get all the details in the right order.
My daughter is now recently 8 years old. She and her mother live 5 hours away from me. When I go get my daughter for visitation it literally takes up 20 hours for both trips there and back for just a couple of days at a time like Thanksgiving we just passed.
My ex only drives about 3 miles from her house to where we agree to drop her off and pick her up for these visits. During our last two visits my daughter has been begging for me to let her stay at my home (I am married now with two other children that she loves and love her very much). I know if I mention it to her mother it will cause nothing but problems.
The original visitation order was set in a county that is exactly the middle point of this trip I have to make. At the time I moved here it was for work so I could support my family and pay my support as agreed with Viriginia. Shortly after that her mother moved 2 1/2 hours in the other direction and increased my drive to this great distance. This has been going on for over 2 years now with her mother refusing to move an inch to help me with the travel time. This past weekend I put 1,092 miles on my van to get my daughter for the holiday weekend.
Don't take this as me complaining about getting my daughter because I would do whatever it takes to see her but at this distance the holidays and summer break are all I get to see her.
My question is basically what can I do to try and get a judge or court to do to understand the amount of expense and time this is costing me and her mother doesn't move an inch?
Each and every time I have been to court for any reason she becomes completely unbearable about visitation dates, times, etc. Due to the distance and my work I can't just drop everything and drive 20 hours every weekend to get her. I've been looking for work closer to her with no luck so far and I don't want to take a pay cut to get closer because I'm sure the support amount wouldn't go down. I've had it reviewed twice since my other kids were born and it's went up both times. Needless to say my wife is none too happy about all of this.
I just want what's best for everyone and that the travel time be fair or at least some give in something. I feel like I get the entire ream because she claims my daughter on her taxes (she has no job), she doesn't travel to assist me with visitation (has a new car), and trys to blackmail me with no visitation if I don't do what she wants.
Thanks in advance for any assistance you can give.
