Travel Expenses

[stealth2]

That's pretty much where I am. I don't mind paying my share of the trip. I do mind his deciding on his own how things are gonna go.

Heh. I had to laugh. The mediator, back in May, told me that I should pay 50% of the cost of airfare to get the kids back for Mother's Day. I wasn't happy about it, but I did it. Then when Dad screwed me by refusing to put the kids on the flight back in August and I ended up driving to get them - I mentioned to the mediator that I thought it only reasonable that the ex pay for half of that fare. The mediator's response? He whined to the lawyers that we were asking him to deal with financial stuff.

 

[tigger22472]

Well, that proves that htis isn't the first incident you have had dealing with the travel expenses. I would definately talk to that lawyer and get it straightened out now while all of this is going on.

 

[LdiJ]

No why he should make the reservations and take it from you CS. I'd keep it separate. Or continue to do it the way you did before where you made the reservation and he paid you half back. Why all of the sudden does he want to change it??

Either he is a control freak like she said...or he needs extra money...puts the reservations on his credit cards and then gets to keep the cash he normally would have paid in child support. He avoids the cash advance fees that way...sigh.

 

[tigger2two]

see im not so nice. If he was the one that moved i would say uh no i will pay the normal fee of travel as set up in the first court order, when you lived 6 hours closer. And when he fussed i would say show me where it says that i am to pay half if you move any farther away???

I would only do that after he started being pig headed and stupid as he already has LOL!! I refuse to let my ex control me anymore. And man when i decided that i felt soooooo much better LOL!!!!

 

[stealth2]

Either he is a control freak like she said...or he needs extra money...puts the reservations on his credit cards and then gets to keep the cash he normally would have paid in child support. He avoids the cash advance fees that way...sigh.

He makes over $200k/yr.

 

[LdiJ]

He makes over $200k/yr.

Ok...then control freak it is...sigh. I am so sorry for you, there is nothing worse than having to deal with a control freak. What's more, sadly, this won't end for your kids when they become adults. Dad will try to control them with money when they are older...and probably will even try to control them through the grandkids as well.

If a true "control freak" loses control of his/her adult children they will often drag their children through court on grandparent visitation issues. It is VERY classic. Its a way to continue to exert control.

If you aren't in the teenage years yet be prepared for dad to attempt to exercise alot of "control" through monetary promises to the kids...again, sigh....

 

[stealth2]

Luckily, the kids are very well grounded when it comes to money, and I really don't see anything changing in that regard. They're much more likely to take what they do have and, instead of buying something big for themselves, get themselves something token and then "sharing the wealth" with others. Either through gifts, donating the money to charity, etc.