Unmarried Father's rights-drunk mom

[Antigone*]

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The lady sure does use the word "drunk" alot.

Maybe cuz' she's drunk

 

[Just Blue]

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Maybe cuz' she's drunk

Just to make up for the lost like on the deleted thread!

 

[130munch]

Wow....are all the moderators here so snarky and condescending?

by the way....there is a court order for custody and visitation and despite many police reports the court went with joint custody with mom winning primary custody despite her multiple drunken run ins with the police.

You may be in the legal field, but your morals are pretty warped here. Attacks vs helpful advice on a forum board you have voluntarily decided to view and comment on. Why exactly are you even doing it?i

 

[LdiJ]

What is the name of your state (only U.S. law)? Illinois

This unmarried couple are both 25. Dad is responsible, mom is bipolar angry drunk who acts more like an 18 yr old on spring break whenever she can. She could careless about the baby when she wants to go out drinking, which lately is quite often. Dad stays home while she goes out, only to have her come back at 3am smashed & ready to fight.

There is no custody agreement, but dad has signed birth certificate. If he calls police during one of this mom's drunker outbursts, will police let him leave for the night with baby? If he cannot leave with baby because there is no custody agreement, where does that leave him and the baby? Are they both supposed to just deal with the drunken mom? It's her apt they live in - he's not on the lease. She gets subsidised housing. If he wants to leave so he does not have to deal with drunken mom, would police really leave baby there with drunken mom?

Suggestions? Advice? Thanks so much.

Legally, an unwed mother has sole legal and physical custody until a court says otherwise. Unfortunately your son is living in the apartment illegally if its subsidized housing, so that presents another problem.

The police might not get involved at all unless there is actual domestic violence, and in that scenario its not certain who the police would arrest. Whether or not the police would leave the baby there with mom really depends on just how drunk mom is. Its not illegal to drink and have children.

Basically, there is not a clearcut answer that you can be given.

 

[130munch]

Leif: the other moderators pulled my prior post to further attack me, which seems to be all they can do.

My son is no longer with the mom. The courts awarded her primary custody....his lawyer said drinking is legal so unless the mom was neglectful or abusive he would not win custody easily. He lives with me now.

 

[KarmasPuppy]

Wow....are all the moderators here so snarky and condescending?

by the way....there is a court order for custody and visitation and despite many police reports the court went with joint custody with mom winning primary custody despite her multiple drunken run ins with the police.

You may be in the legal field, but your morals are pretty warped here. Attacks vs helpful advice on a forum board you have voluntarily decided to view and comment on. Why exactly are you even doing it?i

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[130munch]

This is no justification for the nasty attacks.

 

[KarmasPuppy]

This is no justification for the nasty attacks.

Don't post your/someone else's business on the Interweb if you don't want opinions.

 

[130munch]

It's an "advice" forum......correct? I'm just stating my opinion on the attacks....there is absolutely no justification for it.

 

[Proserpina]

Are you going to sit here complaining all afternoon?

At least let us know so we can all grab a drink and some snacks.

 

[130munch]

Your snide response just reinforces my point.

 

[stealth2]

Darlin'? It is not your legal situation. So it is time for you to suck it up, buttercup.

 

[130munch]

Thank you for confirming my point is accurate with yet another example of snide condescending remarks aimed not at trying to help, but only to insult. It's an advice board, not an attack board.

 

[Banned_Princess]

Thank you for confirming my point is accurate with yet another example of snide condescending remarks aimed not at trying to help, but only to insult. It's an advice board, not an attack board.

There is nothing we can do to "help"

mom has custody, dispite her drinking. thats it. bottom line. end of story. get used to it. mind your business.